The Burden of Better
How a Comparison-Free Life Leads to Joy, Peace, and Rest
by Heather Creekmore
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Pub Date 22 Sep 2020 | Archive Date 23 Mar 2021
Abilene Christian University Press & Leafwood Publishers, Leafwood Publishers
Tired of chasing better?
Why is it so easy to compare yourself to others yet so difficult to stop? In an era of carefully curated social media images, nonstop selfies, and TV shows devoted to perfection, comparison can consume you. Chasing something better quickly becomes a burden, weighing down your soul and preventing you from experiencing the freedom, contentment, and rest that God generously offers.
With wit and honesty, drawing from her own struggles, Heather will encourage you to look in the mirror and see the many ways that you compare yourself with others. But more than that, she will show you the true joy living a comparison-free life. While other books on comparison call readers to embrace their own uniqueness, The Burden of Better reveals that only a deep understanding of God’s grace, and a personal reliance on that grace, can cure the epidemic of comparison flooding your mind. Heather’s humor, personal stories, and empathetic approach offers a gospel-centered guide to kicking your comparison habit.
“The Burden of Better is a refreshing drink of grace on a world-weary day. Trade your worries, fears, and addiction to comparison for the hope-filled truths Heather Creekmore mines for you. Read this book, and you’ll experience the exhale you need, the holy pause that can come at the end of perfectionism. Friend, you are loved—gloriously as you are.” —Mary DeMuth, author of Pray Every Day: 90 Days of Prayer from God’s Word
“For many women, including myself, freedom from comparison has seemed elusive and impossible. Thankfully, Heather Creekmore has written a hopeful, truth-filled guide for us to finally resist and reject the comparison trap once and for all. It is possible to live the comparison-free life, and it is possible to live joyfully according to how God designed us!” —Christine Hoover, author of With All Your Heart and Messy Beautiful Friendship
“Heather Creekmore continues to open the door through her brilliant writing for women to look deep into the eyes of a Father who adores them. She is candid and authentic, which makes all of the doubts I have seem . . . just fine. This is one of those books that levels the playing the field and invites us to continually look up. A great read for every woman.” —Jami Amerine, author of Sacred Ground, Sticky Floors
“In my thirty years in mental health, one of the most prevalent issues I’ve seen in my office has been not truly knowing our identity in Christ. So many look to others and their accomplishments, only to come up short and lacking in the joy Christ came to give us. Too often we spend our efforts trying to be better, and in the end, we just carry around a burden we were not meant to carry. In The Burden of Better, Heather Creekmore uses her characteristic humorous style to help us understand how ‘the life of comparison is the old nature, not our new nature.’ If you’ve struggled with comparison, constantly trying to be better, then The Burden of Better should be on the top of your stack of books to read next!” —Michelle Bengtson, clinical neuropsychologist, international speaker, and author of Hope Prevails and Breaking Anxiety’s Grip
“A must-read for anyone desiring to reclaim rest in a world of #busy. Heather Creekmore is my go-to on the topic of comparison. With candor and honesty, Heather offers women practical truths to help them embrace their uniqueness and walk boldly in the fullness of who they were created to be.” —Constance Rhodes, founder of FINDINGbalance and TRUEvoice.co, and author of The Art of Being: Reflections on the Beauty and the Risk of Embracing Who We Are
“When it comes to the problem of women comparing themselves to other women, Heather Creekmore’s voice is one that I value most highly. Her empathy and compassion combined with her deep faith, piercing insights, and practical approach make her a trustworthy guide for women seeking to escape the trap of constant comparison. The burden of ‘better’ is one we aren’t meant to carry, and I’m grateful to Heather for showing the way to a life of joy, peace, and rest.” —Richella J. Parham, author of Mythical Me: Finding Freedom from Constant Comparison
“Heather has put her finger on the emotional pulse of an overwhelming majority of women today: the inner push to be more and better, and the fear that we’re not enough—all measured by the sinister ruler of comparison. Friends, take this journey with Heather to break out of the comparison prison. Joy awaits you; your daughters will thank you; and Jesus will meet you.” —Cindy Hawks, lead pastor’s wife of Hill Country Bible Church, women’s speaker, and Bible teacher
“This book is ahh-mazing. Certain parts gripped my spirit and rocked me to the core. I am changed. I can’t wait to re-read it.” —Nicole W., founder of REACH and blogger at My Reckless Faith
“Outstanding! I felt like I was reading my own story, but Heather’s wisdom leaves me with hope for overcoming this burden of better by God’s unending Grace!” —Tammy L., grandma, nature-lover, and professor
“Whoa, conviction with humor in one book? Yes, please! As a fellow CDD sufferer, this is a game changer for me and will be added to my annual reading list!” —Michelle B., caffeine and Texas addict, and dental nerd
“Incredible; real, honest and heartfelt. How it’s all brought together from transparency to transformation is mind blowing. There’s freedom in truth when we face it.” —Amy O., poet, stationary addict, and work in progress
“With each page, I could feel the release of the burden of better! Heather lays out a practical path toward off-loading the weight of comparison. And, it’s hilarious!” —Lisa B., loving wife, homeschooling mom, and juggler of all things
“I want to share this book with everyone I know! It speaks straight to the core of the issues, but with kindness, humor, and grace.” —Melissa V., passionate Jesus follower
“A must-read book, full of powerful messages that have taken me through an amazing, life-changing journey. I finally let go of trying to obtain a ‘perfect’ body and accepted the one I have.” —Kathryn M., practical personal trainer, mom, and grandma
“Like talking with your best friend, Heather shows us how to lay down the burden of comparison and rest in God’s beautiful grace.” —Kristin A., work in progress and child of God
“Women everywhere, from all walks of life, need this book in their lives. It’s rooted in Scripture with just enough grit and wit thrown in! A must read!” —Melissa H., teacher, passable seamstress, and girl mom
“Beauty has absolutely been my idol, comparison my trap. I’m grateful this book points out beauty’s deceitfulness and turns your thoughts away from obsession and towards Jesus.” —Whitney K., mom, singer, and diet soda addict
“So thoughtful. Truth filled in a way that makes me bolder. I laughed, nodded, spoke out loud and shouted ‘amen’ a few times. These are GET BETTER truths.” —Kara O., encouragement enthusiast, Christmas fanatic, wife, and mama
“Gone are the days of ruined vacations and un-celebratory celebrations spent comparing and highlighting our faults when we dig in and lean on our Creator. Expertly and eloquently written.” —Kelley J., blogger, comparison causality, and daughter of the King
“Reading this book feels like sitting down with a good friend who is sharing her heart with you. Such wise words on defeating the comparison trap. I highlighted so much!” —Dana H., wife, mom, writer, and avid reader
“Girl, I’m so glad I’m not the only one! Thank you a million times over for writing this! This ‘always searching for better’ heart needed you and the truth.” —Camber M., caffeine addict, sunshine lover, and chaos coordinator
“I love this book! Especially how it requires honest, critical thinking on my part. The Comparison-Free Action Plans are great for making this a hands-on, interactive book. Definite read!” —Shelly J., sweet tea-aholic
“I love how Heather shares her heart! Her practical, biblical teaching creates a desire for soul-searching, leading to freedom and contentment found only in Jesus.” —Amy V., Coffee drinker, Jesus girl, and learning to rest