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A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns

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This light-hearted graphic novel helps introduce people to using gender-neutral pronouns. With our ever-evolving world, it is important to make sure you address a person using the pronouns that they want you to use. Archie and Tristan give examples of easy changes one can make when speaking with friends or in a professional setting. As a librarian, I want to make sure everyone who comes in my library feels comfortable. Service industry positions can make this difficult, but this book shows ways that we can all tweak our language just a little bit and make a big difference to those we serve.

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Informative, fun, and I want everyone I know to read this! Love the simplicity and logical progression in how this was constructed.

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An easy, informative, and funny guide to using gender neutral pronouns. I appreciated the discussion of why using someone's correct pronouns is important and the emotional toll it can take on those who are repeatedly misgendered. A quick read and one worth sharing.

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This was an adorable and helpful graphic novel with good illustrations. It was also a quick read so that was a plus. This book is perfect for those who need clarification of pronouns or just want to read a different type of graphic novel.

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A good short reference book for those who want to learn more about gender pronouns! I thought I wouldn’t gain much from this, but I was pleasantly surprised. I learned that when asking for people’s pronouns, you shouldn’t say “what is your preferred pronouns” and I’m slapping myself for all the times I said that phrase. I like how the book doesn’t shame people who are still learning to adjust to nongendered language. I think it’s important for everybody to not misgendered individuals and it kind of sucks that society is taught to place a gender label on everything, including language. I love the duel point of view, especially the non-binary voice. I work at customer service, and I’m going to start using gender-neutral language the book suggests. I think this is a must read for EVERYONE, even schools because more children need to know how to use gender-neutral pronouns. I think workplaces should also incorporate this when training new employees as well.

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This definitely fills a void. Incredibly helpful. Worthwhile for teens. I hadn't even realized some of the issues it brought up. Great for readers with an open mind. Definitely recommend!

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This Non-fiction graphic novel is narrated by a genderqueer artist who uses “they/them” pronouns and a cis male writer who uses “he/him” pronouns. The two snarkily go back and forth to explain the grammatical mechanics of gender neutral pronouns, how to use them, how to integrate them into your everyday speech, and how to be an ally for your friends who use said gender neutral pronouns.

This is a quick read, but it still felt a bit long-winded. However, the information is great for someone who is trying to figure out how to start openly using gender neutral pronouns or if a friend/family member has just asked you to use gender neutral pronouns.

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As a non-binary librarian, this book has been on my TBR list for a while and I'm glad to finally have a chance to do so! Overall, this is a great introduction to they/them pronouns - enough so that I am considering purchasing it for my family and partner's family as a crash course! The main complaint I have about this book is the section on asking/defending. On the subject of coming to someone's defense, each person is going to be different and if you're friends with a person it's always safest to double check what kind of situations they want you to say something. In terms of asking a stranger's or acquaintance's pronouns, the risk is making someone who is non-binary or trans uncomfortable, forcing them into a corner to either come out or misgender themselves to avoid it. Offering your pronouns can be fine but in both cases, please be aware of the type of situation you're in and remember the fact that you might accidentally out someone. I largely felt that this section could have focused on this fact a little more.

Beyond that though, (which despite the text wall is only related to a very small section of the book) I very much enjoyed this book! It's quick and to the point and is great for someone unfamiliar with gender-neutral pronouns and non-binary persons!

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(Received a copy from the publisher through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review)

This is definitely just an intro guide, but I've never seen one like this so it's definitely important. All thing I had to learn for myself. I'm probably going to buy a copy to show my mom, and anyone else I know who doesn't quite "get" it.

On that note - I definitely recommend asking people their pronouns. It's never as awkward as I worried and even people who don't fully understand normally aren't offended? And also make sure you stick up for your friends, if they're okay with that. Mostly I've corrected people away from who they're talking about, because it tends to happen before they meet? And if someone doesn't use pronouns, respect that. Hey, just respect people as being people.

(Disclaimer: I'm a cis girl, she/her pronouns)

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A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns provides a quirky, fun crash course into the world of gender neutral pronouns and the nonbinary identity. Archie and Tristan have managed to provide all the information you'll need in order to understand gender neutral pronouns, as well as the different identities of those who use them, and have done so in such a fun way you'll hardly feel like you're learning.

