Children of the Self-Absorbed
A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents
by Nina W. Brown
This title was previously available on NetGalley and is now archived.
Pub Date 28 May 2020 | Archive Date 23 Mar 2020
New Harbinger Publications, Inc., New Harbinger
Do you have a self-absorbed or narcissistic parent who’s made you feel rejected, unloved, or unworthy?
Being a parent is usually all about giving of yourself to foster your child's growth and development. But what happens when this isn't the case? Some parents dismiss the needs of their children, asserting their own instead, demanding attention and reassurance from even very young children. This may especially be the case when a parent has narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). This fully revised and updated edition of a self-help classic offers a step-by-step approach to resolving conflict and building a meaningful relationship with a narcissistic parent.
Children of the Self-Absorbed offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help you identify the extent of your parent's problem. You'll learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on your relationships. Packed with proven techniques, you'll realize that you’re not helpless against your parent's behavior, and that you don’t have to give up on the relationship. Instead, you’ll find realistic strategies and steps for setting up mutually agreed upon behaviors, so you can fulfill your own emotional needs.
In this new edition, you’ll discover:
Skills for managing intense emotions
Tools for building character, self-esteem, and self-acceptance
How kindness and gratitude can promote self-healing
How to build trust and empathy with others
If you’re ready to begin healing from the pain of growing up with a self-absorbed parent and establish the boundaries you need to thrive—this book will guide you, one step at a time.
—Travis J. Courville, LCSW, CGP, FAGPA, licensed clinical social worker, fellow of the American Group Psychotherapy Association, certified group psychotherapist, and adjunct professor in the Graduate College of Social Work at the University of Houston
“Positive revenge and bypassing forgiveness are two brilliant strategies found in this remarkable guide that provides a detailed map to moving forward from wounds inflicted by parents who prioritize themselves above their children. This novel path can preserve and repair connection without retaliatory damage. Included are varied expressive exercises—writing, drawing, visualizing—that have broad reach for individuals, practitioners, and educators alike. With sensitivity and without judging, Nina Brown outlines how to implement these creative steps to healing that can lead the way to your most satisfying life!”
—Helene Satz, PsyD, ABPP, CGP, LFAGPA, behavioral health faculty at Tripler Army Medical Center in Honolulu, HI; 2018 recipient of the Harold S. Bernard Group Psychotherapy Training Award from the International Board for Certification of Group Psychotherapists