His Only Wife is a beautifully written book about a young woman who struggles against the expectations of her family and her culture as she tries to find her own way in life. The characters are complex and compelling. Afi grows and changes throughout the course of the book, slowly becoming more independent as she works through the difficulties of her marriage, and the reader can't help but like Eli, even though he continues to maintain a relationship with his girlfriend following the arranged marriage to Afi. The author paints an intriguing picture of Ghanian culture, and the novel stays with you long after you finish reading.

Thank you, NetGalley, for the ARC.

Afi Tekple, a young Ghanaian woman, agrees to marry the wealthy Elikem Ganyo through the arrangement of his mother and siblings, who do not like "that woman" he has taken up with. The marriage opens up many opportunities for Afi, who dreams of having her own clothing design store, but as she falls in love with Eli, she fights even harder to pull him from Muna. Afi is a complex and compelling character, who begins very dutiful, if doubtful about marrying someone she doesn't really know, who isn't even present at the wedding, but becomes increasingly confident in what she wants and will pursue. It's fascinating to see her growth from the small village she has always known to a larger city and to have to evaluate her passions, what compromises she will accept and what she will not. I very much enjoyed this book.

4 stars

I so enjoyed the way these characters and plot challenged my expectations and understanding of the central questions of the novel.

Afi is a young woman who marries Eli at the behest of his family, who are desperate to get him away from the mother of his young daughter. Afi's family loves this idea because they all have something to gain from this union: primarily money but also status and opportunity. Afi is the one whose life is most impacted, of course, and who has the most to gain and to lose.

I went into this novel very conscious of my own preconceived notions about plural marriage and about what I thought Afi might or might not be willing to do. The author so effectively uses ancillary characters' perspectives and behaviors - as well as insight into Afi's thinking - to help readers avoid the pitfalls of judgement and culturally based misunderstandings. I especially loved the scenes with Evelyn and Sara because they both serve in very distinct mentor roles for Afi and allow readers more chances to see just how many decisions Afi has to make and how much strength she engenders along the way.

This is such a round view of what could be seen - at first glance - as quite a binary issue. The style and construction - as well as the ways in which this work challenges readers - all make it worth a read.

I very much enjoyed this novel, particularly for its insights into Ghanaian culture. The main character, Afi, is appealing and sympathetic, especially as she comes into her own, both professionally and personally, and reveals herself to be stronger and more powerful than the wealthy and powerful people who have used her and tried to control her. I particularly loved the scene where she meets her nemesis in that it avoided cliches and ultimately allowed her to gain strength as she could see and accept the reality of her situation and move on from there. Many thanks for NetGalley and the publisher for an e-ARC of this fascinating book.

This book is authentically Ghanaian and gives me vibes similar to Ama Ata Aidoo’s Changes but in contemporary Ghana. The food, the descriptions, the language all show that the author is someone who was/is deeply immersed in the culture and has done a great job of bringing it out in the novel.
Read this in four (4) days. I found it unputdownable , refreshing in its Ghanaian-ness, and simplicity. A straightforward yet not entirely predictable plot. Realistic and relatable characters.
I look forward to more from Peace Medie

His Only Wife begins with the wedding of Afi, a young Ghanaian women from a small province, and Eli, a "big man" who is originally from her town who and now lis an extremely successful businessman in Accra. However, the fact that the wedding is conducted in absentia is foreboding.; the reader immediately wants to know why.

Shortly afterward, Afi moves to Accra, where she is lodged in a luxurious condominium, but her so-called husband doesn't visit her. Despite her dissatisfaction with this arrangement, her mother tells her to grin and bear it, because in her mother's eyes this arrangement has been purely financial, and one that has served to pull Afi and her family out of poverty and to elevate their status. When Eli eventually begins to visit Afi, we learn that he lives with another woman, with whom he has a daughter, He presents the situation as something that is temporary, and urges Afi to have patience while he works it out with the other woman.

Afi, growing weary of the arrangement, begins to become impatient and begs her husband to abandon the other woman and be with her. She takes matters into her own hands, and upon doing so, finds that she has been used as a pawn by his family, who despised his other woman. As the book ends, Afi is victorious, and the reader cannot help but cheer her on.

His Only Wife is an engaging and quick read that is hard to put down. It also presents the reality of men who believe that they can live polygamously, despite hurting their wives and/or partners, while ignoring the women who either become victims or refuse to do so.

