To Be Loved

A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation

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Pub Date 07 May 2024 | Archive Date 15 Jun 2024

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“Leading trauma expert Frank Anderson gifts us with an intimate and vulnerable glimpse into his personal journey of self-discovery to overcome his own childhood trauma. To Be Loved is a beautifully written and empowering story of resilience, healing, and forgiveness that offers hope for all survivors of childhood trauma.”

—Dr. Nicole LePera, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller How to Do the Work

Rarely does a trauma therapist disclose their own trauma history … yet it’s the untold, brutally honest, and incredibly heartbreaking story of Dr. Frank Anderson that made him the world-renowned trauma expert he is today.

Known for his magnetic and radiant personality, Frank spends his time training thousands of clinicians around the world on how to help clients with complex trauma make sense of their suffering. But underneath this charismatic exterior are his dark family secrets, including the marks of child abuse from his father and the invisible scars of shame.

His colleagues and fellow therapists would never know this … .until now.

In To Be Loved, Harvard-trained psychiatrist and longtime associate of Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score, Frank shares his complicated and alienating experience of growing up gay in an Italian American home that was at once fiercely loving but at the same time unaccepting, abusive, and rife with secret shame.

After enduring the appalling reality of the 1970’s conversion therapy and forcing himself to be something that he wasn’t for decades – all while forging a path in the psychiatry field – Frank realized that resilience, forgiveness, and embracing his truth were the keys to overcoming his trauma … and finally knowing what it means to be loved.

“Leading trauma expert Frank Anderson gifts us with an intimate and vulnerable glimpse into his personal journey of self-discovery to overcome his own childhood trauma. To Be Loved is a beautifully...


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“Leading trauma expert Frank Anderson gifts us with an intimate and vulnerable glimpse into his personal journey of self-discovery to overcome his own childhood trauma. To Be Loved is a beautifully written and empowering story of resilience, healing, and forgiveness that offers hope for all survivors of childhood trauma.”

—Dr. Nicole LePera, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller How to Do the Work

“Leading trauma expert Frank Anderson gifts us with an intimate and vulnerable glimpse into his personal journey of self-discovery to overcome his own childhood trauma. To Be Loved is a beautifully...


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I have to admit, I don't usually read much nonfiction on trauma, maybe because I endured a great deal of trauma myself growing up, and reading similar accounts often acts as a trigger to me. It was the title that helped me overcome that barried, to take a chance on "To Be Loved" by Dr. Frank G. Anderson. I'm pleased to report that it was well worth the time.

Anderson unfolds a narrative revealing the hidden trauma history behind his success. Familial abuse during his upbringing in an Italian American household did not dissuade him becoming a leading world figure in trauma therapy.

Anderson candidly shares his struggles as a gay individual facing harsh rejection that extended to him having to suffer conversion therapy in the 1970s. Through resilience, forgiveness, and embracing his truth, he navigates a path towards healing, illustrating the power of overcoming childhood trauma.

This intimate glimpse into Anderson's personal odyssey brings home the importance of resilience and self-discovery in the face of adversity. "To Be Loved" is a testament to resilience, offering hope and empowerment to survivors of childhood trauma, poignantly articulated through Anderson's journey of healing and forgiveness.

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To Be Frank is a good read! We follow his journey from childhood realizing who he is and coming to terms with it through the years. The struggles and traumas Frank goes through are all too familiar for those of us in the LGBTQ+ community. Something I really liked about this book was the playlist of songs that go with each chapter. I think it was such a poignant way to reflect on each chapter! Definitely recommend!

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Frank Anderson, passionate and compassionate trauma healer, reflects on the life that helped form him, turning him into the kind, confident and compassionate person we see today, and what a journey it's been. His story-telling ability, honed by his Italian family over dinners and parties, shares all manner of moments, some benign and entertaining, and many life-changing. Frank's writing evokes these memories expertly, stories interjected with snippets of dialogue that put you right in the moment of the scene.
His journey, not always as expected, covers the madcap antics of his family, his first relationships, the med-school experience, the surrogacy journey, the joys and struggles of parenting, coming out of a life defined by trauma, and finally forgiveness. So many of his experiences are awful, but he makes sense of them in a way that you too can make sense and helps us to see these things differently. As Frank learns, processes and grows, the wisdom and warmth come through. And don't despair, there is plenty of love and joy in there as well, we'd expect nothing less.
Hearing the voice of a gay man who has overcome childhood trauma and its impacts through life gives hope to all who can identify with him, who can hope too to find love, acceptance and belonging in life, shows it is all possible. A wonderful read, thank you to Frank for opening up his story to us.
Thank you NetGalley and PESI Publishing for sending this book for review consideration. All opinions are my own.

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