Nicki’s second book is a great study of Genesis’ Rachel and Leah, 2 sisters who battle comparison issues of who is the better wife, who is prettier, who gets pregnant the most. LOL
Tackling the thoughts we all sometimes hear when we compare ourselves to others - thinking “Why Her, Lord?” “Must be nice!” and “Why Never ME!” -- Nicki’s honesty will make you laugh out loud (or whisper a sigh) alongside her as you read how she deals with her comparison struggles in everyday life. Oh, how I can relate to so many from my past! I wish I had this book 25 years ago.
Learn the 6 truths of comparison as Nicki unpacks the problem areas all women face (and many you didn’t even KNOW were issues!). She replaces these comparison problems with the real truth of God’s Word. A great book on how to tackle comparison and pack it away forever, so you can shine God’s light into the world instead.
One of my many favorite quotes: “God has given us every tool, teaching, and resource to be victorious. His Word is filled with wisdom and strategies to help us not allow our struggles to overcome us." I am looking forward to studying this with my online friends at Proverbs 31, starting Monday, April 9th!
I received a complimentary advanced reader copy of this book from the publisher, B&H.

I loved her first book and once again she’s done a wonderful job ! She digs into Scripture and finds all the information and than teaches it phenomenally

Wow. Don’t let comparison define you. Embrace 6 truths 1. You need to be honest. 2. See it like it really is. 3. You don’t always have to be ok. 4. Sometimes you didn’t do anything wrong. 5. Her gain is not your loss. 6. Let the success of others encourage, not discourage you.
Conquering what comparison can do to your soul is going to look different for you than it will for the woman beside you. Freedom means stepping into the middle of your story, changing it not to look like her but to look like what you believe God has envisioned for you!!

Nicki’s book Why Her? Is amazing, she gets right down to our soul! Love her

Filled with honesty and heartfelt truths, author Nicki Koziarz shares feelings that many women experience on a daily basis. Comparison is learned from an early age and how we deal with comparisons truly affects our lives and the lives of those around us. In this book, learn how to turn those negative thoughts around to realizing the blessings God has given us. The Biblical story of Rachel and Leah are used as examples. Also, true life stories from the life of the author show how even though we all have struggles, with God's help,we can turn those struggles around to be blessings. This book is filled with practical wisdom, humor and lots of love. I received a copy of this book from the author, publisher and NetGalley and this is my personal honest opinion of the book.

This book is packed with humour alongside wisdom. I love Nicki's fixer upper farm, Fred the donkey and the anecdotes Nicki shares about her family. The best part of this is the way she weaves biblical truths into it so I now remember the truths because of the stories.

Broken into easy-to-digest sections with biblical truths and practical application, this book has it all. I love the challenges like “Compare+Compliment+Calculate the cost= Take control of comparison” which has three scenarios to explain it and biblical truth to back it up! It also has easy to share quotes like “God’s purpose isn’t a battlefield for competition. It’s a safe haven of calling.” which I can hear myself sharing amongst friends and discussing.

I want the mindset shift described by her 6 truths:

You need to be honest
See it like it really is
You don’t always have to be ok (this one is FOR ME, I swear!)
Sometimes you didn’t do anything wrong (loved this one too)
Her gain is not your loss
Let others’ success and struggles steer you (such wisdom)

Wow, if I can do that, what a massive change!

Intellectually, I loved how she tackled one of the toughest stories in the Bible to understand: Rachel and Leah! It’s one I categorised as confusing but "Old Testament" but spending time digging into these verses, taking on each of their burdens and really understanding them was fascinating and enlightening.

Practically, this book is chockablock! My favourite applications are the questions she poses for me to ponder like “1. does it come from a place of jealousy? 2. does it line up with Word and character of God? 3. Does it make God look great?” as well as the ones that call us to change our behaviour today like working on your calling rather than the Netflix binge.

Other favourite lines include:

"God didn’t bless Leah for any other reason than for why He Blesses us - to help her know she was loved by Him…"
"God designed us with a desire for community. Comparison convinces us that community doesn’t exist for us."
"Abundance. God doesn’t do anything halfway. So what are you taking back today?
One thing I’ve come to fully understand about my soul is this: I’m the only one who can take care of it."
"What is a situation in your life you need to choose insight over offence?"

Nicki has an amazing gift, she has the ability to bring Old Testament characters like Leah and Rachel to life in a way I gain a new understanding of familiar texts. She relates these to her modern day anecdotes which I can apply to my life and share biblical wisdom I can live out today! She has reframed comparison and given a strong way in which I can tackle in a God-centred way. Five out of five and highly recommended!