Why You're Not Married Yet

If you're looking to get married and you'renot, there's most likely a very good reason: you. Not that you're a badperson-you're certainly not! It's just that you haven't yet become the womanyou need to be in order to have the partnership you want. So how you can growinto someone who is ready to say "I do" and to attract the same in a mate?

You start with this book.

Based on her wildly popular Huffington Postarticle-one of the site's most-viewed of all time-Why You're Not Married . .. Yet dishes out straightforward, no-holds-barred practical and provenadvice for women hoping to head down the aisle or just have a greatrelationship. With sisterly insight, razor-sharp wit, and refreshing candor,McMillan points out the things that might be in your blind spot: unhelpfulattitudes, behaviors, and beliefs so easy to identify in others, much moredifficult to see in yourself. Then she shows you how to adjust them to get therelationship you deserve. Like a no-nonsense but loving best friend, McMillanmeets you right where you are to help you get where you're going-with clarityand honesty. And she'll make you laugh out loud along the way. More than just arelationship manual, Why You're Not Married . . . Yet will help youdiagnose what's preventing you from getting what you want. Do any of thesechapter headings sound familiar?

• You're a Bitch:How defensiveness and anger can hide behind a tough, take-charge exterior, andwhy being nice is never a sign of weakness.

• You're a Liar:How to stop lying to men-and get honest with yourself-about the kind ofrelationship you really want. It's the only way.

• You're Shallow:Being a woman who insists on a tall guy is no different from being a man whodemands big boobs. Learn why you should let go of trying to get what you thinkyou should have and focus on getting what you need.

• You're Selfish: Thebig secret about marriage: It's about giving something, not gettingit. The other big secret: You will have to go first.

Why You're Not Married . . . Yetisn't so much about getting a husband as it is about shifting your perspectiveon being a wife. Here's a funny, insightful guide to becoming a more lovingwoman and creating a more loving marriage-even if you're already partnered.It's a book that will change your life and the way you think aboutrelationships, and it may very well lead you down the aisle.

Tracy McMillanis a television writer whose credits include Mad Men, United States of Tara,Life on Mars, and Necessary Roughness. She's the author of a memoir,I Love You and I'm Leaving You Anyway. She lives in Los Angeles and isthe mother of a fifteen-year-old son.