“Leading trauma expert Frank Anderson gifts us with an intimate and vulnerable glimpse into his personal journey of self-discovery to overcome his own childhood trauma. To Be Loved is a beautifully written and empowering story of resilience, healing, and forgiveness that offers hope for all survivors of childhood trauma.”

—Dr. Nicole LePera, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller How to Do the Work

Rarely does a trauma therapist disclose their own trauma history … yet it’s the untold, brutally honest, and incredibly heartbreaking story of Dr. Frank Anderson that made him the world-renowned trauma expert he is today.

Known for his magnetic and radiant personality, Frank spends his time training thousands of clinicians around the world on how to help clients with complex trauma make sense of their suffering. But underneath this charismatic exterior are his dark family secrets, including the marks of child abuse from his father and the invisible scars of shame.

His colleagues and fellow therapists would never know this … .until now.

In To Be Loved, Harvard-trained psychiatrist and longtime associate of Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score, Frank shares his complicated and alienating experience of growing up gay in an Italian American home that was at once fiercely loving but at the same time unaccepting, abusive, and rife with secret shame.

After enduring the appalling reality of the 1970’s conversion therapy and forcing himself to be something that he wasn’t for decades – all while forging a path in the psychiatry field – Frank realized that resilience, forgiveness, and embracing his truth were the keys to overcoming his trauma … and finally knowing what it means to be loved.