The book was archived before our group could download it. We are sure that we would have enjoyed the book judging from the reviews it has received.

I am in charge of our Senior School library and am looking for a diverse array of new books to furnish their shelves with and inspire our young people to read a wider and more diverse range of books as they move through the senior school. It is hard sometimes to find books that will grab the attention of young people as their time is short and we are competing against technology and online entertainments.
This was a thought-provoking and well-written read that will appeal to young readers across the board. It had a really strong voice and a compelling narrative that I think would capture their attention and draw them in. It kept me engrossed and I think that it's so important that the books that we purchase for both our young people and our staff are appealing to as broad a range of readers as possible - as well as providing them with something a little 'different' that they might not have come across in school libraries before.
This was a really enjoyable read and I will definitely be purchasing a copy for school so that our young people can enjoy it for themselves. A satisfying and well-crafted read that I keep thinking about long after closing its final page - and that definitely makes it a must-buy for me!

Odd Girl Out: An Autistic Woman in a Neurotypical World is a raw and honest account of what it is like to be on the autistic spectrum. The book is a revelation for those who have not had similar experiences as Laura.

I didn't know much about Autism before I read this amazing account - very detailed and gives you an interesting detailed account of the daily life of someone suffering. Its a must read for sure!

An absolutely fascinating account of living with autism which, as the song says, is different for girls. The Rosie books by Graeme Simsion, and A Boy Made of Blocks, by Keith Stuart, are enjoyable to read as well as informative, but Laura James's experiences have been rather different and I found them very relatable. There is food for thought not only in respect of autism but also in how we fail to respect and celebrate the differences we all have, and how we have to conform in order to deal with the world, instead of being able to find the way that individually works best for us. It is a really well written book, and an engrossing and illuminating read.

Laura James speaks with clarity and vigour about her life before and after her diagnosis with autism during adulthood. Her passion for facts is both evident and enlightening throughout, with snippets from a range of specialists and professionals used to help illustrate the challenges faced by a woman who has fought to seem neuro typical. The final section, where Laura realises that judging herself by the benchmark of living a neuro typical life is not how she wants to live is an inspirational finale to a very thought provoking and interesting book. Thank you, Laura, for sharing your experiences.

An interesting insight into what it is like to live as an autistic person. The writer has been open and honest about her life and her relationships. However, there is a lot of very detailed, and sometimes quite technical, information about autism. This would be useful in a scientific article, however, I felt it detracted from the story. Having said that, it is also quite appropriate given the obsessive behaviours and 'interests' as described by the author. Thought provoking.

At the age of 45, journalist Laura James was diagnosed with autism – a moment she describes as, ‘at once shocking and liberating.’ In this memoir, she gives an interesting, informative and emotive insight into being autistic.

On the surface, it seems to be smooth sailing for her; she has a successful career as a journalist, her own communications agency, a husband of 20 years and 4 children, but scratch that surface and she’s frantically paddling to keep things on track. Laura has spent her whole life feeling different (‘The world is an alien place to me. One full of dangers’), knowing she was reacting to everyday situations unlike other people (‘Situations I can’t control and events I can’t predict confuse me, whether they are negative or positive’), finding basic socialising and interacting a struggle (‘If I don’t focus on people they fall into the background of my world’) and she just never knew why. It was a constant source of worry, anxiety and frustration for her until her diagnosis in 2015. That’s not to say after this point her life became carefree, but she now had a logical reason for feeling the way she did.

It’s not only Laura who has to get her head around her diagnosis, she also discusses how it affects her relationship with her husband, Tim, ‘It’s a subject that – like most not directly touched by it – he knows little about. He thinks Rain Man. The Curious Incident. The Rosie Project.’ This was a relatable point as, to be honest, these are my reference points for autism too, which is why Laura’s book is such an eye-opening read. Along with her biography, she mixes in quotes from experts to give a wider picture and lays out facts in an easy, digestible way.

I found it fascinating when she looked at possible reasons why her autism was not diagnosed earlier, explaining: ‘Copying neurotypical behaviour is an exceptionally strong coping mechanism in most autistic girls.’ This is why it can take so long to diagnose autistic girls and why Laura had a confused view of her sense of self, ‘I’m not sure, when I look back, what was authentically me and what was borrowed.’ There were also some really touching moments, like when she talks about how she escaped into books as a child and still now, simply stating, ‘Books are my greatest pleasure.’ She’s a woman after my own heart.

