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A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns

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This was a super cute graphic novel on how to correctly use they/them pronouns. It's easy to understand for people of all ages and I think many people would benefit from reading it. Plus the art was very cute, which made it all the more engaging!

Thank you to Netgalley for providing me with this book in exchange for an honest review.

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I enjoyed this book and I liked how it told/taught us how to use they/them pronouns correctly.  Also how to correct others when using the wrong pronouns.  How to ask what pronouns people prefer others to use.  If you or someone you care about are using the wrong pronouns I would say either you read it or give the book to someone you think should learn more and be more educated.

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This little Book gives a short introduction on how to use the personal terms them/they. It is easy to understand, even if you didn't have a clue before, you know how to use those terms after reading this book.

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Fantastic little book that does exactly what it says on the tin (or... the front) - an intro to they/them pronouns. I have a friend that uses they/them pronouns and, whilst I identify as genderfluid (but still currently use she/her pronouns), I really wanted to learn a little more about different pronouns and misgendering, etc. This book is sensitively put together, and the artwork is quite wonderful. There are a few jokes that I had a little laugh at, but the authors were great about giving you information without it being unnecessarily sugar-coated or too complex to understand. Just straightforward and helpful. I loved it.

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Thank you to Archie  Bongiovanni; Tristan Jimerson, Oni Press, Limerence Press, and NetGalley for the advanced reviewer copy of “A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns” in return for an honest review.

From the moment I saw the title of this one, and that it was in a graphic novel/comic format, I jumped at being given the chance to review it pre-publication. I wanted to love this book so much more than I ended up liking it. I was so excited when I saw it on offer at Netgalley, but I found myself stymied as I read it, feeling more put off than welcomed in by the book.

As someone who has people in their life (both adults, and children I help guide) who are dealing with these issues I can’t say that anything in this book is wrong, but I felt like it tried to point and laugh at itself too much, and then would suddenly want the reader to be absolutely serious. I felt too dragged back and forth by this one.

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This book's title nicely sums up what it's about - a short guide to why and how to use gender-neutral language. There are parts aimed at educating noobs, as well as parts for people living the gender-neutral life. As the authors say in the introduction, "this book exists to educate and inform people on gender neutral pronouns . . . so that you don’t have to do all the heavy lifting yourself."

It is a very quick read (I read it in about 20 minutes) but covers a fair bit of ground in an accessible and clear way. As a school librarian, I would not hesitate to recommend this book to both staff and students, whether genderqueer or otherwise.

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A lot of people now use gender-neutral pronouns, and singular 'they' is one of the more universal and (to my mind) easy to adjust to choices. Not that I object to zie/hir on principle (though some people do because those pronouns sound like gendered pronouns in their own language; this is not a personal bother of mine, but I keep it in mind), but 'they' is already something we know how to use, and they doesn't always have to mean plural (despite what people say). This is basically a guide focused on how to respect the pronoun choices of people who identify as non-binary... or just want to use neutral pronouns for reasons of their own. It's an easy and simple read, though I find myself wondering if the people who could really use the education would ever bother to read it.

It's also... not 100% right. There's a whole bit about how saying "preferred pronouns" is disrespectful. I totally understand that argument -- most people don't prefer to be called she/her, they are a she/her -- but I hesitate about it too because people to whom it doesn't apply tend to take that too far. I've been scolded for saying I personally have preferred pronouns, even though that's the case. I use they/them in some contexts, and refer to them as my "preferred" pronouns, because they are. However, nobody who meets me in real life is ever going to think there's any grounds for ambiguity, and I don't mind it in that context; it's all about context for me and what's comfortable in a given place/time. Often online I just let people make whatever assumption they want: it doesn't matter to me, and I don't usually have strong feelings either way (unless someone is being sexist or something). But still: at the end of it, they/them/their are my preferred pronouns by default.

So yeah, don't go thinking this book is the bible of gender-neutral pronouns and can't be wrong. But otherwise, it's a good resource for explaining to someone willing to learn. The art it nothing special, but the expressions, etc, add some humour and flavour to it.

