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I found this a very useful read. While I was already aware of the basics of attachment principles, there was still plenty of nuggets of wisdom that surprised me and will no doubt add value to my relationships moving forward. As I've seen other reviewers say, this book is pretty skewed towards anxious attachment. Those who identify as avoidant may find it less helpful or optimistic. But all in all, it was a very informative, well-written book that I'm glad to have experienced!
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I read this but it felt like it was repackaging some other self-help books. 


I received a complimentary copy of this book through NetGalley. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own.
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I am unable to give feedback because the book has been archived. I tried to read it this week (on my kindle) but it is no longer available. NetGalley shows that it was archived on 2/1.
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I am very grateful to have received this book and learned more about my attachment style and what it means for my relationships moving forward. I think this is a very straight-forward book and perfect for anyone who is looking to learn more about how they are in relationships.
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"In fact, studies show that if you have an avoidant attachment style, you tend to be less happy and satisfied in your relationships"

Thank you Penguin Random House for sharing this book with me!

This book sucked for me. I've been desperately wanting to read this book for years and I'm so glad I never bought it. I had high hopes going into this book and they quickly fell into a dumpster fire.

Ya'll I understand that being avoidant, which is my attachment style, isn't ideal but I have never felt more shamed in my life. The rhetoric and language that surrounded the avoidant attachment style is appalling. Just because some people had a different childhood and therefore grew up to not have perfect attachments to other individuals doesn't make them the devil.

This book overall made me really sad. It makes love to be something so formulaic and analytical, not something to be felt and experienced and hoped for. Overall, I'm leaving this book feeling really bad at myself, bored, and having learned nothing at all. Would only recommend this book if you're an anxious or securely attached person looking to pump your ego full of hot air.
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Attached is a great book to discover your own attachment style and psychological patterns when it comes to intimate relationships. While the book offers excellent advice and exercises, I'm wary about treating this book and attachment styles in general as the end-all be-all approach to navigating romantic and platonic  relationships. Oftentimes folks have more complexities and don't quite fit into limited boxes but this book can help assist with recognizing that our partner's actions aren't always personal or that they may be needing affection during moments when they feel smothering to us. This book can help us feel less monsterous for wanting space and less petulant for wanting affection. The exercises can help couples and friendships navigate rocky terrain. It's a helpful book, but doesn't have to be "The" answer. Actually, maybe couple's therapy and active listening  is "The Answer" :)
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This book does not do as much as I would like at breaking down attachment issues. It does a good job as an introduction to attachment. It just does not present anything new. I feel like I’ve read everything that is in this book before. At the same time, it is useful for someone who is new to attachment.
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This should be essential reading for everyone. 
Insightful, informative and down to earth, with many practical examples and reflective questions throughout. Full of eye-opening and very accessible research based information that is applicable to all sorts of relationships, including romantic and platonic. 
Written in a very approachable way that had me turning the pages quickly, hungry for more revelations and full of plenty of ah-ha! moments for both myself and the people in my life. This has made it easy to understand the concepts of attachment - avoidant, secure and anxious - and elaborates on them all further with their own sections and examples to demonstrate them as well as the reasons behind them. A fascinating read.
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This book is extremely helpful in understanding attachment theory and your own attachment style. This will help in all relationships and is very accessible, even for someone who doesn't have a lot of background knowledge on the subject.
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this is such an insightful and helpful book. I found so many amazing fact-based techniques to implement into my own life. this is a book that you gladly recommend to people you want to help and see flourish!
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Attachment Theory is not a new theory - it is a strong, evidence-based theoretical approach that guides a lot of education, counselling, therapeutic and wellbeing programmes. This book is another insightful addition that explores the relevance, and applicability, of attachment theory in adulthood.
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I ended up buying this book to add to my Self Help collection! It is hands down the best book on the subject of Attachment. It’s simplified in its explanation of the forms of Attachment and how it applies to who you are and how you show up in your relationships. If you are new to this topic and are on the journey of self discovery, this book is one that should be on the top of your list.
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This book was very informative, but really only for people with an anxious attachment style. I am this kind of person, so for me personally, I found this book to be very fascinating and insightful. If you know that you are not an anxiously attached type of person, this might not be the most helpful for you.
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The authors of this book have developed a very helpful and unique guide for understanding attachment and its effects. I was especially grateful for the tables and charts that organized information in concise and meaningful ways. I would recommend this book to anyone wanting an introduction to this topic, or to someone who has studied this area of psychology and could appreciate expert commentary this book provides. Well done!
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Anyone interested in parenting, relationships, family, or self help will find a lot to dig into here. I found the book highly readable and engaging. Recommended.
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Attached was a such a great read! I have always been interested in psychology but when I learned about it in college, I was too young to really apply it to my life. Attached helped me reflect on my childhood and my relationship with my fiancé. There are many reasons a relationship can fail so why not try to be proactive and examine ways you can better yourself and your relationship? I think this is a great introduction to attachment styles and how to balance yours with your partner's. If you are looking for more in-depth information on your particular style, there are other resources out there.
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An excellent book for anyone interested in relationships. The authors are researchers exploring attachment theory in adults. While attachment theory with regard to children has been around for several decades, application of attachment theory to adult relationships is new. After reading several books on the attachment process in children, I was excited to see this new book on attachment in adult romantic relationships. This book delivered.

