PARENTING THE QBQ WAY (ePub)

Have you ever heard questions like these?
"Why don't my kids do what I say?"
"Who made the mess in here?"
"When will my teen make better choices?"

If so, then you have heard the kind of questions that parents ask that lead to victim thinking, blame, and procrastination. The solution: Learn to parent the QBQ way-and bring personal accountability to life within our families.

When we lament about what our children are doing or not doing, when we delay action while waiting for others to "do something," when we point fingers looking for "whodunit"-we are not putting personal accountability into action.

But we can-and we do it through a tool called the QBQ, or The Question Behind the Question.

When faced with a parenting problem or frustration, our minds first tend to fill with questions like "Why won't my kids listen?" and "When will they do what I ask?" These questions are natural and understandable, but by focusing on everything and everyone except the person asking them-the parent-they demonstrate a lack of personal accountability. It's only when we stop and look behind those questions that we find better ones-QBQs-like "What can I do differently?" and "How can I improve as a parent?" Asking these questions turns the focus back to ourselves and to what we can do to make a difference.

With thoughtful commentary, observation, and advice, illustrated with engaging and memorable anecdotes that are the hallmarks of John Miller's previous books, Parenting the QBQ Way provides every mom and dad with the means and inspiration to be more effective parents-as well as teach their children how to practice their own brand of personal accountability-to create a happy, healthy family for a lifetime.