This is a wonderful book and resource for parents. It is filled with research that is summarized in a way that is easy to digest. More importantly, it's packed with strategies and practices to support parents in applying the research in meaningful ways. I had a lot of "aha moments" and was reminded of the importance of reframing the challenges I am experiencing with my adolescents and maintaining a perspective and approach that is helpful and not harmful.

Ratings
Quality of Writing 5/5
Value for Intended Audience 5/5
Pacing 4/5
Overall Enjoyability 5/5

THE BREAKTHROUGH YEARS is the latest parenting text from Ellen Galinsky, a well-respected researcher and prolific author who is currently President of Families and Work Institute. In this lengthy (560 pages) book, she presents "A New Scientific Framework for Raising Thriving Teens." As she begins to outline the structure of her book, she highlights pleas from teens to address questions like: Why don’t adults understand us? and Why do adults have such negative views of teenagers? This echoes the sentiments expressed in the recently published Underestimated, although that text takes a decidedly less scientific tone. Galinsky notes five main messages which teens want to share: (1) Understand our development; (2) Listen and talk *with* us, not *at* us; (3) Don't stereotype us; (4) We are trying to understand ourselves and our needs; and (5) We want to learn life and learning skills. Galinsky describes relevant research, including copious quotes from adolescents (ages nine to nineteen, per her definition). For example, she discusses emotional regulation, how adolescents learn to manage emotions, even the benefit of strong emotions, and then continues with a look at "the vital connection between rewards, motivation, and learning." Perhaps the most helpful, though, are Galinsky's thoughtful suggestions like those she offers for rethinking adolescence and seven reasons (e.g., protective instinct, fear, etc.) for why we experience difficulty in reframing negative attitudes towards teens.

For each of the five key messages listed above, she repeats a pattern of quotes from teens; reflection on the message (with comments from adults and parents); and then a detailed and segmented overview of relevant science and summary lists (e.g., four components of foundational executive function skills) and proposed actions. The text's layout with multiple subheadings, italics, and bold typeface aids the reader's comprehension. Frankly, there is SO much here to digest and apply that Galinsky's text could easily provide a valuable yearlong one book-one school read. Roughly twenty percent is devoted to notes and bibliographic citations; she also provides an amazing list of the dozens of researchers and thought leaders interviewed. THE BREAKTHROUGH YEARS received a starred review from Publishers Weekly ("Overflowing with insight backed by scientific rigor, this is an essential companion for parents of adolescents.") and very positive comments from experts like Lisa Damour, Angela Duckworth, Kenneth Ginsburg, Adam Grant, and Daniel J. Siegel.

PLEASE NOTE: Family Action Network is hosting a Zoom session with Ellen Galinsky on Tuesday, April 16th at 7:00 pm. Watch their website for details on how to register: https://www.familyactionnetwork.net/

4.5 stars