In November 2015, Laura wrote about her autism for the Daily Telegraph newspaper and called it her coming out story, ‘I can’t quite believe I have written it. That I have bared my soul in a national newspaper. Logically, I know I did it for good reasons. As a journalist, I recognised it was a good story. When I tried to find other autistic women like me, I couldn’t, so this was a way to reach out to others like me, to tell them they are not alone.’ I thought that this was such a lovely, honest quote that really highlights Laura’s positive and inspiring reaction to her diagnosis. Odd Girl Out follows on from this article, going into more detail and showing that she is glad she now has a true understanding of what makes her, uniquely her.

There is a lot of books about autism at the moment, either factual or with characters that are on the spectrum but this one really does stand out. It is an interesting view point, a very late diagnosis of autism to a woman who has always felt the "odd girl out". This must be something that a lot of adults are concerned about, either for themselves or someone close to them, and James gives an excellent, clear, well-written account of how life is for her and how this diagnosis has shaped things going forward. I was totally engaged with her story from early on and it helped me to understand better some people that are close to me. And in the end, James spells out the most important thing for any relationships - be kind, show kindness, we all need it. A very positive book for those affected by autism and an excellent read.

As I did not finish this one, I will not offer a review.

Imagine, if you will, growing up as a lemon in a world largely populated by oranges. But you don't know you are a lemon, so you do your level best to fit in, while imitating the behaviour of the oranges. Yet deep inside you continue to feel misunderstood and lost, because you are different from them and you can't deny it.

And then you realise, after years of living like this, that you have never been an orange at all and being a lemon is actually nothing to be ashamed of, in fact, it's rather a relief. You don't have to pretend anymore but can begin to truly own who you are. Such was the dilemma for Laura James, author of Odd Girl Out, who finally had awareness of her difference being a special thing.

However, adjusting to having autism when you've tried to function like a neurotypical person all your life is something of a shock, as the author begins to question everything, including who she is, and wonders what choices have stemmed from the diagnosis she now possesses or have simply been part of the learned behaviour she adopted to try to fit in.

In midlife, with a successful career, second husband and four children, the adjustments greatly affected others too. As her story unfolds she bravely shares the good and the bad, the challenges of adaptation to a new "normal" and the support required to aid her in the process.

I was gripped by her story, especially as I could relate to some health issues. And if it was comforting for me to join up the dots and discover a few connections, then think how the breakthrough must have been for her after so many years of struggling inwardly to understand herself.

Eventually, she reaches a place of greater acceptance, knowing who she is and how her diagnosis impacts her life but doesn't fully depict her identity. I highly recommend this riveting read. It informs, enlightens and intrigues as a deeply personal story that also addresses wider societal issues.

This is a brave, powerful and compelling book, for which 'chapeau' as the French say, to Laura James.
It must have been a truly mixed blessing to have the diagnosis - offering explanations for many aspects of life, yet adding complexities and surely prompting great reflection and insights.
I would hesitate to say I 'enjoyed' reading the book, however it did move me, and is an accomplished piece which I feel sure will enable many people to understand what autism entails, and is experienced both by the individual and their families.
I have worked with autistic clients in the past, from children to young adults, and anything which can be done to create a better climate of acceptance and understanding, and raise awareness is a huge benefit.
Brava Laura James.

Unfortunately, I DNF this book.
Because of the first person narrative viewpoint, the reader rarely sees any variation in the way she speaks or what she talks about. The most interesting person is her husband, but I DNF this book because it was dull. I did not feel as though I was reading a story about a woman living in society with autism, but more her discovering what it means and linking her traits back to it. She appears over the top at times when analysing her own autistic side and pushes her husband away when things aren't right.
Overall, this book was not for me.

I downloaded this book under the impression it was fiction, as I rarely read anything else. Yet it gripped me right from the start, for the courage it must have taken to write an account of such searing honesty as well as the understanding it gave me of several people in my life.

