Done Being Single
A Late Bloomer's Guide to Love
by Treva Brandon Scharf
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Pub Date Mar 21 2023 | Archive Date Mar 21 2023
Smith Publicity | Greenleaf Book Group Press
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Description
The Tell-All that Helps All: You’re Never too Old, and It’s Never Too Late
Treva Brandon Scharf paid her dues in the dating world. She survived countless romances, relationships, boyfriends, breakups, heartaches, and heartbreaks. She loved and lost, dumped and got dumped, and finally became a first-time bride at the age of 51. Scharf, a gifted blogger and writer, is ready to share all the juicy details of her long road to the altar.
Her debut book is part self-help/dating advice, part-memoir, and 100% delightful. If you can stop laughing long enough, you’ll realize you’ve just met a one-of-a-kind force of nature who has managed to acquire an invaluable store of knowledge on life, love, and personal growth. Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer’s Guide to Love is a universal source of inspiration and practical advice.
It doesn’t matter if you’re a late bloomer or early blossomer; male or female; single or partnered; millennial or midlifer. It doesn’t matter if you’re divorced, widowed, new on the market, stuck in dating hell, dreaming of getting married, or just dreaming of getting laid, there’s something for everyone.
If you’re freaking out in your 20s, hyperventilating in your 30s, living a life of not-so-quiet desperation in your 40s (like Treva was), or needing a jump start in your 50s and beyond, she's got you covered.
As a late bloomer, here’s what she's discovered: You don’t need to have it all figured out by a certain age. There’s no date to be married by or deadline for achievement. Just because you don’t hit your benchmarks in a timely fashion—or hit them at all—doesn’t make you a failure; it just makes you you. Even if you’re not technically a late bloomer, there’s always time to become who you really are or want to be. But the truth is, everyone is a late bloomer in some way. We’re all works in progress, and the learning, growing, and evolving never stops. Remember—your timeline is yours and yours alone, and you’ll bloom when you’re ready. The amazing thing is that once you do start blooming and see your talent, creativity, power, and potential begin to blossom, you’ll realize you had it in you the whole time.
Some other things she discovered as a late bloomer are: Life doesn’t come with a grand plan, but if you’ve got one, follow it. You don’t need a vision of your future, but if you see it, keep it in your mind’s eye. You don’t need a road map, but if you have life GPS, use it. The only thing you need to do is be proactive. So start now. Go now. Launch now. Reinvent now. Bloom now. Envision the person you want to be and go be it.
Advance Praise
"Thirty years ago, I signed on with Sonjia Brandon as my agent and soon met her talented, smart, not-yet-writer daughter, Treva. They both taught me what it's really like to be afraid of women who know so much and see so much. And now, thirty years later, I'm writing a blurb for Treva's book, and I couldn't be prouder." —Tim Allen, comic and actor
"Treva shares her journey of conquering singlehood, rejection, menopause, and aging. You will laugh, cry, and get hot flashes all the way through this book!" —John Gray, best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
"This is a must-read primer for anyone at any age looking to sharpen their singles survival skills and up their dating gam. It's like a handbook and a great memoir all in one." —Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret
"Business acumen and dating expertise make strange bedfellows, but Treva brings them together in a fresh and insightful way." —Suneel Gupta, best-selling author of Backable
"Treva always marched to the beat of her own drummer, until she found a bass player and married him." —Unnamed former boyfriend
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Available Editions
| EDITION | Other Format |
| ISBN | 9798886450200 |
| PRICE | $24.95 (USD) |
| PAGES | 208 |
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Featured Reviews
Cindy C, Reviewer
This was a terrific self-help book and a pretty good memoir. The author dates men for decades but doesn't get married until she's well into the mid-life years.. If you find yourself single at mid to late life - for whatever reason - this is the book for you.
As a widow of two years, I needed this book. After being out of the dating game for many, many years, this book told me exactly what I needed to hear. I devoured this book in about three sittings, and it made me feel much, much better about not yet finding a husband yet. The author helps you focus on healing yourself and becoming your best self before you get yourself hitched. She also counsels women to let men do the pursuing. This was liberating advice.
As a memoir, I could have done without the author's most recent experiences. These last few years have been depressing for everyone, and I think people want to move on. I would have ended the book at her marriage, and I pretty much tuned out after that point. However, this was a very helpful book, and I"m really glad I got to read it.
