Rejection hurts and it can be a massive set back, but this book aims to provide you with the tools and space to reflect on how to bounce back from rejection. There are 10 chapters with each chapter focusing on a different element to be considered in building resilience. An engaging and insightful book.

While I did like the book and feel it had some good points, I did not find it overall informative or helpful to me.  I would recommend it for person who need to develop the skills needed to face rejection and move on in a positive light but, if your a person with those skills this book has very little to add.

As marketer and writer, I know rejection intimately. We've come to a kind of peace; while it's never easy to be rejected, it is no longer soul-smashing or silencing as it might have been. Therefore, I anticipated a plunge into a wise, deep, and powerful exploration of and triumph over the worst that rejection can do. BOUNCING BACK FROM REJECTION by Leslie Becker-Phelps was a disappointment. Every now and again, a sentence stood out or an insight struck home, but for the most part, it was flat-footed, deadly dry and dull.  Those sparkling, insightful bits make me hope that Ms. Becker-Phelps continues to assist the ones who see her for help....and shares her expertise and wisdom in person rather than on the pages of this book.

Bouncing Back from Rejection presents a sensible and respectful method for changing the way you feel when things don't work out in relationships. It isn't just about personal relationships; the method works in any situation in which you have divulged an idea or expended effort and not received the feedback you hoped for. Patiently and clearly, author Leslie Becker-Phelps walks you through five facets of internalizing and re-framing your connections with other people. Every one of these facets (sensations, thoughts, emotions, actions, and mentalizing) comes with suggested activities to help you practice and progress through the method and develop better thought habits. My only qualm about the book is that these suggested activities are in a much smaller and lighter font than the rest of the text. The content of the book is great though. I recommend it for anybody who is ready to stop feeling like they've been put down.
Linda Tashbook - author of Family Guide to Mental Illness and the Law

Bouncing Back from Rejection is a fantastic book that offers some great advice and techniques. It is well written and easy to read.

If readers follows the author’s exercises throughout the book, they will feel less sensitive to rejection and will be much quicker to recognize when you are being troubled by that sensitivity.
Dr. Becker-Phelps has detailed a practical, friendly, non-judgmental, jargon-free approach to dealing with your fears of rejection.
The author explains how widespread fear of rejection is, and how many problems in relationships with other people are caused by this issue.
Ideally, individuals struggling with this challenge would want to work with a therapist in using this method, but a person who is committed to addressing this issue on their own can do so. 
For students and trainees in psychotherapy, "Bouncing Back from Rejection"is excellent guide to working with clients around these issues, and the motivational support and structure of psychotherapy will enhance the success of this method.
Just reading the book will help people working with these issues on their own, although doing the simple, easy exercises will provide the greatest long-term benefit.
One thing readers will like about this book is that they won't feel pressure to rush to the next chapter. They can stay with a set of ideas or an exercise until they “get” the lesson—depending on what aspects of rejection sensitivity are most true for them, some chapters will provide a greater learning experience. Readers also can skip around if they want, though the author has provided a pretty good roadmap for most people.
Highly recommended!

Dr. Leslie illustrates beautifully touching on issues that affect the humanistic relationship with oneself and with each other.   The author is very knowledgable and insightful about relaying real-life relatable situations. Dr. Leslie encourages self-awareness by giving us tools to recognize certain triggers and encourages the reader to turn that emotion into a positive light.  This book does recommend that the reader does the work to overcome feelings of rejection  (such as keeping a journal, and becoming aware of the intensity of the emotions).  I highly recommend as a go-to book!

Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps has written an excellent primer with concrete examples to help anyone understand how rejection can affect their happiness and well-being.  It provides a variety of easy to use tools and exercises that create a path to greater resilience in dealing with rejection.  I especially appreciated it as a resource to assist sales and marketing leaders who are often challenged with rejection of their ideas and solutions in the workplace.  This book serves as a terrific resource for times when we all need additional support.

Everyone has experienced rejection in one form or another. And very often the mix of emotions is difficult to Break down.  Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps unpacks all those emotions, how they develop, and best of all, how to process. Once explained in a rational manner, it is much easier to understand and move past.  The author works through the origins of these emotions in a clearly written text.  Emotions are difficult and rarely explained in a sympathetic yet logical manner.  Dr. Becker-Phelps accomplishes the emotional tidal wave of rejection and helps the bouncing back land on both feet.

Rejection is a part of everyone’s life from friendships, family, school , employment and love. The more equipped to understand our reactions and overcome the barriers that can paralyze us from rejection, the better. Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps shares her deep knowledge and tools to overcoming and dealing with the pain of rejection in this book. It is not without a lot of self-work and she expects you to do the work as nobody can wave a magic wand and make your pain disappear. 