This is the story of a woman who has never fitted in, who has been different all her life. After a lifetime of underperforming academically, difficult relationships, struggling to cope with things most of us take in our stride, and feeling like an outsider all the time, in her mid-40s she receives a diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder. This is the story of the year immediately following the diagnosis, as she and her husband come to terms with what it explains retrospectively and what it means to each of them singly and to them as a couple going forward.

For the lay person, who will almost certainly have encountered one or more people on the autism spectrum disorder, this account explains a huge amount that would otherwise make little sense. Things like sensory overload, the hugely different emotional responses, difficulties in reading social situations, the ability to border on being obsessive-compulsive in some areas of life whilst putting up with utter chaos in others, what can trigger an emotional and communication meltdown - all these are situations I and other non-ASD persons will have encountered in friends, colleagues, family, but failed to understand, respect, and accommodate.

Lara James’ journey through childhood and adulthood has been an incredibly fraught one, and one she has negotiated successfully, whatever she may have thought about it during her lower points. She has a job in media, a husband who has been around for 20 years in spite of his own problems with clinical depression, four children who seem to adore her, and, post-diagnosis, the insight to realise she must stop trying to fit in with a world completely unlike her. Instead, she will go forward as herself and take her place on her own terms. I salute her courage, thank her for putting this out here for the rest of us, and wish her a happy and fulfilling future.

When I was invited to review this book, I was so delighted. This is such an important book and will help so many people; not only people on the spectrum, but those who work with them, diagnose them, and for anyone who would like to understand Autism better.

It is a very readable, well written book. As we read about the author’s life, we see her perspective on life, the daily challenges she faces, and her coping mechanisms. How she deals with her feelings, how she works her relationships and how she copes with day to day life, gives us such a great insight into ASD.

I love the way she highlights some really important issues; the way Autism presents differently in girls, which can make it difficult to diagnose, and the importance of valuing people that are on the spectrum. The way they think, and their creativity are so valuable to society. We can help people with Autism to cope better with the neurotypical world, but we shouldn’t try to change them to fit into our idea of what is normal. They are all important and valuable to us.
For myself, I work with children with special needs, and have worked with several children with ASD. I found that this book gave me such an insight into how it actually feels for them, and how we can make our neurotypical world an easier place for them to negotiate.

But don’t think that this book is just for professionals, or someone with a specific interest in Autism. I really believe that everyone should read it, that anyone would benefit from the understanding that it gives. But above all else, it is a very readable book, a lovely and fascinating account of someone’s life. Highly recommended.

Now out in paperback this book which was published last year followed an article in the Daily Telegraph in which Laura discussed her diagnosis of autism at the age of 45.
The book begins in 2015 with Laura on holiday with her husband Tim at a hotel in France. She opens a report on her ipad which informs her she has been diagnosed on the Autistic Spectrum Disorder with Adult Asperger's alongside medical conditions EDS (Ehlers Danlos Syndrom - which affects her joints making them disloate and also POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia) where high and persistent increases affect her heart rate when she is standing.
Her husband Tim comments " I'm worried that you'll become your diagnosis. "They have been married for 20 years and have two sons. Tim has suffered from clinical depression, autism may be hereditary and one son Jack has also been diagnosed with ADHD.
Are we all autistic?
Reading Laura's account which traces her early adoption, young first marriage with two daughters and rehab for Lorazepam addiction might emphasize that a culmination of incidents - nature and nurture could have caused autism but other traits and obsessions (or special interests for those with autism) such as "In a good week I can read at least four books," says Laura (well I can sometimes read more including hers. and strange feelings about people and situations (noises, colours, foods) can also affect us - non autistic people ASPIES are non apparently as NEUROTYPICALS.
Now I don't want to undermine Laura's revealing and sensitive way of exploring her diagnosis and her life but there is a whole industry around autism today. When I was at school I knew no one with autism, or perhaps it wasn't diagnosed as such then. I also trained as a nurse for people with learning disabilities (known then as mental handicap) and did see autism, often in special schools and with often disturbing violent, non verbal and disruptive symptoms.
It is fantastic that children can be diagnosed earlier. However, resources and funding especially in a school situation often prevents suitable treatment and education for children with autism.
Laura is articulate, has access to the media and is financially able to investigate therapy, autism experts (Tony Attwood gets a lot of mentions) and treatments that many families may be excluded from because of their class or finance.
I totally admire her story and am aware its publicity last year enabled a lot of people to open up about their fears about how 'they felt or behaved'.
At one point in the book Laura says, "I can't name my feelings." I am glad she can now name them as autism but whether this will make her and her husband and children have a deeper understanding or happiness in their lives - of that I'm not totally convinced.

