Elizabeth Berg has chronicled her life over the years of when roles of parent and child changed for her. She has so eloquently written what many adults feel as they move into the role of caring for their parents if they are fortunate enough to have parents that live long lives. In her case, she was dealing with dementia/Alzheimers, but feelings and concepts of the love.care,ups, downs, frustrations,happy occasions are universal. It is a very heartfelt and touching book. 
I was provided an.Advanced Reader.Copy and was under no obligation to provide a review. Many thanks to the author, publisher, and net galley for allowing me the opportunity to read this book.

Elizabeth Berg’s novel chronicles her parent’s love story that lasted over 60 years. The love and devotion between this couple seem almost impossible to imagine in today’s world where marriages seldom pass the test of time and life challenges.

As her parents age and their health declines, and her once vibrant father is diagnosed with Alzheimer's, we see the family’s struggle to at once help their parents and allow them the dignity to make life-changing decisions.

A touching memoir that will resonate with many, young and old who are faced with similar decisions.

Many thanks to Net Galley and the publisher for the ARC.

I was comforted by this memoir dealing with the aging of Berg’s parents. It was comforting to know that what I’ve been feeling as I deal with my husband’s dementia is not that different from the experiences of others. I understood the anger and resentment of Berg’s mother. I understood how its difficult to express this anger appropriately. If you find yourself dealing with a spouse or parents who need to move into a safer place, this book is for you. I’m tempted to buy several copies to have on hand as gifts.

3.5
As someone who went through a very familiar situation 15 years ago it was quite painful to read Berg's story, but it was also comforting, because as we all know, misery loves company. 
I'd admire her ability to write down all that happened in the moment and to not be afraid to reveal her own emotions. There is a fair amount of anger and resentment that occurs when dealing with elderly parents as well as the love and sadness.

This book hit close to home as I have experienced my parents’ descent into Alzheimers and ultimate death (3 years apart). Berg’s insightful comments touched my heart, reminded me of bittersweet memories. A heartbreaking memoir, beautiful and relatable.

Quite a few years ago I picked up a copy of Open House by Elizabeth Berg. It just so happened it came out at almost exactly the same time I was in a similar situation as Sam, the main character. Her voice was like reading my own story right in front of me, and I was smitten from those first few pages; her story was mine.

From that time I have read nearly every word Elizabeth Berg has written, including her current Facebook posts. She speaks to me, through me in her writings. In this latest story, a memoir, she tells a different story, but her words create the same kind of mood and emotions that always strike me as my own. This story, I'll Be Seeing You, is the story of Elizabeth and her sibling's journey through role reversal with their aging parents. Father is a retired WWII and Korean veteran. He was always stern and rigid until one day Elizabeth was able to reconcile with his demeanor, and he to soften his militant ways. He has always adored their mother. his wife, and put her first in every manner. Mom was the classic suburban housewife of the 50s and following decades; always putting her family first before her own needs, but also always knowing her husband adored her. 

Mom and dad are now elderly; dad has memory issues and mom is tired and to the breaking point. Suddenly, or maybe gradually, the task of having her adoring husband following her every step has become too much. This is the story of siblings moving their parents from their home of 45 years into smaller assisted living quarters, and the battles which ensued. I think of my mothers, both gone now before these type of decisions needed to be made. It makes me consider my own father; still youthful, yet aging. It makes me think of what it will be like for me, myself, when that time comes - who will help me settle in as Elizabeth and her siblings did their parents? I find myself looking around my own home - I have lived here on this property for 38 years now. The time will come, yet it is hard to imagine, much like as a child it is hard to comprehend getting to teen aged years. It is unfathomable, as it is to a teen, how to arrive at that place where no one tells you where to go, how to act, what to do. This story is about the phases of life each of us go through, and that there is no perfect one solution to any situation. 

In the end acknowledgements; to those readers who said "this will help so many people." That is so true. Thank you, Random House, for the opportunity to read it. Thank you, Elizabeth Berg, for writing it.

