Many thanks to the publisher and EdelweissPlus for providing me with an eARC of this title for review. All opinions are my own.

When I was describing this book to a friend who also reads a bunch, I said it was so good, but also soul-numblingly sad. I loved it, but it was HARD to read. Tiger's mom dies, which would be sad enough on its own, but Tiger has to deal with her last words to her mother (why don't you just leave me alone?) foster care (she has a non-existent and out of the picture dad), an unknown half-sister (what 20 year old can care for a 16 year old?) in the midst of a grief so large Tiger can't imagine ever finding her way out of it.

This was an amazing book. Fans of Glasgow's earlier work <i>Girl in Pieces </i> won't be disappointed, and to be honest, I enjoyed this one even more than that one. This one had a reality to it that felt almost raw. It was a situation that seems like it could be a moment or a chance away from all of us, which is scary and haunting.

Recommended for readers grades 8 and up due to some language and the maturity of the feelings portrayed, along with foster care realities. First purchase for libraries where realistic fiction is in demand.

Kathleen Glascow's book is one of the best YA books I've read this year (and I've already read plenty.) I am astonished at the way she used language and plotting, masterfully low-key and high-emotional. This book is in the genre of emotional YA books, but it isn't frivolous with emotionalism or trite in the way readers are pulled into the story. I highly recommend this one for all readers for its literary qualities. Terribly well-done and wonderfully hard to read at parts.

Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC in exchange for an honest review.

Title: How to Make Friends with the Dark
Author: Kathleen Glasgow
Genre: YA Contemporary Fiction
Publication Date: April 9th, 2019
Rating: 3.5 stars
Contains (Warning): Suicide, Domestic Abuse, Parental Death, Language

eARC provided by publisher (Delacorte Press) through NetGalley

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Tiger Tolliver is like any other teen. She is worrying about boys and dances but when she gets a phone call about her mother, everything changes. She must now learn how to live without her mother and figure out how to deal with the darkness that is creeping in.

I wasn't sure what to expect when diving into this book. I was drawn in by the cover and the synopsis made it sound quite intriguing. In some ways this book lived up to my expectations and in other ways it lacked a bit for me.

Tiger Tolliver is a typical teen until the death of her mother starts a domino effect of events. She doesn't know how to even begin to cope with her mother's death and having to deal with arranging the funeral, foster homes, and living relatives brings more stress and adds to the blackhole of emotions she already has.

This book is filled with tough subjects like the ones mentioned above and I am not sure how anyone manages to pull themself out of those circumstances. Tiger brings new light to issues that some children and teens face. It is quite heartbreaking.

The writing style was hard to get into and some of the little extra things, like the hashtags, just didn't seem necessary to me. There was some language which also is a turn off for me but I can understand why it was used since the book is about a teen.

The plot was filled with many dramatic details and at times it felt overwhelming. Some of the minor characters were present and then gone. I was hoping Thaddeus would be mentioned in the epilogue part but sadly he wasn't. I did like how they added an epilogue but it just wasn't as conclusive as I wanted it to be.

Overall, it was still a read that I will remember even if I may have not been a fan of everything. Tiger is a heartbreaking character and sheds light on many hard topics that other teens may face in their life.

I’m going to be the black sheep of this book I guess, but it was NOT for me. The storyline was insanely slow, I had zero connection with it, and it really just felt like nothing happened.

I normally like books that have a deep, emotional storyline; but this one didn’t hit the mark for me. I couldn’t FEEL the emotion at all. With what this book is based on I honestly expected to be a mess while reading it, and I just wasn’t. I was overall very disconnected and disappointed.

I can’t stop thinking about this book. It is stunning, exquisite and so very beautiful. I laughed and cried and sometimes got very angry. Grace, who prefers to be known as Tiger, has lost her mother and she is only sixteen. Her mother dies suddenly from a brain aneurysm. As far as she knows, Tiger has no other family. So of course she ends up in a foster home. This is a book about grief, loss and coping. It is also very realistic about the foster care system.I loved Tiger. It truly is a book about how to make friends with the dark. It is also about ways to begin to let the light back in. A truly beautiful book. This book has been added to my list of ‘best ever books’.
I voluntarily read and reviewed an advanced copy of this book. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

This was heart-wrenching to read. Tiger has to endure so much and deals with many things that young children shouldn't have to deal with. The reader is given a bird's-eye view into the harsh reality of Tiger's world. It was powerful, expressive, and a reminder of how one lives in the dark, and how they need to come out into the light.