Laura James was an ordinary woman - married, four children, successful career.  But then she was diagnosed as having Asperger's Syndrome.  Odd Girl Out is in parts memoir as she looks back on her life and re-examines how her long unnoticed autism has stalked her along the way, but the book is also an attempt to understand better what it means to be on the autistic spectrum.  Female memoirs have become increasingly common in recent years but James engages with her subject with a great deal of intelligence and with a clear desire to look not for sympathy but for solutions, not for a cure but for improved consideration.  No matter one's relationship to autism, whether or not one is within the spectrum, James' perspective is an interesting one and well worth the heeding.

For me, Odd Girl Out was an at times difficult read.  There is autism on both sides of my family, I have tested positively for dyspraxia and the evidence does suggest that if I tried, I could probably add Asperger's to my own medical curriculum vitae.  Like James though, I got through school and university without anybody ever suggesting there as a reason behind my social difficulties, chronic lack of coordination and the way that I could find apparently simple situations utterly over-whelming.  It is strange to me when I am told now that I must be wrong, that I cannot be autistic because I am so apparently normal.  Flash back fifteen years and my schoolmates would have been very quick to point out that, like James, I was the odd girl out.

While depictions of autism have become comparatively mainstream - Rainman and Christopher from The Curious Incident have broken a lot of ground here - it is still considered by many to be a very male condition.  The female experience is far less well understood.  Via interviews with various different experts in the field, James explains how autistic girls are less likely to stand out as they will try harder to conform than their male counterparts.  Thus, the autistic boy may be running round and doing his own thing, while the autistic girl tries - and often fails - to mimic the behaviour of her peers.  This rings a great deal of bells for me.

Receiving her diagnosis in her forties, James attempts to achieve some kind of closure.  On the one hand, it is heartening to receive the news, the 'vindication' that one is not 'mad, bad or sad', but rather 'differently wired'.  As James describes it, for those on the spectrum, their 'experience of the world is at odds with how most other people see it.'  But then at the same time it is easy to fixate on the label, to allow it to explain away everything.  To the point where every quirk of one's personality can come to seem like a symptom rather than a personal characteristic.

As James explores the condition, she ponders the various troubling statistics such as the one that 87% of autistic people are unemployed and that those with the condition have a lower life expectancy.  And then realises that she is carrying out a classic autistic 'info dump' and pauses to take stock.  The stand-out phrase for me in the book was 'Fear is the main emotion of autism'.  She captures vividly how new experiences can seem overwhelming, the fear about saying the wrong thing, doing the wrong thing, doing something to mark oneself as 'odd'.

I felt a recognition too of James' description of the hell that was secondary education - while teenage girls often let their claws come out, 'Aspie girls don't play that game'.  It's so true - when social rules are not so innate, when you are learning as you go, you know only to follow the rules rather than flout them.  As a teenager, I remember how confusing it was that the girl who shared my desk during Maths, who was so was nice and always picked up my textbook for me, could then be so horrible to me during PE.  I would love to say that all that was a problem confined to adolescence, but it is not.  These confusing people follow us into the world of work, they are the colleagues who smile, offer cups of tea, then lie, cover their own backs and leave you in the lurch.  I have a long history of being too trusting and when someone who has been nice to me even once is downright rude or deceitful, I am always astounding.  It would be easier if they were always unpleasant, but the gear shift between acceptable and unacceptable behaviour leaves me reeling.

As James points out, despite popular belief, those on the spectrum are often only too capable of sensing the emotions of others, indeed it is this which can often be the most challenging to process.  When I look back over my childhood, I can see so many incidents that mark out that I was not neurotypical - I had overpowering terrors about unfamiliar food, I would cry if someone tried to make me wear dresses or skirts and I found social engagement almost impossible.  Being too tired or too hungry or too hot often triggered emotional meltdowns which made sense to no one, least of all myself.  Even as an adult, if 'obsessive interests' are classic markers of autism, I think that keeping a book review website for six years and publishing 1,500 posts does rather qualify.