When I heard about this book at BookExpo 2020, I immediately requested an ARC—and now, I want to share this novel with everyone. I was immediately captured by Afi's story, which begins in her small hometown of Ho, Ghana at her wedding to a man who marries her in absentia. The food, the clothing, and the spirit of the characters are so vividly drawn by the author, not only in the opening scene, but throughout the novel. Afi took me with her as she moved to Accra and discovered a new wealthy lifestyle, developed relationships with her husband's family members and friends, and began to get to know her husband, Eli. Adzo Medie writes the narrative in a way that lets us learn alongside Afi for the first half, then in the second half, get clued into details to which Afi herself is blind, so that by the end, we want to step into the pages and warn Afi about what's coming. But of course, if we were able to do that, then we would miss out on the reward of watching Afi find the strength and grace she never knew she had. Perhaps what most won me over is how Adzo Medie created such multidimensional characters—particularly the ones who might be considered "villains" at various points in the novel. I especially loved the dignity with which Muna, "the other woman" is portrayed.

I am so thrilled to have read this #ownvoices novel—an important addition to the growing collection out there—and appreciate the ARC from the publisher and also NetGalley. Although I regularly read stories from authors of colors, this is a perspective that was new to me—and what a gift it was.

I loved this book. Afi was so endearing, strong, and relatable. It is such a intricate relationship between Afi and Elikem that is explored on many different levels through many different situations. I loved that I was able to laugh and experience a wide range of emotions. I will definitely read anything Peace Adzo Media puts out.

Afi’s life is far from perfect – her father died when she was young, her extended family all but abandoned her and her mother, and while design is her passion, she hardly makes anything as a seamstress in Ghana. She seems content with her circumstances, until her family arranges a marriage for her. It seems that Elikem Ganyo has been living with a woman his family disapproves of and they need Afi to resolve this situation. Aunty had done so much for her family after her father’s passing, how could she say no?

For the betterment of her family, she commits to becoming the best wife possible. After her husband chooses not to attend their wedding, sending a stand-in as a replacement, Elikem also fails to move Afi into his home, setting her up in a nearby flat. They speak on the phone regularly, but Elikem makes no effort to see Afi in person for quite some time. Once he does begin visiting her flat regularly, their relationship gradually begins to blossom. In the meantime, Afi begins studying design and Eli supports her dream of opening her own boutique. If only he supported her enough to leave the other woman…a thought that nags at Afi daily. Afi’s love for her husband and the city of Accra has transformed her to the core, encouraging her to find her voice and lean into her independence. What the means for her marriage remains to be seen.

Man, this was an emotional rollercoaster. I feel like I was rooting for all involved characters at some point. Which is crazy considering how incredibly different all of these characters were. Despite their similarities, they all made very different choices and adjusted to their lives in unique ways. And I have to say, their character development was remarkable – all of them.

I like how relatable it was. While I have very little knowledge of Ghana and cannot even stand the idea of being forced into an arranged marriage, I can still put myself in Afi’s shoes. The author did an impeccable job of communicating the ups and downs; the raw feelings of a woman trying to find her place in the world. I have also never read an ending before the was such a beautiful disaster – it is like everyone wins, but literally no one does at the same time.

It is Afi’s wedding day and preparations are underway. She is surrounded by family and friends and future in-laws who are presenting many gifts to her relatives. There is much joy it would seem, but Afi has anxiety. There is one missing participant: the groom. Eli is on a business trip of sorts, one he shares with the woman he loves and their child. With a stand-in groom, Eli’s family celebrates the “union” and ushers their newest member to Accra where she is set up in a lovely apartment. There she will await her husband with a slight disadvantage. His other woman is ensconced in his house with no plans to move. Afi’s family, in need of money and social position, along with Eli’s family who possess them, are insisting she be patient and do everything to win his favor so he will leave the unacceptable partner. Afi does her share; soon she is pregnant. However, there is no sign of a church wedding or an invitation to move into his house. All are surprised to find that she is not a pushover. She wants acceptance in her personal and professional lives and issues an ultimatum. Success lies in her own hands and how well she plays the families. Peace Adzo Medie has given us a protagonist to admire and cheer on, often using humor to describe the situations in which she finds herself and the characters that surround her.

"I'd never had a white person do anything for me before. What a day."

This is Peace Adzo Medie's first novel, and it's a strong debut. The novel follows twenty-one-year-old Afi, who marries Eli, the son of a wealthy woman who has helped Afi's family in the past. Medie does a great job highlighting not only the cultural aspects of Ghana, but also the disparities between men and women, wealthy and poor, and those who follow social and patriarchal norms and those who don't. Afi started out as irritating, but I grew to love her and her spirit as the novel progressed; it was refreshing to watch her business acumen and design skills grow. The ending is surprisingly satisfying too.

