It's OK

Being Kind to Yourself When Things Feel Hard

This title was previously available on NetGalley and is now archived.
Buy on Amazon Buy on Buy on
*This page contains affiliate links, so we may earn a small commission when you make a purchase through links on our site at no additional cost to you.
Send NetGalley books directly to your Kindle or Kindle app

To read on a Kindle or Kindle app, please add as an approved email address to receive files in your Amazon account. Click here for step-by-step instructions.
Also find your Kindle email address within your Amazon account, and enter it here.
Pub Date 28 Mar 2023 | Archive Date 04 Apr 2023

Talking about this book? Use #ItsOK #NetGalley. More hashtag tips!


This sweet book teaches children 3–7 the simple and profound power of self-compassion through simple affirmations that can be repeated when things are hard.

All too often kids get down on themselves when they experience things that make them sad, angry, guilty, or jealous. It’s amazing how powerful it can be to move past a difficult emotion when we think about all the other people feeling that same way and show ourselves some much needed kindness.   
    Sometimes I have to do something I don’t want to do. 
    I feel really angry. . . . 
    Then I remember that everyone feels angry sometimes. 
    I put my hand on my heart, and here’s what I say: 
    “It’s OK—I love you. I’m with you today.” 
The main story is followed by 10 exercises focused on ways to develop self-compassion, such as Kind Voice, Kind Body, Kind Touch, and Hugging Breath.
This sweet book teaches children 3–7 the simple and profound power of self-compassion through simple affirmations that can be repeated when things are hard.

All too often kids get down on themselves...

Available Editions

EDITION Other Format
ISBN 9781645470953
PRICE $17.95 (USD)

Available on NetGalley

NetGalley Shelf App (PDF)
Send to Kindle (PDF)
Download (PDF)

Average rating from 10 members

Featured Reviews

If i could rate this book higher i would!
This childrens book was such a good one!
I loved the message it sent"Love Yourself" and it wasn't just a story, it was interactive.
The illustrations were beautiful as well.
The book wasn't too long or too short. and it had some tips in the back to further help.

As a mother with 2 autistic children, this book will be extremely helpful with recognizing our emotions and how to start to handle them. It gives you and the child that foot in the door to be able to explore your emotions and understanding that the emotion is valid in any situation.

Was this review helpful?

I love the children’s books that are published by this press. They are always well done and gently inspiring. That is definitely the case here.

It’s OK is teaching children self-compassion and how to identify their feelings, all the while recognizing that others have felt this way too. Here are crucial aspects of social emotional learning.

The text is simple and the illustrations are appealing. The repeated mantra is there for children to use. In addition there is a section at the end of the book that offers additional practices for self-acceptance.

This book belongs in both preschool and home libraries. It would be excellent for an adult and child to talk about this title together. This book might even help adults to be kinder to themselves.

Many thanks to NetGalley and Shambhala Publications for this title. All opinions are my own.

Was this review helpful?

I really loved this book. The repetition is frequent enough that kids will be able to join in reading the affirmation (even if they can't read), but it doesn't repeat so much that the story is boring.

The illustrations are lovely, and I really appreciate that there is a very diverse set of characters but the differences aren't the focal point. The characters are just existing and all going through a relatable emotional experience.

The lesson in the book, that feelings are valid but you are still okay and are still loved, is important. There's no minimizing or guilt with feeling upset "everyone gets upset". It's honest and I like that.

This is a book I'd like to purchase for both of my Libraries, and for at home.

Was this review helpful?

This would be a great addition to an SEL shelf in a classroom or guidance office. This book is filled with affirmations and exercises to help get emotions under control and provide reassurance. It also shows the reader that they are not alone in their emotions.

Was this review helpful?

It's OK by Wendy O'Leary is a beautifully illustrated and important book. I love child-centred reads on mental health, emotional literacy and self-love. By the end of the book, my 4 year old knew exactly when to say "It's Ok - I love you.." It was so sweet. I found the "I am here.." a bit strange, and after finishing the book I had to explain to her that it is telling these phrases to herself, not to me. There is no minimizing of the emotions, it is clear with each emotion that everyone feels these feelings sometimes. I loved that there were additional exercises at the end of the book. This is a bookshelf must have at home, preschool, and school.

Thank you to Shambhala Publications, Inc., Bala Kids and NetGalley for this ARC!

Was this review helpful?

Thanks to NetGalley for access to this advance copy for my honest review.

This book uses various common situations and repetition to teach children a mantra they can say when things do not go as they planned. It is a great book for younger children, because it is simple to understand and the repetition will help them to learn and apply in their every day life. I found the back of the book to be most beneficial when reading this book to older children. The author has provided additional ways to attain self-compassion through easy activities children can do on their own.

Was this review helpful?

A sweet book which gives small children the tools they need to calm themselves during frustrating and scary times. It gives their emotions names. Angry. It’s ok everyone feels angry sometimes. It’s okay to feel angry but you need to calm yourself down. I put my hand on my heart and I say it’s ok I love you. Everyone feels scared sometimes. I’m ok hand on my heart I love you. Home libraries should have one that is taught often as a family. Yes, I absolutely would recommend to littles.

Was this review helpful?

The last few years I have seen an increase in childhood anxiety and I am always on the lookout for good books to share with my class to help with processing emotions. I love that this book acknowledges many kinds of uncomfortable feelings and provides a way for children to address these feelings with kindness and compassion for themselves. Being able to name emotions is an important step for emotional literacy. The exercises at the end of the book are great.

Was this review helpful?

Readers who liked this book also liked: