I love this book! I feel like Whitney talks about something Christians experience but don't talk about - trying to grow in Christ and then realizing it's not about you. This book gave me some perspective about life as well as some definitions to chew on. Definitely a worthwhile read.

Thanks go to NetGalley and the publisher for the opportunity to read an advance copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.

In a world where each person is encouraged to put himself first, it is easy to become self-centered. (I guess we shouldn’t be surprised, should we?) The theory goes that by putting oneself first and doing “what’s right for you”, a person will be completely happy with life. Sounds great, yet that’s not what most self-centered people experience.

Sick of Me teaches the reader that life ISN’T meant to be lived with an “all about me” mentality, but instead by following the lead of the Holy Spirit, allowing God to work through you. This book is a great reminder of the power and joy available in life when we accept that the best life is found when we get ourselves out of the way and follow God’s lead.

Whitney is quite funny, honest, and bold in her book "Sick of Me". I began reading this book earlier this week, and I had a hard time putting it down. I found myself diving into the book, whenever I had a free moment, and kept reading. In this book, Whitney reminds of our need for the right transparency. As we are open and vulnerable about our struggles, how are we shouting from the roof tops what our God has done in our midst - despite our struggles? We are given the opportunity to confess, but to do something else that we just cannot miss. We get to see the power of the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ, and how He changes our lives from the inside-out. Love, love, love this book!!

Love this book so much! Such encouraging words remind me that it's not about me, sanctification over self-help. Trying to do it all alone without the help from Holy Spirit is just plain silly, we were given the helper.

Sick of Me: From Transparency to Transformation by Whitney Capps

5 stars

Sick of Me is a fantastic Christian Living novel that packs one of the hardest and softest punches the Holy Spirit can hit you with. Whitney Capps talks in her opening chapter how she told a friend how that she was “sick of me” and then friend said in response that she should talk less of her and more about Jesus. This book tackles what a lot of women’s ministries struggle with: transparency and the lack of transformation. Often times, women want to confess, but not be changed. This novel looks at the important process of sanctification (the change that happens when we partner with the Holy Spirit to actively be changed and for our chains to brake without the guilt and shame, but the joy of Jesus). This novel is so important for women who are actively involved in the church whether it’s leading small groups or discipling. It’s important to not get stuck in the transparency trap of not allowing Jesus to transform us. This book was so convicting and each chapter looks at both the Old and New Testament and how Scripture guides us to accepting the process of sanctification through the glory of Christ and not through the glory of ourselves. I absolutely loved Sick of Me. I would go as far as saying that this is the book I’ve read all year. Even topping my favorite fiction read. I was convicted, challenged, and reminded of who Jesus is and who I am not and how that’s a good thing. For insight into what this book covers, I will list the chapters and my favorite quote from each chapter:
*Sick of Me “[Sanctification] is something that the Holy Spirit does in and through us to make us become more like Christ—that’s God process in us. But at the same time, we cooperate with His promptings to become more like Christ through obedience—that’s our pursuit."
*Happiness Over Holiness “We take God’s place on the throne of our hearts. When we unseat the sovereign Lord, we always take His place.”
*Set Apart “The overwhelming truth of Scripture is clear: Sanctification requires surrender. Holiness isn’t the pursuit of happiness. Holiness is the pursuit of Christ.”
*Separate is Hard, Hard is Good, God is Best “I bet some of us are root-bound. We are still green, but we’re not growing. We’ve dug in and refused the Lord’s transplanting of us… We are alive, but we aren’t thriving.”
“God’s goodness or grace us is unmerited, meaning we don’t deserve or earn it. He isn’t kind toward us because we are worthy; He is kind to us because He is worthy.”
*The Process is the Point “Our strong and tender God is completely competent to lead us. He knows all the move to take. He knows the rhythm of our life perfectly; He wrote the music. He isn’t making it up as He goes along. It’s all been perfectly orchestrated since the beginning of time. At the end of the day, this dance of sanctification is God’s process to lead. He’s the one who has designed it. He’s the one in control of it. He’s the one setting the pace.”
*Pursuing the Process, Part 1: Confident and Unashamed “The nails that pierced Him declared us free and clear. What marvelous news! It’s a sweet reminder to combat our shame and guilt. The cross is the antidote. The cross sets us free from shame.”
*Pursuing the Process, Part 2: Our Part “God’s word helps us identify the places that need attention. But God’s Word is also the cleanser that helps deal with that blemish.”
*Broken but Better “Often times, our disappointments can reflect our selfish expectations.”
*Avoiding the Transparency Trap, Part 1: Beyond the Bad and Believing the Best “Our thorns are used by God for our humility, not our complacency.”
*Avoiding the Transparency Trap, Part 2: The Categories of Transparency “Sometimes to get a breakthrough, God has to break you.”
*Transformed “Jesus invites us to change the world around us with a radical way of living and loving. Our world could use a heavy dose of this kind of Jesus-culture."


“Happiness Over Holiness” is one of my favorite chapters in this book because it looks at 1 Kings and points out that when God isn’t our center, we put ourselves in the center due to our own selfishness and idolatry. We often times want to be God and do things our way. “Set Apart” kick started the word for the season that I am currently going in through. To be set apart in Hebrew is quadosh and this important chapter enlightened me onto the good that comes from being set apart. Props to Whitney for capturing and using Scripture from Leviticus to show us the importance of sin in “Pursuing the Process, Part 2” because I’ve never looked at Leviticus this way and it convicted my heart. Whitney is also incredibly honest with a sin in her life and I loved how she openly confessed something that is so simple, but has damaging effects on her mind and marriage. Sometimes the simple sins are the ones that damage us the most. This novel is so important. It helped change me in my walk with Jesus and I hope it does the same for you if you decide to pick it up.


Whimsical Writing Scale: 5

Plotastic Scale: 5

Cover Thoughts: I love this cover. The white chalk on the face is so striking and it drives home that we are not the narrative of the story.

Thank you, Netgalley and B & H Books, for providing me with a copy of this novel in exchange for an honest review. I am also a B & H Reviewer and worked in partnership to receive a free novel in exchange for a review, but this in no way has affected my opinions of this novel.

I had the pleasure of hearing Whitney Capps speak at She Speaks in both 2017 and 2018. I like her speaking style because she has no pretense. Her same self-effacing, yet cheerful and real, voice speaks to us in Sick of Me, a great book about sanctification.

Whitney asserts that many of us have settled into the Christian life rather comfortably. Yet we are dissatisfied, tempted by worldly pleasures, and discouraged with our spiritual progress. She tells us that the only way to overcome these restless feelings is through the pursuit of holiness, otherwise known as sanctification.

I underlined many of Whitney’s teachings. She writes in such a friendly style that you truly feel like you are hearing from your favorite girlfriend. Yet she is passionate about God’s Word and doesn’t mince her words when she needs to offer correction. I respect her for striking the balance between truth and grace in this much-needed book.

If you feel stuck in your journey of spiritual growth, Sick of Me will help you get moving. It’s not enough to own the fact that you are stuck and sick of who you are. You must move forward with God’s help. Whitney will lead you onward with kindness, understanding and even humor.

I received a preview copy of Sick of Me from B&H Publishers.

This was a really great read for me as someone who is drawn to a lot of self centered or self focused materials. Not that that's always a bad thing, it is just not how we truly change and transform or become sanctified. "It's not about you" sounds harsh, but it can also be kind. It is a relief to look elsewhere for growth.

“Amidst its darkness, if a story of the kings and Israel teaches us anything, it’s when our hearts turn from God, they always turn toward self.”

Thoroughly impressed by Whitney Capps’ writing for the First 5 app, I jumped at the opportunity to enjoy an entire book! In my eagerness, I didn’t read the back cover description for Sick of Me. Had I read it, I would have realized I wasn’t the target market. However, I still thoroughly enjoyed it, it is packed with Biblical wisdom and well-written.

At the outset, Whitney states the goal of the book “isn’t just to help us understand what sanctification is, but maybe as importantly, what it is not.” Now, don’t be put off by the church-lingo, this is written in a down-to-earth, easy-to-relate-to manner but it achieves it’s objective making sanctification understandable in a real-world way.

“New growth rarely happens in old places. When God plucks us up, sets us apart, and transplants us elsewhere, it forces us out of comfort and into change.

Partly said in humour but definitely true, Whitney says “a secondary goal of the book is to rescue verses that have been ripped out of context and slapped on situations that may not be fair.” Numerous Bible verses, and stories, are given context and new depth throughout the book. Having spent many hours reading the First 5 app, much of this wasn’t new to me but it’s worth isn’t diminished because of its familiarity! Each point made is substantiated by Biblical truth.

“Scripture is the mirror that God uses to point out the blemishes in my life.”

The spiritual journey Whitney takes the reader on is one I took with God years ago as I came to terms with my CRPS. It reminded me of important principles which I had to put into action and the way God teaches you to lean only on Him. This book is particularly relevant to those who are married with children and a part of a church family. It’s a four out of five on the en-JOY-ment scale for me.

Sick of Me by Whitney Capps placed me exactly where I am in life. I've felt this and I know close friends have felt it too. This book hit me where I needed to be hit.

The focus of this book is primarily in transparency vs transformation and self-help vs sanctification. I'll admit it - I'm a self-help book junkie. I do Bible studies regularly and focus on His Word BUT I do love a good self-help book. This book opened my eyes - is self=help really the right focus for me? How is that helping me grow in Christ? How is it fixing MY struggles? It's not. I'm plenty invested in self.... (ha!). It's time to switch my focus.

I will absolutely be gifting this book to a couple friends that I know feel similarly to me; we vent about it over pancakes or afternoon coffee. But we aren't doing anything to fix it. Now we can.

This book was a breath of fresh air, as it encouraged the reader to be transparent and not put on a façade. What a unique concept in these times! The author wrote in a way that it felt like a friend giving advice.

I found the author herself to be interesting, relatable, and kind in how she wrote... and yet I didn't understand a good portion of the book. That might just be me, but several chapters went out my head. I grew up in the church and I know about the topics/words mentioned throughout, and still it was often hard to understand. I think she spent way too long (the first half of the book) setting up the actual purpose of the book.

Thanks to Netgalley and B & H books for this ARC!

This is my honest review.

In Sick of Me, I admit I felt let down. I was hoping for some insight that hasn’t been written before. The target audience is Christians, although I am not sure if this was her original intention. Whitney describes a life that only Christians in “the know” or “Christian bubble” might understand. She is seeking to live a more transformative life that changes not only how she thinks her Christian walk should be, but also feel it and go beyond a feeling of brokenness. She describes various life scenarios and scripture verses to show areas of brokenness in the Bible. I think the title is a bit misleading as I cannot see she fully describes how her journey has been transforming.

Downfalls: The writing was often hard to follow, in a more spoken type lecture and I felt like the ideas were repetitive. The book would be difficult for a non Christian to pick up and understand.

Pros: Use of scripture and also admitting how scripture is used out of context to fit our viewpoints.

I give it 2.5 stars.

I received an advanced digital copy of this book from Netgalley.com and the publisher. Thanks to both for the opportunity to read and review.

In Sick of Me, Mrs. Capps does a fine job of spelling out how you can change and where to find what she's talking about, but like most Proverbs 31 Ministries products, it is doctrinally unsound.

I found this book to be unoriginal in concept and delivery.

1 out of 5 stars. Do not recommend.

It’s like having your big sister sitting on the couch filling you in on how to grow and mature in your faith. Being real and transparent are very important but you need to go a step further and add in holy, and allow God to actually change you. We can come to Jesus just as we are, but we cannot stay that way. While virtues like vulnerability, honesty, and humility are desperately needed, we should fight for more.

I have followed Whitney Capps for several years through her Proverbs 31 devotions and teachings in the First 5 app. Her words are always Biblically based, honest, and down to earth. Her new book, Sick of Me, teaches about the process of sanctification—how believers in Jesus Christ become more like Him. Whitney takes a difficult and sometimes confusing concept and brings it down from a seminary level to a much more easily understood concept. Her examples from her own life are real, and most readers will be able to relate them to their own lives. This is not a book you can rush through; you need to read it slowly and deliberately, thinking through what you have read and how to apply it to your own life.
I highly recommend this book. I will be reading it several times. I was privileged to be on the launch team and I received an ARC for my honest review.

Whitney “sits” right across the table from you as you read, thinking your thoughts and knowing where you’ve been, sort of! We’ve all got ‘em. Blind spots. As Christian women we are great at knowing but in many areas of our lives we think that’s good enough. Whitney shows us it’s not! Through “Sick Of Me” she uses biblical principles, foundational teaching and scripture to walk us good Bible girls into our best — if we choose to take the challenge to transform. So, won’t you take that step? Her writing style keeps you coming back for more. Make no mistake you cannot help but walk away changed after reading Sick of Me! #sickofmebook Whitney Capps @marycwiley #sickofmelaunch #sickofmebook studygroup #askmeifyoudliketojoin

Maybe you've prayed, " God I want to be more like you", or maybe you feel like, I'm good, I believe in God, that's sufficient.

No matter where you find yourself, in her book Sick of Me, Whitney teaches us to not just talk the talk, nor "look the part " of a believer but she challenges us to let the truth of the Gospel make us Holy.... and by Holy she's not saying perfect.

When God calls us to be Holy like He is Holy, He's calling us to be set apart.
Whitney confronts, challenges and guides us with love and humility. Encouraging us that while it is important to be transparent, it is more important to allow the truth of the gospel to transform us to be more like Christ.
#LordIwanttoknowyou #LordIwanttoknowyoumore

“I am just sick of me, and I need more Jesus,” I uttered those words to my husband about two years ago, so when I saw the title of Whitney’s book I knew she had written it just for me! Opening up the first pages and reading her struggle to find purpose away from self read like my diary. Finding hope in the midst of her teachings on sanctification and holiness brought so much clarity and understanding to my own feelings and revealed to me that I was on the right track and was wrestling well as my spirit led my soul to long for a better understanding of my life in Christ. This is a timely read for a culture steeped in self help, self care and self awareness to show us God’s plan for us through the cleansing power of His love.

This is a very eye-opening book about how much we rely on our feeling and not God's word about our life. You will not regret getting this book. Thank you B&H Publishing via NetGalley for the ARC copy of this book. This is my honest opinion.

I loved this book. I received this book from NetGalley for an honest review and it is so easy to review. I read this book in a few days and could have read it in a day if I had the time. The cover was intriguing and probably why I wanted to read it. Whitney Capps did an amazing job writing this book and identifying justification and sanctification. So often in our lives we justify the life we want and try to achieve it on our own; however, with sanctification we have a life reconciled to Jesus and He is our guide. We should have a life that is transformed to follow Christ and give up our will to follow His Will. We can't desire His Will and try to achieve on our own. We so often tell ourselves so many lies and don't fully surrender our lives 100% to Christ. This book is so well written and full of scriptures that can fill our lives and be a good starting point for us to get into the Word of God! We need to be authentic and not a facade. Thank you for a wonderful reminder! I loved this book so much, I had to preorder it so I could physically highlight and read it a few more times.