While based in solid science and research, this book is nonetheless highly readable. All of us have been in relationships - both good and bad - so the book is highly relatable as well. Many examples are given to demonstrate secure, avoidant, and anxious attachment relationships. The book keeps your attention.

Highly recommended.
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I was first recommended this book by a friend whose therapist told her to read this. This book should be read by everyone, but especially people who may find something lacking in their relationships. This book can help you identify why you aren't making you're relationships work even though it feels like you're trying. I thought the information in this book is important and very relevant to people. I wish I knew about this years ago because this information in this book can really help make you recognize why relationships aren't working and what you can do to help change that. The book is well written and has tons of research and material to provide with evidence based on this theory. It also provides quizzes you can take to identify what type of relationship style you are (avoidant, anxious, or both) as well as your partner. I will admit I didn't take the quizzes, but that is due more to me knowing exactly which style I fall into. The only downfall of the book is that the information wasn't that hard to grasp, so the book could have just as easily been a short essay. I highly recommend this book for anyone who feels that they may need to understand their relationships better. 

Thank you to Net Galley, the author and publishers for giving me a free ARC of this book in exchange for my opinion.
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This book is about parenting, self/help, and families. I like this book because it describes the three major attachment styles and which one each person is. Once you know what type of attachment style you are, then you can develop stronger relationships with the people you love. I love that this book is based on science.
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"Attached: the New Science of Adult Attachment and how it can help you find-and-keep love" by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller is a fun, easy to read (and understand), non-fiction book that engages readers to think about their attachment styles and how they affect our romantic relationships. Levine and Heller (influenced by the early research conducted by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth on attachment styles in children) relate the attachment styles individuals form as children to how we show up to our romantic partners in adulthood. The book opens with a general overview of the 3 attachment styles (avoidant, anxious, and secure), then follows with a mini quiz to help the reader identify where they may be situated within the attachment styles. From then on, the authors provide further overviews of these attachment styles and how they relate to one another when people from the same or different attachment styles come together romantically. 

Having recently just begun dating after a long-lived dating hiatus, I found this book to be an extremely useful resource. It helped me identify my attachment style (which falls into a nice blend of both anxious and avoidant), and what I can do to formulate more secure attachments moving forward. It is also encouraging me to be more understanding of what others may be experiencing within their attachment style, and how that would work in relation to my own. 

Given that this was a very easy to follow and informative non-fiction book that has shaped the way I am currently perceiving my relationships, I would give it a rating of 4/5. I find myself referring to the book with friends and family quite often since having read through it, and it has provoked some interesting talking topics with those around me. The mini quizzes had me feeling some nostalgic Seventeen Magazine quiz vibes, and the interactive “food for thoughts” at the end of each chapter were thought provoking and engaging. The only change I would make is to have added a bit more information on the avoidant attachment style. I would have enjoyed a bit more information on how those experiencing that particular attachment style could transition to a more secure base. 

Thank you so much for the read, I am thankful to netgalley and the publishers for allowing me to read through a copy in exchange for an honest review.
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