Smart, Successful & Abused
The Unspoken Problem of Domestic Violence and High-Achieving Women
by Dr. Angela Mailis
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Pub Date 25 Sep 2019 | Archive Date 01 Dec 2020
In 2016, neuroscientist Angela Mailis, a world-renowned expert on chronic pain management, was brought face to face with domestic violence when an accomplished colleague was murdered by her equally accomplished husband. It was familiar territory for Dr. Mailis, who herself had been involved in an emotionally abusive relationship for twenty-seven years. She immediately redirected her research towards what is perhaps the most puzzling form of domestic violence: the abuse endured by high-achieving women who to all appearances have everything required to stand up for themselves.
These victims spend their days as the powerhouses of boardrooms, universities, clinics, and law courts. They have educations, talent, resourcefulness, and financial competence. Yet they allow themselves to be mentally dominated and emotionally and/or physically beaten by the men in their lives. How does it happen? What can be done about it?
Smart, Successful & Abused is the result of Dr. Mailis’ search for answers to these questions, a search that has taken her to the frontiers of medical research, into the homes and offices of successful career women caught in violent relationships, and deep into her own experience as an abused spouse. Her conclusions and advice will help entrapped women recognize and deflate the delusions that prevent them from acting in their best interests.
“If you are educated, intelligent and strong in other areas of your life, it’s hard to imagine that you are a victim, but it happens. Dr. Mailis brings the intimacy and empathy of her own experiences together with her professional insights to empower women and jump-start a much-needed dialogue.” — JANE FRANCISCO, editor-in-chief, Good Housekeeping and editorial director, Hearst Lifestyle Group
“Smart, Successful & Abused opened my eyes and shattered my own unconscious bias about the profile of a domestic abuse victim. Dr. Mailis draws the reader into this complex and troubling topic with a compelling combination of research, observations and personal storytelling. I could not put the book down once I started, intrigued to understand more so that I could recognize the signs and support women in my network who may be struggling. “ — BETH WILSON, CEO Dentons Canada
“Angela Mailis’s important, timely book is a much-needed addition to literature on intimate-partner violence. Through her own gripping story and those of other high- achieving women, Dr. Mailis shatters stereotypes about domestic abuse, reveals a little-studied population, and communicates the vital message that verbal and psychological abuse is as damaging as physical attacks.” — ANNE KINGSTON, journalist and author of The Meaning of Wife