I received a copy of this book through NetGalley.
Twenty-one year old Afi finds herself in the middle of a family drama when she agrees to married the son of a wealthy woman who went of her way to provide support to Afi and her mother after Afi's father died. She enters the marriage willingly, despite never having met her intended before, and despite knowing that her husband-to-be is in another relationship and has a child from that relationship. Afi's mission is to convince her husband to leave the other woman of whom his mother does not approve, but things get off to a discouraging start. Her husband does not attend their wedding and does not show up at the luxury apartment in which she is installed after their marriage for quite some time.
When he finally arrives, the two find that they have a lot in common and eventually fall in love. He supports Afi in her desire to learn fashion design and to build a business and a house for her mother. Unfortunately, the other woman remains a presence in their life and Afia eventually takes a stand. Even after she is successful in achieving what she demands, their happiness is not a given.
This book does a lot to highlight disparities between the wealthy and the poor and between expectations placed upon men versus women. It also does a good job depicting the landscape of life in the parts of Ghana featured in the story, both in the physical sense and in the social sense, for example, Eli's relationship with his mother, Afi's relationship with her hair, the constant presence of house staff in the wealthy households, and the demands that Afi's uncle places on her once she becomes the wife of a wealthy man. I lived for some time in Ghana and the depictions transported me back there.
Eli is painted as a complex character. He values Afi's abilities as a capable business woman, for example, when she thanks him for helping her to build a house for her mother, he says "I think you would have built this house even if you had never met me." At the same time, he expects her to accept his adultery because he is the man of the house. When Afi asks "How would you feel if I cheated on you?" he responds, "You know it's not the same thing."
Most of the other characters in the book are less nuanced. Afi's mother, Afi's uncle, Eli's mother, and his siblings seem single-minded in purpose and one-dimensional, perhaps in part because a lot of their interactions are told in summary instead of in full-blown scenes ,which is unfortunate since Medie shows herself very capable of compelling scene and character descriptions.
Afi's cousin, Mawusi, and her neighbor, Evelyn, are fun, colorful characters with their own development course. They offer Afi advice and provide some humor to the story.
The message from this book was mixed. While Afi does grow from a young woman who acquiesced to everything into a woman who demanded what she saw was due to her, she seemed to be challenging, not so much the idea that there was another woman, but the fact that Eli would not declare her as the more important woman in his life. In addition, she never took responsibility for her part in the farce--she married him fully aware that he was in love with someone else.
All in all, a quick interesting read that paints a very realistic and entertaining picture of life in Ghana and leaves readers a lot to think about in terms of the complex relationships between men and women.

This was a first time read of this author, Peace Adzo Medie. His Only Wife was very interesting and I for the most part thought it was going to be interesting but felt disappointed. I had a hard time with this story because of the complicated females in the book...and with the men too.

I tried to like the characters, however the main male character angered me the most. I did have some sympathy for the absentia wife. Frankly, this was just not my cup of tea although I thought it was well-written.

I thank Netgalley and Algonquin Books for this ARC in exchange for my fair and honest review. Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own.

2-Stars

A very interesting novel about a woman in Ghana who marries her husband “in absentia” and discovers her husband has another lover. She falls in love with her husband and wants him to give up the other woman. She learns to stand up for her rights against her husband’s family and her husband. The novel is a domestic drama that pursues a modern women’s role in the patriarchy society of Ghana. Afi comes from a poor family and marries into Eli’s wealthy family but won’t let the wealth influence her indomitable spirit. While waiting for her husband to settle his affairs regarding the other woman she pursues her desire to become a fashion designer which enhances her independence. The ending is uplifting and unexpected.

I started this book because I misread the blurb and thought it was going to be queer. It was not. That was disappointing, but after realizing my mistake, I moved last it and continued reading.
I had a difficult time with this book for a couple of reasons. I appreciated the feminist messages, even when that feminism was somewhat complicated by difficult female dynamics, with each other and with men. The maik character in particular annoyed me greatly, but wasn't altogether unsympathetic, I just never felt like I was rooting for her. I was more often rooting for her husband and his first family.
All that said, I know little of the culture that informed her perspective, and by extension her actions. There was one moment, which I believe was meant to be a surprise, that fell flat to me because it seemed not to live up to the expectation, but the majority of this novel is well written and an interesting account of an unusual relationship.

I received an ARC of thia book from NetGalley.