How We Met
A Memoir of Love and Other Misadventures
by Huma Qureshi
This title was previously available on NetGalley and is now archived.
Pub Date 28 Jan 2021 | Archive Date 22 Apr 2021
"A beautiful, refreshing and honest memoir about family, love, inheritance and loss" - Nikesh Shukla, author of Brown Baby
"This beautiful, romantic memoir grabs you from the first page and won't let you go. Told with heart, wit and quiet restraint, How We Met is the story of how we can transcend the expectations of others and arrange our own happiness in life and in love." - Viv Groskop
You can't choose who you fall in love with, they say.
If only it were that simple.
Growing up in Walsall in the 1990s, Huma straddled two worlds - school and teenage crushes in one, and the expectations and unwritten rules of her family's south Asian social circle in the other. Reconciling the two was sometimes a tightrope act, but she managed it. Until it came to marriage.
Caught between her family's concern to see her safely settled down with someone suitable, her own appetite for adventure and a hopeless devotion to romance honed from Georgette Heyer, she seeks temporary refuge in Paris and imagines a future full of possibility. And then her father has a stroke and everything changes.
As Huma learns to focus on herself she begins to realise that searching for a suitor has been masking everything that was wrong in her life: grief for her father, the weight of expectation, and her uncertainty about who she really is. Marriage - arranged or otherwise - can't be the all-consuming purpose of her life. And then she meets someone. Neither Pakistani nor Muslim nor brown, and therefore technically not suitable at all. When your worlds collide, how do you measure one love against another?
As much as it is about love, How We Met is also about falling out with and misunderstanding each other, and how sometimes even our closest relationships can feel so far away. Warm, wise and ultimately uplifting, this is a coming-of-age story about what it really means to find 'happy ever after'.
'A fearlessly honest memoir of courage, love and loss, and trying to find your place in the world. Quietly heartbreaking but life-affirming too.' - Kia Abdullah, author of Take It Back
'There are the books that touch you. Then there are the books that open out their arms and straight out hug you - How We Met is this second kind of book. Honest, joyful, at times heart-breaking, at times laugh out loud funny, but always generous in its telling... this is Huma Qureshi, heart and soul.' -- Ami Rao, author of David and Ameena
'I devoured this brilliant memoir! A beautiful coming of age story, with a focus on love and questioning where matrimony fits into her life... Huma's voice is effortless, beautiful, incredibly refreshing and so relatable a really talented author.' --Haleh Agar, author of Out of Touch
'Every page radiates Huma's love for her family, for her emerging self, and for the possibilities of a life more fully lived' - Leah Hazard, author of Hard Pushed: A Midwife's Story
'This beautiful, romantic memoir grabs you from the first page and won't let you go. Told with heart, wit and quiet restraint, How We Met is the story of how we can transcend the expectations of others and arrange our own happiness in life and in love.' --Viv Groskop
'HOW WE MET encompasses the kind of love story you'd expect as well as several you might not: it's about the love of a couple but also the love of a family. It's about a love of culture and faith but also a love of finding new paths and of remaking. Huma Qureshi tells the story of her great loves with generosity and tenderness that will grab readers by the heart.' - Jean Hannah Edelstein, author of This Really Isn't About You
'How We Met is a wonderful read - a memoir of grief, becoming and true love. Huma Qureshi is a writer with a sharp eye and a romantic heart.' - Katherine May, author of Wintering
'How We Met is the book I, and countless women of similar heritage, have been waiting our whole lives for. I cried, and laughed out loud as I recognised myself in so much of Huma Qureshi's story.
"The book is about Huma and how she met and married her husband Richard, but it's more than that, it's about trying to do 'the right thing' in a shifting world, where you are all at once at home, and also somehow alien. It's about being the child of immigrants, it's about dreams, about motherhood, and it is about familial love, in its many forms. It's such a beautiful book of quiet confidence, and deserves to be read widely.
Huma is a huge talent, and a skillfull storyteller with an eye for an exquisite turn of phrase. I'm sure this memoir will be a huge success. It certainly deserves to be.' -Saima Mir, author of The Khan