It is key to read this book prepared with a notebook and pen as it is necessary to do a lot of reflection. She provides many tools to help walk you through the process and I can see this book being used in college level psychology coursework as well. It makes the reader think and reflect deeply and is sure to shift thinking on the reader’s view of rejection.

I really enjoyed the book, as it gives an in-depth understanding of rejection. It offers a well=developed toolkit, that I found quite useful and practical. Overall she approaches the topic with a deep, sensitive, and nuanced view. I can surely recommend it.

Bouncing Back from Rejection

Reviewed by Paul DeCeglie
Paul DeCeglie is a veteran journalist (American Banker, Journal of Commerce), editor (National League Journal, California S&L Journal, Pattaya Today), and freelance writer (Entrepreneur, Nation’s Business, New York Times, Business Start-Ups).



Bouncing Back from Rejection

Fortified by three college psych classes, analysis with five therapists, criticism from ex-two wives who knew everything, and abandonment at birth, I come to this topic as a life-long survivor of rejection anxiety. Literally.

The fear has influenced virtually all of my relationships—romantic, social and professional. Nevertheless, after reading and rereading Bouncing Back, I was motivated and better-equipped to renew and heal relationships that I had ended months and even years ago. My new-found clarity enabled me to reach out, admit my flawed reasoning, and reconnect with friends and relatives. Not a piece of cake, but totally rewarding.

Needless to say, I heartily recommend this considered work that clearly describes the fear of rejection and its myriad consequences, and offers practical, comprehensible techniques to confront—if not alleviate--the pandemic phobia.

Bouncing Back from Rejection does not promise to eliminate rejection anxiety, nor does it put forward a simple, pop-psychology solution to the complex question. Instead, Leslie Becker-Phelps presents a step-by-step process to help readers recognize, understand and deal with their individual needs and fears. Not a quick fix, but a thoughtful, easy-to-follow process to help build resilience when feeling rebuffed, dismissed, criticized, refuted, humiliated or abandoned.
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Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps, Ph.D., author of Insecure in Love, writes for the lay person in a clear, conversational tone, avoiding jargon and obscure psychological terms. She seasons the 216-page volume with dramatic vignettes to demonstrate her points. The anecdotes and reoccurring characters are immediately recognizable; they are us, they are our experiences, our hurts, our inadequacies. As the characters evolve, their awareness and determination to come to terms with their fears also develop. At the same time, the reader is enticed to join in the journey, to maintain a journal of emotions and insight, to reflect on past experiences and to envision future relationships and events devoid of such fears. 

Be warned, however, Bouncing Back is not a walk in the park. Becker-Phelps is a task-master; she assigns homework, demands commitment, insists that you reread earlier chapters, that you reflect, ponder and ruminate, and that you progress at a pace that is comfortable for you.
  
Whether your fear of rejection manifests as simple discomfort or profound, immobilizing panic, you are not helpless or alone. Within the pages of Bouncing Back from Rejection you will find assistance, answers, and most importantly, a pathway toward feeling secure in romantic, social and professional relationships.
Furthermore, readers are encouraged to expand their scope of instruction by visiting relevant links on the Becker-Phelps’ web site which features graphs and charts for use with workbooks, as well as additional support tools, and related counsel. All of which contribute to developing perspective for nurturing what she calls “compassionate self-awareness.” 

Toward that end, Becker-Phelps has coined the acronym STEAM (Sensations, Thoughts, Emotions, Actions, and Mentalizing), representing the five domains that must be explored in order to achieve self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-kindness. 

The relationship expert, who writes for WebMD.com and Psychology Today, guides readers through each of the STEAM elements of awareness that help engender the insight necessary to resolve rejection-related issues with others and within themselves.

Many have tackled the complex issue of rejection, of course, but perhaps not with the same insight and understanding that Dr. Becker-Phelps brings to the subject. A fresh, compassionate and open-minded approach that asks readers only to follow the clear directions pointing to better relationships and happier lives…if they commit to the effort.
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All of us have felt or dealt with rejection at one time. Bouncing Back From Rejection by Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD helps us understand and identify the science behind the theory of attachment and offers useful strategies to make changes. Dr. Becker-Phelps provides exercises that are a roadmap to enhance self-worth and create positive relationships. The book is down to earth but well-grounded in research. 

After finishing Bouncing Back From Rejection, a reader will have the tools and knowledge to build resilience, gain self-awareness, and feel confident with themselves and in their relationships. A very good resource to have on the shelf and especially for counselors and therapists to use as a tool.

I manage a support group and I cannot express how helpful Bouncing Back from Rejection by Leslie Becker-Phelps is! The book is free from the rhetoric of many books in its genre. I appreciate the thoughtful, insightful, straight-to-the point style of the author. It’s grounded in solid theory and research.