Finding F*ck Yes

This book was simply incredible. It has made me feel empowered and ready to live my best life. Seeing her road towards self-love has pushed me in my own path. Reading about her experiences has made me reflect upon my own, that's when I know a book is about to change my life.

I received an ARC of Finding F*ck Yes by Clare Marie Edgeman from NetGalley.

I did start this book under the impression that it was more of a memoir told through poetry as it was categorized as poetry. This book is a sex memoir with a few poems sprinkled in.

“But sometimes it is the quiet, vulnerable moments— the moments when we have to slow down and listen— that change us the most,” (Edgeman). I think these moments throughout Edgemans book were my favorite. These moments where she was telling us about having to sit with herself, her own confusion, and not having any distractions. I learned the most and was most empowered by these moments. So many people are afraid to be alone with themselves. The writing was good and witty. I found myself laughing at times. It was easy to read and I got through the book in two easy sessions.

I do not suffer from diabetes but I suffer from many chronic illnesses that also started in my teen years. Although I have suffered from migraines that controlled my life since I was four years old. I understand the constant worry and fight for control. I am also plus sized so I related there.


The biggest problem I had with the book was that it got repetitive. It was the repeat cycle of sex with a stranger, feeling inadequate, traveling, sex with a stranger, etc. This book focuses on sexual autonomy when it comes to feminism or that is at least what I got out of it.

The book is also about a women trying to find herself and her strength. I feel like her strength is often connected to how attractive men find her.

“The strongly-held belief that my body was undesirable was beginning to unravel as I had more and more sex with more and more men. These men desired my body,” (Edgeman).

I feel it defeats the purpose of feminism to connect ones desirability to how screwable men find you. As the book states it is full of contradictions. That is the one statement that describes this book perfectly.

Overall, the book was interesting, a quick read, and I’m sure empowering for many women. Sexuality is individual and that is the beauty of it.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for providing this book in exchange for an honest review.

I usually feel weird rating memoirs but this one... d e s e r v e s i t!! 5 stars across the board.

I was feeling quite down about my body image and this book came at the right time, I really needed it.
thanks, Clare

So first off....
Has this book lots of sex? YES
Will you blush in parts? YES
Do you need to read it? FUCK YES

It's very rare I go to read a memoir by choice unless it's recommended by someone I trust. I normally find them a bit conceited and whiney. So I saw this book on Netgalley, gave a quick skim and kept going. Few days later something kept drawing me back so I requested and I am so bloody glad I did!

First of all it completely took me out of a book slump, that I've been in for weeks. Clare's style of writing just flows, it just feels like you're sitting on the couch with a glass of wine and she's giddily filling you in on the fantastically filthy details.

As I said this book obviously has a lot of sex in it but it isn't sex for the sake of it and there is so so much more to this book. Clare beautifully tells her journey through finding body positivity, self acceptance and how she lives her life with her long term illness.

I haven't giggled out loud at a book like I have with this in such a long long time. This book explores Clare's journey of battling her self identity, self confidence and her sexuality. Towards the end it turns out to be less of a battle and into a beautiful discovery of her true self. I only wish every girl had some level of this honesty and confidence about themselves throughout their lives!

It is a total feel good read which can only positively impact anyone who reads it. Clare's wit, unflinching honesty and genuine lust for life had me blown away!

Do yourself a favour and read Finding F*ck Yes by the lovely Clare Marie Edgeman.

Through well-chosen words, both in verse and prose, Clare Marie Edgeman shares life and experience. I was immediately grasped by the edgy title, and found much to appreciate in this author's mastery of craft.

4.25 stars

"Sometimes in life you have to be a bit bold"

This book really caught me by a surprise like dont just judge the cover and the title. When i started reading this i was having a bad day with so much of anxiety around me. Having said that, i completed reading this book in one sitting! I adored Clare spirits in this book the way she was so empowering as the chapters went by i was shooked. Of course there will be woop woop scenes in this book no doubt!

This is written very honestly and amazing to see how she developed a power to embrace herself and her sexual journey too. i also kinda loved hillary in this book, she was hilarious.
Highly recommend this book if you interested to read more about woman empowerment and sexual journey.

Slightly outside of my reading-comfort-zone, this was delightful and just what I needed during the stay-at-home order. A must read for anyone regardless of self confidence levels. It pushes for self introspection or opens your eyes to understand others.

Finding Fuck Yes is an all reveal of a number of Clare's sexual encounters, ranging from the fabulously laugh out loud to important ones that touch upon revevant subjects, such as consent and sexual safety, while also normalising the female sexuality. Clare apart from being her own sexual power, is also type 1 diabetic. While using the platform of Finding F*ck Yes to normalise sex, she also uses it as an informative tool to talk about her personal and sexual impacts of her diagnosis, while also touching on her experience of a diabetic eating disorder diabullimia. This memoir is at times powerfully raw, deeply personal and utterly empowering!

I adored this book, I admire Clare's literary middle finger to societal slut shaming, the idea that society has a say / control over the bodies of women. This book shares that safe promiscuity is not just for men but rather provides a positive narrative for sexual expression, no matter who the person is or their sexual preferences.

Finding F*ck Yes also touches upon sobering subjects, such as consent and sexual trauma. This subjects are more important than ever to educate upon and through her personal experiences Clare has done that to a certain degree. Sexual trauma is not a black and white subject, it's many shades of grey and patchy, it's always important to check consent, multiple times as well as always practising safe sex. She says in one of her chapters that these things are not turn offs, don't be afraid to pull out protection, check boundaries etc.

Finding F*ck Yes challenges standards, it challenges the double standards between male and female promiscuity, one being more acceptable than the other. Within these pages sexual ideals are drawn into modernisation, a world where casual sex is accepted, within a world of polygamy and non- monogamous / monogamous relationships, with the inclusion of personal sexuality reflection.

I loved it!

While this book is a memoir that on the surface focuses on a 20-something's sexual exploits, it dives much deeper. The author not only explores the physical, but also the personal of how these encounters have shaped her over the years and given her different views of how she sees connecting with others and viewing herself.

Edgeman does all of this exploring while dealing with a chronic illness, which itself can be the catalyst for a range of physical and spiritual changes. This is a book that doesn't just tell Edgeman's story--it also gives the reader a reason to look to their own lives and experiences to see how they have changed, grown, and inspiring them to learn what saying "fuck yes" means to them.

Wow. So first off, if you are a woman stop right now because you NEED to read this book. God, everyone needs to read this book. This book talks about such important topics; ranging from masturbation, what it means to be a slut, defining your own sexuality, and being confident in your body. Claire's ability to to take a look at herself and her sexuality journey is inspiring, and has inspired me to do the same. I love the body positivity talk that occurs within this book and the urge to accept the skin that you are in. Claire's writing style just flows and the poems that are intertwined within the story provide such a light and beautiful twist. I think this book was phenomenal, I think the story she shares is phenomenal, and I think the path that she brings all of us down is phenomenal.

I adored this. Everyone should read this. It made me feel so empowered and I know I will go back to this again anad again.