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An acceptable guide for teens in the form of a graphic novel. As an adult I found it a bit annoying but the I'm just a grumpy old biddy.

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"Practicing gender-neutral pronouns is both an exercise in language and a chance to grow as a more empathetic and respectful communicator."

Honestly, I just flipped through this because I liked the cover art and I was fairly surprised that this strives to educate readers, not just about pronouns but also the struggles of misgendered folks in everyday life. This was an easy read for me and I liked how light the tone the author had set for educating us, readers. I'm grateful for the authors of this book and I recommend everyone to read this for future references.

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I received this book from Netgalley in exchange of an honest review.

Boy, this isn't easy to review, as I am definitely worried I may step on some toes. :| Yes, I got this book from Netgalley so I knew that I would need to write a review, but I mostly got this book out of interest and curiosity. I was curious what the authors would tell us about their experience and give us a guide to gender neutrality. Which I already use on the internet for most, they/them or using their names instead. As for real life, well, my main language is Dutch, and using zij/ze/hen/hun just doesn't feel as right as they/them.

While I did think this book was amazing, it did feel kind of like you have to do this or else you are a bad human. You can get fired if you don't do it. You are lazy. You are x, you are y. Now I hear people say that I am one of those bad humans, pfa, no. I have been misgendered more than enough in life, even with my body clearly screaming woman (I have had some very hurtful comments). But I do think forcing people to do stuff is also not going to help. Pushing it down people's throat will only give struggle.

I still think this guide was a pretty good one, if you remove the kind of forceful attitude it gives me, it is informative and instructive, and I think that people may benefit from reading it. But only if they want.

I liked the format. Instead of dry text this one is told through comics. We see two sides of the story, two people telling us how they feel about the situation giving a more in-depth look in it.

I also liked the art, it was quite a nice style.

Now my review could be much longer, but I have edited and deleted a whole lot of my text because I know the internet, and I know that it can be quite harsh. Plus I don't feel comfortable giving more insight in my private life. I am already worried how much burn I will get for saying that it felt a bit forced at times and also how it may make people feel like they are bad for not doing it.

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it’s really really short and it doesn’t take a lot of time. I’ve read it while I had a break at work, to be honest, it was so quick and easy to follow.
And it was the thing that I needed. It’s highly informative and it was so useful. At least now I can say that I understand all these things about pronouns. It wasn’t a complicated thing, really, but I was lazy and this book provides you with all the info in just one place, and it’s well written, easy to follow and clear. You can’t ask for more.

I have to admit that some things didn’t sound quite… I don’t know the right word, here, so I am sorry, but some things just didn’t sound so… right to me. But I may have been a little bit sensitive about a point here, and I really don’t want to put up a discussion post, so I just say here that something rubs me the wrong way, if it’s not a too much strong way to put it, and let it at it. It’s just to explain why my rating is not too high, even if I liked the idea and the info a lot.

Anyway, back to the book. I loved the arts and the characters/authors. All the book has a fresh and easy way to it, and it really gets to the point. I found it interesting and useful, really, really useful. I would for sure recommend it to a lot of people because I think it’s a book that really needs to be read and the info shared. It doesn’t just provide information about the use of the right pronouns, but it talks about the way to broach the subject with others and I think that this is a great subject, too.

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Really cute graphic novel to explain the different genders other than girl and boy. I think this was a necessary book to have especially if you’re new to this type of stuff.

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This was a really fun and helpful entry guide that was adorable and incredibly useful. The art was simple but effective. A super quick, simple read I would definitely recommend to anyone wanting to learn the basics about gender-neutral pronouns!

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Excellent introduction to they/them pronouns, not just for allies but for those who are learning how to apply them to themselves.

I wish I'd had this book 30 years ago.

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This is a wonderful book - One I'd like to hand out to school administrative staff and other parents and strangers on the street in my town! As a parent of a gender neutral oldest child, it was easy to switch pronouns once I knew that was how they were most comfortable.