Tiffiny R, Reviewer
Okay I really loved this book! I was coming out of a bad breakup when I read it, and I needed to hear a lot of this!
Varunika S, Reviewer
4.5/5
insightful and practical guide for people who are tired of being single and looking to find love. The author shares her personal experience of going from a long-term single to finding her soulmate and offers tips and advice for readers to do the same.
One of the strengths of the book is the author's relatable writing style. The book feels like a conversation with a trusted friend who has been through the same struggles as the reader. Brandon offers candid advice and shares her own stories, making the book an engaging read.
The book is also packed with practical tips and exercises that can help readers overcome their fears, gain confidence, and attract the right partner. Brandon provides helpful advice on topics such as online dating, how to approach potential partners, and how to create a fulfilling relationship.
Another aspect of the book that stands out is the author's emphasis on self-love and self-care. Brandon stresses the importance of being happy and fulfilled as a single person before entering a relationship, and provides exercises and advice to help readers achieve this.
Overall, "Done Being Single" is an excellent resource for anyone who is looking for love but feels stuck or unsure of how to find it. The book is filled with practical advice, relatable stories, and exercises that can help readers become their best selves and attract the right partner. Highly recommended
Roseanne A. B, Book Trade Professional
Scharf's witty yet emotional voice gives a lively energy to this book reminding people of all ages that it's never too late to have the live and love you've always searched for.
ELIZABETH C, Educator
Sometimes you come across a book that is exactly what you need, and this book was it for me. Treva Brandon Scharf gives an honest and funny story of her life as a single woman through her 20s, 30s, and 40s. This book is part self-help, part memoir, and Scharf weaves the two together beautifully. She is raw and open about her past while being both kind and stern to her reader. Now, I can’t wait to listen to her podcast!
Victoria K, Reviewer
ARC from Netgalley
I wasn’t quite sure what to expect going into this book, but I found it very insightful!
It’s funny and very honest in the memoir aspects!
Now just got to hope I find someone! 😅
Carrie W, Reviewer
Part self-help book, part memoir, Treva explains her trials and tribulations in the dating game before getting married in her late 40s/early 50s to the man of her dreams. She takes readers on a familiar journey of slogging through dating apps and profiles to find the one for you. Told with both humor and a friendly tone, I found this book to be a fun read, to the point that I forgot it is supposed to help me with the situation of "Done Being Single." To be honest, I enjoyed this book more as a storytelling adventure than as a self-help book, but Treva provides great tips, combined with personal stories, if that is what you are looking for!
Jodie F, Educator
This genre is actually quite outside of my usual comfort zone . . . yet as something of a later bloomer myself (and yes still single at almost 30 don't come for me!) this one immediately interested me.
I have to say I was pleasantly surprised that the writing drew me in from the very first sentence and I couldn't put it down . . . I just wanted to hear more of her stories and anecdotes of disastrous dates.
It isn't totally a self-help guide but also not quite a memoir and yet somehow intricately weaves together elements of both resulting in a touching, insightful and witty read.
I loved the conversational tone of the writing and the many humorous tales (and nicknames) of her past failed dates. I found it extremely easy to read and connect with. I also loved all the many references and quotes which are included through out the book which shaped and influenced her own experiences.
Honestly. this one had no business being as good as it actually was. 10/10 would recommend!
My overall rating : 4.5 / 5 Stars.
Thank you so much to Netgalley, Greenleaf Book Group and author Teva Brandon Scharf for the opportunity to enjoy this e-ARC in exchange for my honest review.
Angie P, Reviewer
This book was great. Treva Brandon Scharf did an incredible job analyzing the deadlines we put on life and turning them on their heads with a solid dose of humor to go with it. It was an enjoyable read, entertaining at times, and enlightening at other. As a young adult in their twenties, it was so refreshing to hear her perspective. This book is definitely one I will think about as I work to make the most out of my life in the coming decades.
Janelle A, Reviewer
Cute advice book with a heavy hand of satire about the pros and issues with being a “late bloomer” to marriage and love. Lots of good insight from not only a self-proclaimed late bloomer, but backed by academic research and her own professional experience. Overall, relatable storytelling that feels like you’re sitting down with the author as an old friend, mid-convo, that provides worthwhile advice and exercises to help readers.
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