Watching our parents age and seeing roles reversed can be a devastatingly painful experience for many, but in Berg’s new memoir she candidly writes about the process and does it wonderfully.  Filled with hope, love, humor, despair, letting go and precious moments, she takes us through her journey as her father gets the heartbreaking diagnosis of Alzheimer’s, the move from the family home and the impact it has on family.  Anyone who is (or has) navigated through these life alternating changes will find this honestly written memoir heart touching.

I knew I wanted to read I’ll Be Seeing You as soon as I read the summary description. Alzheimer’s is too present in my life and the recurring and unwelcome visits to those around me leave me feeling so sad and helpless. Having the firsthand knowledge as a companion to reading this memoir created a strong, personal, and familiar connection to the lives and characters before me. I could sympathize and commiserate, yet I was also able to look at it in a different point of view since my own parents thankfully have not been the ones afflicted with this horrible disease. 

I loved the prologue. The personal and slightly humorous opening set the preface for the rest of the book. The prose was easy and comfortable, and promised more to come. 

Elizabeth Berg is a very talented author and I became a huge fan of hers after reading The Story of Arthur Truluv. I knew I would not be disappointed when reading this book. I commend her for sharing her personal and emotional life with us.

Endearing story of the author's parents, and how the whole family coped with aging and illness. The decision of caring for one's elderly parents at home or moving them to an assisted living facility have to be made. The decisions necessary to complete a living will. This story was well written and thoughtfully written.

I’ll Be Seeing You  rang heartbreakingly true to me. My family is in the early stages of figuring out how to deal with a parent with dementia but we are already having the same issues Berg recounts. It is hard to know when you are helping or when you are making things worse. There don’t seem to be any easy answers so it helps to see that Berg and her siblings don’t do everything perfectly. This is life.

Elizabeth Berg is an author who I love her work and this one was a heart-warming tale of what makes us human.

Berg writes the account of caring for her parents in their declining years. Her father is diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease and I had a grandfather with Alzheimer's so I could relate. Berg finds herself in the role of care-giver to not just her dad, but her mom as she moves into this new life stage. Berg explores all the options for her parents;  finding the necessary care, questioning medical professionals and making difficult decisions such as whether to sell the family home. During all of this she wrestles with feelings of depression and frustration, but also anger and grief, which anyone can understand they are all big decisions. She holds nothing back as she her struggles to make these choices and thinks about her own mortality in the process. 
Such a beautiful book, keep some tissues handy but be ready to enjoy some laughs too. Berg's writing is lyrical and real as always. 

Thank you to the author, publisher, and Net Galley for this ARC!

This was so well written and captured all the feelings that one goes through while dealing with the caregiving of family. If you've been there, this is so relatable; if you haven't, it gives you a good idea of what it's like to experience, with all the frustration, anger, humor, grace and love that you feel. You can feel the love and warmth in this family even when they are at odds.

If you have admired Elizabeth Berg’s heart-warming tales of what makes us human, then you will love her memoir, “I’ll be Seeing You.”

Here, Ms. Berg writes the account of caring for her parents in their declining years. The author’s dad is diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease and as happens to many adult children, Ms. Berg finds herself in the role of care-giver to not just her dad, but her mom as she moves into this new life stage. Like many of us who have aging parents, the author grapples with finding the necessary care for her parents, questioning medical professionals and making difficult decisions such as whether to sell the family home. At the same time, she wrestles with not just feelings of depression and frustration, but also anger and grief. Ms. Berg holds nothing back as she her struggles to make choices that her parents won’t necessarily agree with and at the same time, looks ahead at her own mortality. 

You need at least one box of Kleenex tissues to get through this book. Don’t worry, that sadness will be balanced with plenty of humor in true Berg style. 

Thank you to the author, publisher, and Net Galley for an opportunity to read this novel.

Wow. 
Kudos, Elizabeth Berg, on a really fine book. 

