I think it's great that we are bringing more and more awareness to cases of infertility and pregnancy loss. Sharing stories of such a life impacting event allows others that are going through the same to be able to relate.

I find it important, when thinking of being a parent, to be aware that infertility and pregnancy loss are possible outcomes. I am also conscious that this book might not be for everyone going through such a situation, as everyone deals in different ways - what might be helpful for some, might be hurtful for others.

For anybody who's ever miscarried, or wondered about infertility, this is the collection of essays for you. The editors did a great job of collecting and presenting a variety of experiences within the theme, from different points of view and with varying outcomes to some degree. I agree with the main principle that these writers share, that our stories about infertility and chemical pregnancies and stillbirth should be shared widely, not hidden in shame. Twelve years ago when my life felt controlled by the Big F*ckin' Negative, I would have loved to have this as a reference book. BUT, I don't know that reading it would have helped with my off-the-charts stress level at the time. And reading it now, I have to admit it took me a while to get through, because of PTSD and the repetitive nature of this group of narratives; even though each tragic loss is unique, the bleeding and emotional reactions again and again and again are painful reminders, and also triggers.

I do appreciate the helpful messages contained here, for example I like how Neusa Arraial stresses the importance of "focusing on nurturing ones childless self". I would have liked to have seen more positive attention put on the childfree option. I wish the organization Resolve.org had been mentioned in any capacity but I'm American so I guess I'm wishing there were a similar support group available in Canada that these writers could have referenced. If you're dealing with infertility in the US, go to Resolve.org immediately.