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Buddha's Bedroom

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This book wasn't what i was expecting. I thought this was supposed to be written by a professional. Some remarks read like they were written by a teenager. But what was the most off putting where the gas lighting remarks and dismissiveness of peoples feelings and reactions. It's one thing to be held accountable for your feelings, and another to blame a person for their reaction to a mean remark by their partner, completely invalidating the individual and defending the partner. I read this more than once. I can't take anyone seriously that takes this type of approach. It's not only unhealthy it's concerning.

"If you are upset or unhappy with your partner, there is a cause, and that cause is not actually your partner"

"So, what's that cause of your misery? The cat food? Obviously not. Your partner? Less obviously not, but still, not."

"When your spouse points out that you may have gained a few pounds, they hurt you, right? Well, maybe not. according to the second fact, it is your inability to accept reality that is the problem."

There is more and more of these types of remarks. i can't take this author seriously unless you want to learn how to be a Stepford wife.

Thank you to the Publisher and Netgalley for the ARC in exchange of an honest review.

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Thank you New Harbinger Publications and Netgalley for an ARC in return of my honest review.

Cheryl Fraser is a Buddhist sex therapist. Her book brings mindfulness and Buddhist teachings to the bedroom and long term relationships in general. A lovely, well written, enjoyable book which reminds the reader that like everything in life, relationships have Dukkha. We cannot be happy happy all the time, however we can change our perceptions of how we embrace our mindset and in turn our relationship and the amount of passion we bring to it.

Each chapter is summarised with Love Bytes and Buddha Bytes. There are exercises to complete and meditations to enjoy.

This is a fabulous book and highly recommended for anyone in a committed relationship.

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I received a copy of this book for a fair and honest review. I saw this book and by the blurb I wanted to read it. It is not normally something I would have picked to read on a daily basis. I did read it and understand the concept behind it. I am not sure if it opened my eyes to anything but it was a book that did make me think about something that I had wondered already.

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A really great book if you are looking for ways to revive the passion in your relationship, and to be more mindful in that context. I didn't finish the book because I felt like in my current relationship, we don't have any of the problems that the book addresses, although it was still a really fun and interesting read. I will keep the ARC ebook copy in my kindle in case I need it in the future.

The website they give to go along with the book is currently vacant, which was disappointing.

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I was excited to read this book. From the title, I assumed it would involve Buddhist thought regarding sex and sexuality, or perhaps how the Buddha led his romantic and/or sex life. Juicy stuff, right?

Unfortunately, this book is more of a raisin than a grape.

The book focuses on the author's personal experiences with Buddhism, and then their take on improving bedroom connection. I've read hundreds of books about improving sexual intimacy through my work, and I found nothing new here.

All I could think of while reading this was another book, "I Can't Believe It's Not Buddha!" which focuses on Buddhist quotes that aren't.

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Cheryl Fraser tackled some pretty difficult topics in this book and she made them super easy to understand. This book is all about helping couples learn to communicate or even reconnect if they are in a slump. I love, love, love the fact that mindfulness is including. We tried some of the exercises and they really do help you to feel closer as a couple. We have been together for over a decade and so we had lapsed into this weird sort of complacency where we forgot how to just BE with each other.

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Not what I was hoping for. This is more marriage advice for people in a lul that want some Buddhist simple thinking sprinkled on their bedspreads.

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I liked that book a lot. Very well written, funny and with simple language. A nice self-help book for all of us who struggle with the relationship's everyday life.
The author's struggle for love was real, not just simple advise from a i-have-it-all-already person.
After reading Buddha's Bedroom you will be very familiar with mindfulness, something you can use generally in life not only in intimate relationships. It's not a typical self-help book, for sure. If you think the magic is lost, you should read it ASAP.

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Cheryl Fraser has written a remarkable book that weaves Buddhism , intimacy, sex , falling in love, and communication. The exercises in this book can bring couples closer, being awakened, and more passionate. Cheryl Fraser is a wonderful author.

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