Sometimes a book just comes along at the right time and it resonates so deeply. That happened with me while reading "I'll Be Seeing You." Elizabeth and her sister's experiences with her parents parallel in many, many ways what is happening with my family circle right now. It was incredibly helpful to read about the feelings that she and her sister were having, her take on each of her parents' emotions, trials and responses. 

I will absolutely be sending a copy of this book to my sisters-in-law. I think the men might be too close to see it/read about it but it will help us to help them talk it through and navigate it.. and sooner or later we will be doing the same. 

My deepest thanks to Ms Berg for writing this book. It is indeed helpful to others. This has been the most impactful book I have read in 2020 and I will be actively recommending it!

Crossposted to Goodreads and also will post on Amazon.

I admit that I had to put this down for a bit. Berg, who is an eloquent and compassionate writer, touched a nerve with this memoir about her parents, her siblings, and herself.  How you react to this will likely depend on where you are on the spectrum of life.   Berg, who is 70, struck a chord with me- I'm a bit younger- but my mother is 91.  I've been lucky that she chose to move herself into a community so I was not faced with the daunting task that Berg and her siblings had to cope with.  I did, however, hear my mother's voice, as well as my own, in this memoir as parents and children navigate a new normal.  She hits the practicalities as well as the emotional turmoil.  And, saddest of all, she describes her father's Alzheimer's.  It's usually really difficult to review a memoir without feeling as though you are commenting on an individual's life or life choices, but that's not the case here.  There are no easy choices as our parents age.  Berg, however, has written about them and their passage with grace.  Thanks to Netgalley for the ARC.  A worthy read.

I, too, am 70 years old and feel as shocked as if I'd just written "I am a peacock." I, too, have gone down this path with grandparents, a great aunt, in-laws, and my parents. Elizabeth describes it perfectly. While the details may be different, the "flow is the same and I cried - and laughed - along with her.  Thank you for such a gift, Elizabeth.

A touching story about the author as a caregiver to her aging parents.  She presented a very healthy and loving perspective. I appreciated her love and understanding of the situation.

I'll Be Seeing You is the beautifully written story of Elizabeth Berg's father's descent into Alzheimer's Disease, which results in the author and her siblings having to make the decision to move her parents out of their long time home and into a care facility.  This is a difficult decision and is made more difficult by the reaction of her mother who does not want to leave her home, although she can no longer take care of her husband, the house or get around as well as she used to.

I'll Be Seeing You is fraught with the sad and hard decisions that come with breaking up the family home, making decisions for elderly parents that you don't want to have to make, especially when you are the child that lives far away and not the one who all of the care and work falls to.  This novel is important reading for all of us in the sandwich generation who are taking care of our parents, taking care of our children and are getting up in age ourselves.  We don't want to think about the decisions that will need to be made for our parents and for us, but the hard fact is that they will NEED to be made, often sooner than we want. This novel clarifies how difficult it can be and has made me realize that when the time comes I need to be considerate of my children if they're making decisions for me and considerate of my parents if I must make these decisions for them.  As they are in their late 80s, I'm sure I'll be dealing with that sooner than I would like.  An excellent novel that does make you think on the important topic of aging, whether you want to or not!

Thank you to the author, Random House and NetGalley for an ARC of this novel in exchange for my honest review.

I have always been a huge fan of Elizabeth Berg and her newest book does not disappoint. This memoir of her last few years with her parents resonates with all of us. She opens up about the fears and frustrations of watching her parents decline and the difficulties of decision making for her parents. At times there are resentments on both sides and doubts about decisions made. Berg takes us along on her journey with her siblings on going from being the child of the parents to becoming the parent of the parents. The author is extremely candid about the efforts made to ensure the best possible choices for her parents in their declining years. Thank you to NetGalley and the publishers for the opportunity to read this book in advance.

I am a huge fan of Ms. Berg’s books and I have read all of her wonderful novels.  I had the opportunity to meet her at a book reading at our local library.  This memoir resonated with me, as I am experiencing this very same thing.  Ms. Berg perfectly captured the astounding mix of emotions.  Even the book’s title evokes musical memories.  She is such a good storyteller, one of the best around.  Highly recommended!