It's easy to change, once you know, and this guide is a wonderful tool to remind everyone that changing how we speak to each other in general just makes spaces more comfortable for everyone - more inclusive and welcoming. It's easier to make these small changes, especially if it means NOT adding another brick to someone's already burdened and heavy backpack (You know we all carry burdns, let's just be good people to each other!)

I definitely look forward to ordering a few copies of this!

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A fun, easy introduction to they/them pronouns with some pretty awesome graphics to boot.

I'm no novice when it comes to trans issues, but I'll admit that I know much less about people who identify as genderqueer.

I knew a person who identified as genderqueer when I was in college, but has since adapted she/her pronouns, so my first-hand knowledge of someone who is genderfluid or genderqueer is extremely limited. However, I'm always up to learn and grow as a person in this crazy world we live in, and understanding different people and different perspectives in a big part of that journey.

My favorite part of this little book was the really skilled artistry of the comics. They were fun with informative with witty dialogue, and it easily kept me reading and engaged. I learned a number of things as well, and any take-away from a book like this one is meaningful.

I like that this book furthers the dialogue between cis people and their trans/genderqueer acquaintances and friends, and I think it would be a good starter book for someone who wants to learn the basics of gender-neutral pronouns.

*Copy provided in exchange for an honest review*

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Thank you NetGalley & Oni Press for the early release copy.
This was a short, informative and easy read.
I wasn't familiar with Ze and Hir prior to this and it's always exciting to learn new EVERYTHING!!!!

From the description I envisioned a graphic novel with a storyline that introduces and educates through the characters experiences.
This book kinda does that though the delivery is a bit more dry than I expected.
Archie & Tristan do break down the pronouns and how to start inserting them into everyday life, I was just hoping for something a bit more fun to give to the tiny humans in my life.
I'm always on the lookout for fun and educational books to give them.
All the tiny humans in my life are currently under the age of five, so they need more excitement and colour in the books I read/give them.
If i'm being honest so do I...who doesn't love an eye catching colour palette bouncing along the pages with you?

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*I received an ARC in exchange for my honest opinion*

5 Stars. This was a great comic about explaining gender neutral pronouns to people who do not understand how they work. I am not gender neutral, but I still found it an interesting read, as I know people who are. It did a great job explaining about how a non-binary person feels and how you should act around them. It would be a great read for someone who doesn't understand. I would recommend this.

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I wasn't able to read this title due to it being only available on PDF, but I am so excited to pick it up at the store when it comes out!

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A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns is exactly what it says: an introduction to general-neutral pronouns in comic form. It’s immediately approachable, with the two authors talking the reader through this introduction to what may be a new way to use language for some readers. The non-binary Archie uses they/them pronouns, while the cis Tristan uses he/him. They purposefully designed a guide that could be shared or given away, and their two different perspectives combine to cover a greater gamut of audience. Tristan, in particular, as Archie’s friend, has experience learning and explaining the concepts to other people, including in the workplace.

The art is minimal, mostly head or medium shots of the two authors talking, which is suitable for the intended audiences, who are going to concentrate mostly on what they say. The comic format makes it more friendly, with two people sharing their backgrounds and feelings, instead of dry text (which can feel more like a lecture). Plus, jokes as the long-time pals tease each other.

Archie explains how they feel when they are misgendered and why it matters. Tristan plays sidekick, asking questions that allow Archie to elaborate. They also cover how to ask about someone’s pronouns, what to do when the wrong ones are used (depending on situation and context), and (what I found most helpful) substitutes to use for traditional gendered language. There’s also a substantial section on the difficulties of coming out to people for those identifying with alternative pronouns, how those new to the concept may need time and patience, and the need for everyone to meet in the middle while paying attention to advocacy and self-care.

I fear that this won’t be compelling to those who need the most help in learning how to operate in a more complex world than that in which they were raised, but to anyone curious or well-intentioned but unexposed, this is a useful summary. The matter-of-fact approach to talking about “how” instead of “why” or “whether we should” demonstrates their philosophy that this is necessary and will eventually become standard. Charts at the back sum up much of the information for quick reference.

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