Well, well, well… Dr. Tara really said “let’s talk about sex, baby”—and she meant everything. TMI? Not in this book’s vocabulary.

How Do You Like It? is like sitting down with your most confident, wildly informed, charmingly cheeky best friend—the one who isn’t afraid to go there (yes, even there), and backs it up with well-researched insight and expert knowledge. Dr. Tara blends personal empowerment with practical advice, using humor, empathy, and a clear, judgment-free tone that makes this not just a sex-ed upgrade, but a full-on confidence boost in book form.

She tackles the big questions: Why don’t we talk openly about sexual satisfaction? Why are we settling for so-so sex? Why are shame and silence still running the show when it comes to pleasure? The book’s power lies in how it encourages readers to reflect deeply while still making you snort-laugh mid-paragraph. (The quizzes and prompts? Absolutely addictive. The “Sexual Profile Quiz” in particular had me texting friends: “I’m a Curious Romantic, what are you?” Like it’s the new astrology.)

Whether you’re a sexual wellness newbie or a seasoned sex-positive advocate, you’ll find something to dog-ear, something to giggle at, and something to bring up at brunch—if your brunch table is cool like that. The book is inclusive, affirming, and truly interested in helping people understand themselves, not just between the sheets but in their core relationships and communication patterns.

How Do You Like It? is the spicy, smart, and deeply supportive read we didn’t know we needed—but are very glad we got. Bring a pen. Bring an open mind. And maybe bring your partner, too.

Ready to learn how you like it? Dr. Tara’s got you covered.

I didn’t start the year thinking I was going to read a book about sex communication, but I’m glad I did. I think Dr Tara does a great job balancing a traditionally taboo subject with non-judgmental openness, academic research, humor, and frankness. There is so much to learn in this one book that sometimes takes a lifetime to figure out. And it is all backed up with personal stories PLUS cited sources and I love that.

I don’t think everyone is going to resonate with every single part of this book, but I do think there is something for almost everyone who reads it with an open hand, ready to learn something new or at least to understand more about yourself and partner from a trusted source. It’s a very refreshing way to read on a topic that has so much misinformation circulating.

There was almost TOO much information, however I do wish there was something in the book that talked about family planning communication. I understand the focus of the book is more on relationships or sexual well-being, but still, this feels like a kind of major part of communication in your sex life to just not even acknowledge.

I was so pleasantly surprised by this book! We know that communication is key to happy relationships, but we can freeze up completely when it comes to talking about sex, and this is a great guide for adults who already have some experience. I hope to see more books like this in mainstream media.