This was a fairly good book. I read it while I was in the tub and I didn't want to put it down! Its fairly relatable which made it easier to read, the names of the characters are really cool too, slightly reminiscent of The Outsiders.

Kathleen Glasgow is such an amazing writer! She draws the reader into the story in such a way that you truly feel the characters pain. Tiger is such a complex character. You will feel her pain as she travels on this horrific journey of loss. Another amazing read! I suggest you not read this poignant story of loss and resilience when you are feeling down. It definitely could take you down the rabbit hole. If you are a fan of young adult writing and dark complex character then this book is definitely for you! Happy reading!

I don't think my emotions were ready for this book. I expected it to be sad going on considering I did read the synopsis, but man did it hit me hard. I thought the author's first book was good but this one showed a lot of growth in her writing, character development, and making her readers really connect to the story. I did get all of that in the first book as well but this was dialed up to 11.

Having read Glasgow’s heart-wrecking debut, Girl In Pieces, I had an inkling that perhaps her second novel would be another emotional rollercoaster. What I didn’t know is just how much of a wild, heart-breaking ride this would be. Last year, I finally got around to reading White Oleander (about a girl who goes into foster care once her mom is sent to prison for murder), so when Tiger’s mom dies, and she goes to foster care all I can think is, “OH NO BAD THINGS ARE GOING TO HAPPEN NOW!” Because some crazy shit went down in White Oleander that made me grateful that I never had to be a foster child, but at the same time made me feel extremely sorry for those poor kids who do end up becoming wardens of the state. And although I had only known Tiger for a couple of pages, I instantly liked her and was fearful of her future without her mother.

The prose in this book is amazingly STUNNING, even when events happen that leave you feeling like you’re repeatedly getting sucker punched with the most horrible reality. The author has a way of writing that makes grief and despair appear simultaneously poetic and yet very harsh. This book doesn’t lull you with a false sense of security, instead, it pulls the rug out from under your feet making you fall painfully hard. This book isn’t for those who are looking for a casual YA because other than the protagonist being a teen, a lot of the tough reality of life wasn’t glossed over nor sugar-coated. Glasgow wants you to see how difficult it can be to lose the only person you have in life, even if that reality makes you feel uncomfortable at times.

This book will make you feel in ways you didn’t think you were capable of feeling. It will also absolutely shatter your heart to pieces. Not to mention that ugly crying will be in your near future once you pick up this novel. You’ve been warned. But it’s well worth it.

Silent tears streamed down my face throughout much of this book. The realistic view of grief is the center crux. Tiger doesn't become a superhero. She doesn't overcome her mother's death like it's nothing. She doesn't become a sordid tale of the underbelly of the foster system. What she does is paint a portrait of grief that will have readers relating to her and feeling for her.
Reading this book left me feeling like I had been dragged through the desert. I was raw and emotional. I felt beat up. It's been awhile since I felt that from a book.
Ultimately, I recommend this for anyone who is open to accepting another person's trauma as their own, enjoys realistic fiction, and doesn't want something shiny and pretty.

How to Make Friends with the Dark is a book that will wring your heart out. It's always been Tiger and her mother. Even if she's a little overprotective and the struggle of her family and poverty, it's hers. Until the day her mother dies and Tiger's life is changed forever - throwing her into the foster care system until they can find a more permanent solution.

Above all what kept me reading How to Make Friends with the Dark is Tiger and her grief. At times I needed to step away from this book because of how emotional it was making me. We feel the depths of Tiger's grief, the way she feels separated from the world around her - a girl in a jar. And throughout the book, we witness Tiger processing the complicated relationship she had with her mother, their last fight, and how to move on without her.

This book was devastating. Kathleen Glasgow really took you inside Tiger’s head and made you feel all the pain and grief she was feeling. It was extremely well written and compelling. All the characters leapt off the pages.

