60-40 or Fight

60-40 or Fight suggests that every relationship is a two person relationship and each person must accept 60% of the responsibility for making the relationship work, expecting the other person to accept less than half but more than none. When each person accepts more than half of the responsibility for making a relationship work, the overlap in flexibility will provide a comfort zone within which to build the relationship. If each person is willing to accept only half of the responsibility to make the relationship work then, because no one knows exactly where half is, each is likely to accept less than half and the lack of flexible overlap will result in a combat zone within which relationships are destroyed a combat zone. The book is based on 25 Christensen postulates which are explained throughout the book such as "Conflict, in relationships, is inevitable but resolvable," "Everyone can do something but no one can do everything," "When we have a problem we should look for a solution, not for someone to blame," "Pleasure is conditioned by contrast," and "The past is to learn from, not to live in." The author suggests that the real goal of everyone is not money, or comfort, or security or love but happiness; and the surest way to find happiness is by being a contributor. Then all these other things will fall into place as necessary.