Loud

It's easy to call this a modern feminist manifesto - a bit memoir, a bit self-help, and every page a call to action to influence your world for your own well-being, and by extension, the well-being of others. If all you know of Drew is that she drags misogynistic dudes on the internet, you'll have missed everything else she puts out into the world, and this book allows that side of her to come out: the woman, the ally, the one who has your back, and the one who believes in the sisterhood of women and femmes.

While I have a decade on her, there are valuable lessons and reminders in this book for any age. Whether it's about decisions around work, life, romance, friendships, bodies, and society, the reminder to fight the boxes the patriarchy wants to shove us into is an important one. The reminder that we have to work on ourselves but should never hesitate to recognize we don't have to do it alone is a powerful one as well. In the end, you'll have laughed with Drew, cried with and for her, and feel like you're not alone in some of the things you think, feel, and dream.

It's like reading an encouraging letter from the most baddie friend you have, and you should take every single word to heart. This is an entry-level text on unlearning the confines of the patriarchy, and hopefully a stepping stone for so many women and femmes in this world to explore it more.

”I target awful men who attack marginalized people on the internet for no reason and I never miss.” OK MS DREW

This book was something I didn’t know I wanted or needed. I love Drew’s work online and I think she’s hysterical, which is why I requested the ARC in the first place.

While some might claim this is feminist self help rhetoric, it instead dismantles a lot of what we as women experience throughout our teenage and young adult years and spoon feeds it to you with the right amount of humor and evidence.

I found myself getting emotional during the section “I’d Rather Die Alone” because I felt seen. Seen and heard by another woman I have never met who is living a completely different life than me. Her experience, her growth and her viewpoint were so refreshing and I just adored my time with that section in particular.

It’s really inspiring and validating to read about a woman who asserts herself and puts down men who deserve it. She’s mean! The way we can all be mean! But really, 99% of what Drew details in this book isn’t rude or mean at all, it’s advocating for yourself in ways you’re not used to.

A massive, massive thank you to the publisher and NetGalley for this arc. I enjoyed every second.

I received this book as an advanced reader copy provided by NetGalley.

Reading this book as a 42 year old married woman I constantly said to myself, where was Drew when I was a teenager or young adult?! The amount of insights and sound advice that Drew provides in this book will set up any young woman for success.

This book isn’t about dating, it isn’t about misogyny but it’s about knowing and finding your self worth. Buy this book for your daughter/child getting near the age of leaving the nest.

The power that Drew Afualo holds is honestly unmatched because before I read this I don’t think anyone could have convinced me to read a “Self-Help” book. I am usually allergic to looking within. I do not like to be perceived.

However!! Drew delivers a funny and empowering book. I found myself both in stitches and tears while reading this.

Also, for someone who never takes advantage of the highlighting feature on my Kindle, I wore it OUT with this book. It’s so insanely quotable and I can’t wait to read it again when it releases.

I will be shoving this book into the hands of all the women in my life.

*Thank you SO MUCH to Netgalley and Farrar, Straus and Giroux for the e-ARC!