The first half is written more for cisgender people who are coming into the topic blind, and is mostly narrated by Archie's cisgender friend, Tristan. It serves as a comfortable and entertaining introduction to the topic. The second half focuses more on being nonbinary and the effect misgendering has on nonbinary individuals, narrated by Archie themself. Finally, the last three pages give you alternatives to common gendered phrases, a mini script for how to incorporate gender neutral pronouns in your daily speech, and common gender neutral pronouns beside the gendered equivalents.

As someone who has a hard time finishing nonfiction books, I had quite a bit of fun reading this one. It's very short and yet still provided me with quite a bit of information about gender neutral pronouns, and kept me entertained and interested in the process. Personally, I think a graphic novel is a great way to give an introduction to a subject. This comic is in no way a complete guide to the topic of gender neutral pronouns and the identities associated with them, but it is an introduction that keeps you entertained with illustrations, as well as the author's own humorous twists. For those looking to learn more about the LGBT community, and specifically nonbinary and genderqueer individuals, this is a great book to start with, as it will thoroughly educate you on the topic while providing you some amusement in the process.

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Such a good read and it is exactly what it claims to be, a quick and easy guide. Love it and cant wait to recommend it to my patrons!

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I am starting off by saying I received a free eARC from NetGalley and the publisher for an unbiased review. So thank you kindly!
So I have a friend who is gender fluid. I’ve known them for a good chunk of my life and they’re basically a sibling to me. When they came out to me as gender fluid, it was not the easiest concept to understand. Changing the pronoun when referencing my friend wasn’t easy. But I love them and I was willing to accept them as they came out to others as gender fluid. Not everyone is accepting of this. But this book explains it BEAUTIFULLY. Straight to the point. Also love how it has a section for both people who are cisgendered and gender queer. This can help with the aspect for people who are cisgendered but really, also give a lot of comfort and guidance to those people who have come out as gender queer or gender fluid. This is a drawn reference guide that is much needed in a day and age where people who are gender queer are coming out more and more each day. This can be extremely stressful to people who are non binary. So I want to be the best ally that I can and help advocate for people who are gender queer. This is a fantastic starter guide. Also includes diagrams, pictures, and example conversations that can help put this into perspective. This is a guide I plan on buying for my friend to give to others as well as for me to show others as well!

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This should be required reading! Archie and Tristan not only provide a compelling amount of information and instruction in this short guide, but also allow their own senses of humour to shine through, bringing light to an often tricky topic. Not only is this book written as a guide for cisgender people learning to use gender neutral pronouns, but also for non-binary people, with sections dedicated to the process of 'coming out', being misgendered and making the workplace a safer, more inclusive environment.

As a cisgender woman, I have accidentally slipped up a few times when using pronouns. I felt terrible right away, but I had no idea what to do. Should I apologise right now? Would that embarrass them? Should I wait until we're alone? I wish I had access to something like this when I was younger; when the concept of gender neutral pronouns were a bit of an unknown to me. I have no doubt that this guide will be very helpful to both younger and older generations, and will hopefully help pave way for a more respectful society.

This guide is short, snappy and super informative, and an excellent introduction to they/them pronouns. I will be recommending this to many of my friends!

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This is such a wonderful and informative comic book! It definitely is a starter course on the complexities of personal pronouns, but it was wonderfully drawn and a super quick, easy and fun read

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Thank you Netgalley and Oni Press for providing me with a copy for review. This was a great little comic that is super easy and quick to read. It is really handy, informative, and accessible and is a great resource for people who are just learning about gender neutrality as well as for people who are just understanding their own gender identity. It covers many different topics within the use of gender neutral pronouns and is really respectful with how it describes and introduces the concepts.

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A good book demonstrating the proper use of 'they' and 'them' - Must read for everyone dealing with English language professionally.

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I'm always looking for books that are engaging or educating or hopefully both for YA students. Call this one "educational."

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Lots of great advice here. Clear definitions when possible and simple examples. I appreciated the sensitivity applied. Not only does it ask cis people to be considerate of the non-binary it acknowledges that this stuff is hard for the uninitiated to understand and remember.

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For the most part the book was an adequate guide for how not to offend people but I was also expecting a bit more. The format was nice I that it was in a comic format and therefore faster and easier to read.
I didn't hate the book I just expected more explanation.
FTC DISCLAIMER: I received this book in exchange for an honest review

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This book explains the gender neutral pronouns in a funny sensitive and informative way, gives examples on how to use them and shows how it feels to feel misgendered.
It really helped me understand more and I‘ll def look at the examples again so I know how to use them if I get the chance.

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