Whew you want someone to tell you how it is without sugarcoating it? This is your book! I saw this book and went & followed Mj Harris on TikTok immediately. I knew what I was getting into before I read the first page. Mj tells you how to strip away the bullsh!t and get to the root of the issue.

Not all the chapters were for me and that’s ok. The no nonsense tone of the book really resonated with me.

Thank you Netgalley!
I am not normally a 'self help' reader but I wanted to try something new and as someone with a sailor's mouth: this spoke to me.
Some of these chapters are definitely far outside of my wheelhouse, and some of the focus on money is just not my thing. I don't know if the majority of the book is anything revolutionary. But the chapters "Core Competency", "Am I an asshole" and "You are Enough" just absolutely hit it out of the park. So this is a solid 3 stars for me

You know how you have maybe one friend that is going to tell you the truth, even though it would upset you? Maybe they yell at you. Maybe they hurt your feelings (not with intention, but because they are not going to stand for you lying to yourself about things anymore).
That's this. In a book.
In the world of self-help, we're all looking for a silver bullet that will tell us (FINALLY) how to get over our own hangups and get to what matters: getting the most out of life.
Where they fail (and this didn't) is that they're telling us the same stuff. Over and over again. However, this book yells it.
If that's what you need, this book has it.
Solid 4.6!

This book is a straightforward self-help book with a comical twist. The author lays out that people need to set and enforce boundaries. I've never heard of Harris, but apparently he does have a large following. However, I would've liked the book to include a bit more on who he is and why I should listen to his advice. Some things were a bit repetitive or overdone, such as the use of italics, which became quite annoying. Not everything is super important enough to highlight in this manner. (I'm an editor in my day job, so perhaps this wouldn't be as annoying to other readers as it was to me.) Overall, this isn't your typical self-help book.

MJ Harris is my brother and my best friend in my head. I became aware of this first-time author through his vibrant social media platform. This man has been motivating, encouraging and cheerleading us for years now and it was about time that he put those nuggets into a book for us! This book was easy to read. There is a ton of good advice in the book and plenty that applied to me personally. It definitely had me thinking more about my patterns and how I view myself. #netgalley #getthef*ckoutyourownway

I requested this book on NetGalley because I love a good motivational self-help book. I knew absolutely nothing about the author beforehand so the book was my first introduction to MJ Harris. There is a ton of good advice in the book and plenty that applied to me personally. It definitely had me thinking more about my patterns and how I view myself. I loved it and can't wait to see what else MJ Harris has available.

I received a copy of this book in exchange for my honest feedback. Thank you NetGalley.

This is a self-help book but with a... comical spin at times.
I'm not a huge fan of self-help books typically. Most of the time it feels like i'm being talked down in a way. and while they're all mostly relatable in some way, it just doesn't' usually hit home for me or isn't enjoyable to read.

This one felt a little different. I actually enjoyed reading it, found some helpful tips, and wouold definitely recommend it to others.

I liked this, but didn't love. The advice was sound and I liked the straightforwardness of it all. No beating around the bush, no hugs through the page, just flat out telling you that you need to make and enforce some boundaries even if you don't really want to because it's hard to. That resonates with me and my personality, so I liked the book's approach.

Where I thought there could be improvements would be with the lack of connection to MJ Harris. I personally don't know who he is and think that if in the introduction he talked more about his life and give a little biography that would have greatly enhanced the book. Then the anecdotes later would have hit a bit more firmly. Maybe the assumption is everyone reading is familiar with him, but as someone who was not it took me a quarter of the book to get an understanding of who exactly he was.

And this is just a nitpick, but WAY TOO MANY words were italicized. To the point it was becoming infuritating. I get a few sentences here and there, to highlight an important point. I get every few paragraphs having a single word in a sentence to demonstrate how that word is important. But LITERALLY every other sentence had a word that was italicized. While it helped me more easily connect to the tone of voice Harris was writing it, it slowed down my ability to read quickly and also was just annoying and unnecessary. Maybe this is a personal gripe and it won't annoy anyone else, but it felt wildly overused.

Thank you to Netgalley, MJ Harris, and Legacy Lit for a free eARC of this book in exchange for my personal opinion.

Move over Dave Goggins there's a new sherif in town. Anyone who has cooked me long enough KNOWS I'm a Dave Goggins STAN! but this book..... this author.... whew! OUT OF THE GATE this book had me looking at my life like, "What can I change right now at 1204 in the morning?!" This book was so real and so raw and so motivating! All because of something the mother of this author said, this wonderful book was written and put out.
This book takes a no holds bar approach to addressing things in your life that need to be changed that you have put yourself in the way of. Get out of your own way is the message that I got. And it has some truths in it, where you just have to sit and feel what the words are saying because those feelings are there for a reason. It's one of the books that I have read that really makes me take a step back and sit in my feelings and process the feelings that I'm feeling and slow down.
There's so many authors who writes up Health books and I feel like maybe they've never really gone through anything like what I've gone through. This was not that book. I felt seen, I felt heard, and I felt like there were pieces that really put me at a dead stop and made me think about what I had just read.
If I could rate this book 10/10 I would. But I can't, so 5/5 it is!