Teresa Fazio is a strong female ex-marine and this is her incredible story. I really appreciate and enjoy military non-fiction and women's literature, so this was a double treat to read. It is an extremely engaging subject circling the Iraqi war, naturally action-packed with tons of detail of combat and strategy. This would be a sure hit with people interested in reading about how war affects the lives of those in the center of it. Fazio talks about her decisions and choices and the various relationships she forges along the way. I found it read like a heart to heart talk with someone on the inside of a battleship. Just what a memoir should do in my opinion. I would highly recommend this. 4.5 stars rounded up to 5!

Insightful look into the life of a veteran, especially evocative of the fear of a newbie, which kept me reading.

Men write about the violence of war. Women write about the romance of peace. At least, that is what we believe. Teresa Fazio’s memoir of active military service bucks that trend, writing about the violence of war and romances that can occur during active service. Fazio explains the reason why she chose active service. She then explores her deployment in Iraq with its; violence, funny moments, friendships, and romance. I recommend this book.

This is an own-voice story where the author struggles with her past during military service. Such an interesting read, I would recommend to those who enjoy an own voice story!

**I received an e-ARC from NetGalley for an honest review**

I wanted to like this book, but I just couldn't. I felt mislead by the description which made it seem as if Fazio faced far more of the war on the battlefield.

Overall, the entire book felt overly padded. At least a third of the book was completely unnecessary and slowed the book down. The narrative always seems as if things happened to Fazio rather than as a result of actions and decisions she had previously made. Maybe she's different in person, but Fazio seems to be a very unlikeable person.

3/5 stars, mostly because I hadn't read a war memoir from this point of view before.

This was a different story of war story, and I would say I was about 60 percent in before I realized what sort of book I was reading, and after that I liked it a lot more.

The fact is that nothing much "happens" if you're expecting straight-up violence and catastrophe. The author is a comms officer on a Marine FOB, and rarely (maybe never) goes into Iraq at-large. The relationships are all behind the T-Walls and in the living quarters. It's not a war story as much as a story about people being in a war, and the relationships they crash into.

Fazio self-reflects with honesty and self-criticism, though my complaint is that as a narrator she often presents herself with little agency. Things happen to her more than she presents herself making them happen - which I think is part of the point. Her mistakes and decisions, good and bad, often are of convenience and not her strong participation in the decision. But when you're in a war, or in love, or in telling yourself that you're in love, or in wishing you weren't in love, that can be a way of living.

It is less war, than a story of star-crossed and misguided "love" and people taking advantage of each other. The "romance" is flawed and toxic, and readers who have been on both sides will appreciate seeing what they looked like - pathetic, grasping, scheming, conniving. It's not a good look, and by presenting a fairly unemotional and apparently honest account of self-delusion and willing manipulation, Fazio comes across without whining.

Most of the Marines are presented with the usual rough edges and maybe don't quite break free of convention. Fazio and her close friends are more fully drawn, and I doubt any of them will especially enjoy their portrayals - but I wouldn't enjoy a portrayal of myself, either, when I was in these situations.

What is love, during a war, or I imagine during any life-altering crisis? It's like nothing else - like a sun that never sets. Of course that means you will get one hell of a burn. Fazio does not tell you if it was right or wrong, only what it looks like when it happens.

Strong book. It's a good memoir for those people looking for the words to answer how what they thought was a good idea got away from them.

An eye opening look at life as a young female marine based in a war zone.Thevauthor shares her life her emotions the reality of her service.A fascinating read.#netgalley#unofnebraskapress

Fidelis is a coming of age memoir set mainly in Iraq shortly after 9/11. The author enters the USMC as an officier after college to serve a three year stint. The book centers around her seven month deployment and the remaining time the Marines upon return. Teresa, or T, has a relationship with another officer who is married and a good deal older than she. I enjoyed the description of the time in Iraq, how nerve-wracking it is to never know if any day is your last, and the close bonds formed with fellow Marines. It was interesting to read about the additional hardship women face in the military. I would have liked more exploration of the path Teresa took to join the Marines, reference was made to ROTC, Officer's School, etc. I had to fill in my lack of knowledge via Wikipedia.

Thank you to NetGalley and University of Nebraska Press/Potomac Books for the ARC to read and review.

Fidelis is a powerful story about a female Marine officer who served during the Iraq war. An unlikely military officer, Teresa is just 5'0 and has curly hair and glasses, which makes her stand out amongst her troops. She details what it's like to be a woman serving in combat, the constant dangers, and extra precautions she had to take in many situations. Her story is a necessary one, but also comes with a lot of interesting narratives, as she engages in a love affair that she faces consequences from

Fidelis is an unflinching and gripping memoir about life as female marine in a warzone, the realities and emotions faced when in that environment. It's a necessary and thought provoking read.