I feel I have spent my whole life dismissing my difficulties and overcoming them, but reading Odd Girl Out made me realise that all of this has required a huge amount of effort.  It is true that no matter where exactly I sit on the spectrum, it has not disabled me.  But it has made things more difficult.  As James points out though, girls on the spectrum can often seem as though they are not only failing to integrate with their peers, but also failing to fit the classic profile of autism.  Telling a girl that she does not 'seem' autistic does not take into account what her experience of daily life might be, but rather judges her by the male template of autism.  We are all different and as Odd Girl Out explains, we talk about the spectrum 'not because it is linear but because any factor can be present at any point'.  So I can learn to 'pass' socially, to knit, to drive my car or any of the other things that were once mountains to be climbed, but then feel very bothered because I forgot to get apples on the way home so that the next day I won't have the 'right' type of fruit with my lunch.

But then on the other hand, as the daughter of a single parent, I also padded about obediently after my mother wherever we were going, carrying my back pack full of colouring materials and books - I could be trusted to sit quietly and get on with things.  Not all children are capable of that.  I made it all the way through school and university and got the grades I needed.  Where I sit on the spectrum is not the whole story.  I have a number of friendships that have lasted over a decade, I have sustained a lengthy relationship - a number of people who are under no obligation to do so have chosen to maintain ties with me.  And maybe I'm a blogger because I like writing and books.

Odd Girl Out feels like a timely examination of the female experience of autism.  Its main message though is not just for those directly affected by Asperger's, but also for those around them.  James comes to terms with her diagnosis - and what a horrible word that is.  Years ago, I used to volunteer at an after school club and I remember the main supervisor was away one day and a substitute came and as she entered the room, she saw a boy rolling on the floor and asked me with a curled lip, 'Does he have a diagnosis?'  She asked that same question about a number of the children and my hackles raised each time.  These children did not deserved to be dismissed with diagnoses, but rather engaged with as people - are we seriously saying that it is ok to dismiss someone's personality as a condition?  The same is true when we get older.  James considers how she would treat someone else with that condition and concludes that it would be best to behave 'very, very kindly' and reading that, I realised that is the best way that I can behave towards myself too.

It is easy to become frustrated, irate even that apparently simple situations prove too much, but it is not kind.  It is not the way to treat yourself.  Nor is it the way to treat anyone else.  We cannot know what other people are carrying with them through life so we would be best advised to be very, very kind.  Odd Girl Out is a quiet memoir in many ways, but when I reached the end, I could not help but judge it a celebration, an articulate expression of the courage and perseverance needed to make it through a world slanted towards the neurotypical.  It hurts none of us to take a pause and try to make things go a little easier for our fellow travellers on the road.

I have reviewed the book on my blog. A useful addition to the literature and a good read for women with autism or their relatives.

James gives a really fresh and unique perspective into adult women recently diagnosed with Autism. In her forties, she has just been diagnosed after a lifetime of feeling 'different.'

I loved the clever way she reflects on previous experiences through the newfound lens of her Autism. Her diagnosis has offered a new way to see events and understand why she thinks and feels the way she does. I particularly appreciated her exploration of how autism affects males and females differently - it can go more easily un-diagnosed in girls as they are more adept at replicating neurotypical behaviours.

It was a pleasure to get to know James, learn about her life and be exposed to her thought patterns. She has provided me with a better understanding of Autism and is a great voice for that community.

This book gives such a unique and revealing look in to the life of an adult diagnosed with autism. It is a biographical account of life both pre and post diagnosis; a look at the poignant and often difficult life events and transitions . It is also a champion of what is achievable and admirably unique about both being an Aspie and a female on the spectrum, but I think also explores what it is to be human,: imperfect, flawed, quirky, introvert, sensitive, perplexed, yet seeking to be accepted, loved, despite the above. Interlaced with quite detailed research from leading authorities within the field of ASD and other authors' perspectives on life, you're lead by the hand through a familiar but equally mystifying landscape of emotions and experience. With touching realism, and identifiable vulnerability this book really grabs and holds on to you.