Great story about overcoming and great for teaching teens about mental health and what it looks like to go through that. Would recommend to any teen looking for contemporary books and teens that like the hate you give

Kathleen Glasgow is a genius. Once again she’s written a book that hits every emotion. It’s a roller coaster ride.

She writes grief like no other. And while I’m not someone who’s ever had to live in the system, I imagine this is exactly what it’s like.

And as Tiger deals with her depression, I couldn’t help but feel for her. And the moving. It’s rough, especially with an older child.

I loved that there was enough humorous moments that allowed me a laugh or two.

But mostly, I love her brutal honesty in dealing with mental health. A lot of authors skim details or the person is “fixed” through a relationship—or some other nonsense. Glasgow doesn’t shy away from the realities and doesn’t make excuses or apologies. She hits it head on. And for that, we should all be grateful.

I’m sure this will be a quiet favorite of mine for years to come.

This book was a LOT to take. It is exquisitely written, in my opinion, to give a small glimpse into the trials that are faced by youths who are placed in--and out--and in the foster system while also struggling to come to terms with whatever has caused them to be forfeited to the state in the first place. It is a heartbreaking world that so many of us know nothing about, and I hope this story gives those who are in this situation a sense of being seen and teaches the rest of us to extend empathy to those living in this nightmare.

An incredibly beautiful and heart-wrenching story about love and loss.
I'm not normally the type of person to read books I would deem "sad", I prefer more lighthearted reads, but this one gripped me from the very start and didn't let go.

This book tugged at my heartstrings like no other book has! The raw emotion of Tiger was so powerful I definitely teared up more than once. Losing a parent is never easy, but losing the only guardian you have is tragic! I absolutely voted for this novel to win the next Indigo Staff pick and am hoping it gets the votes!

Tiger is so excited that Kai asked her to go to the Memorial Days dance with him, their major crush on each other has gotten more intense as they became lab partners in biology. There’s just one problem: her overprotective mother, June, may not let her go. Tiger takes a stand for herself and adamantly insists she will be going, starting a fight she and her mom will never recover from. That afternoon, June dies suddenly of a brain aneurysm. BAM. Just like that, Tiger’s world is foggy and distorted, and all she is left with is a Grand Canyon sized empty hole in her chest. She has never known her father’s name, Child Protective Services will not let her stay with her best friend, Cake’s, family, and she can’t believe the last words she will ever say to her mother were as horrible as they were. Everyone deals with grief in their own way, and Tiger, who has never sipped alcohol, smoked marijuana, or even gone farther than kissing with a boy, is about to embark on the saddest year of her life, while her classmates are living the best years of theirs. Her normal has been stolen, snatched, and it’s never coming back. Glasgow’s second novel is a triumph; no doubt equal parts brilliant & beautiful writing, coupled with her own experiences of foster care and grief. A must read for YA lovers (anyone, actually), particularly those who loved Rainbow Rowell’s Eleanor & Park as much as I did. Have tissues-will cry. (The deep sobbing kind.)

Quotes I loved~

“It’s nice to lean back, and to breathe, and look up at the stars, which I feel like we always forget to do, you know?” ~Tiger

“Thanks for the tip, but I’m not really Thelma, or Louise. I’m kind of a dork, prone to elaborate fantasizing, and I don’t know the first thing about running away.” ~Tiger

“And sometimes the lights just go out. We don’t know why, because as much as we study and study and study, the universe is always smarter than we are. There will always be unknowable things and we have to make peace with that.” ~Dr. Matthews

“Mae-Lynn and I sit in the car, not saying anything, watching everyone else have the best years of their lives. Someday, when people ask us about high school, and dances, and kisses, and all that stuff, I know that what we’ll remember most of all is how normal was stolen from us.”

“…sometimes you have to open your heart to the miraculous.” ~Teddy

“I think about what those…guys said. You must go on. I can’t go on. You must go on. Because what other choice is there, really? You have to make friends with the dark.” ~Tiger

“How to Make Friends with the Dark is, above all, a book about grief. This is a book about learning how to go on, about finding your way in the dark.” ~Kathleen Glasgow

Glasgow weaves a story that is completely honest, heartbreaking, and yet surprisingly loving to its main character. It's impossible to not love Tiger and support her through her journey. However, the amount of punches eventually get a bit hard to take, so the book becomes an exercise in sympathy - and patience.