Raising LGBTQ Allies

A Parent's Guide to Changing the Messages from the Playground

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Pub Date 15 May 2021 | Archive Date 15 May 2021

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No matter who we are or where we come from, we all play on the same playground. There are certain collective societal messages we hear growing up that we either consciously or subconsciously believe. As a result, we develop certain belief systems from which we operate our lives.

Raising LGBTQ Allies sheds light on the deeper, multi-faceted layers of homophobia. It opens up a conversation with parents around the possibility they may have an LGBTQ child, and shows how heteronormativity can be harmful if not addressed clearly and early. Although not every parent will have an LGBTQ child, their child will jump rope or play tag with a child who is LGBTQ.

By showing readers the importance of having open and authentic conversations with children at a young age, Chris Tompkins walks parents through the many ways they can prevent new generations from adopting homophobic and transphobic beliefs, while helping them explore their own subconscious biases.

Offering specific actions parents, family members, and caregivers can take to help navigate conversations, address heteronormativity, and challenge societal beliefs, Raising LGBTQ Allies serves as a guide to help normalize being LGBTQ from a young age. Creating allies and a world where closets don’t exist happens one child at a time. And it begins with each of us and what we say, as much as what we choose not to say.


Chris Tompkins is a teacher, TEDx speaker, spiritual life coach, and LGBTQ inner-advocate based in Los Angeles, California. More importantly, he’s an uncle of five. Chris believes all kids are the future and teaches social-emotional learning throughout Southern California.


No matter who we are or where we come from, we all play on the same playground. There are certain collective societal messages we hear growing up that we either consciously or subconsciously believe...


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I don’t care who you are. This is such a necessary read. If you’re sure you’re an ally, if you’re not out, if you are out, if you’re homophobic or queerphobic, if you’re in denial about being anything (like the “I don’t see color” people). You need to read this book. You need to understand the biases we all have at some level or point in our lives, intentional or not, and how to do better for ourselves and those around us. I teared up and outright cried a few times while reading this, but I still kept going. Why? Because learning isn’t always easy. I’m 100% an ally and I would like to think that I’m doing the right thing by everyone I encounter, and yet this book made me stop and wonder many times. Am I hurting someone else by making casual remarks that carry assumptions to cause shame? Am I actively showing another that I truly am the person I think I am? Most importantly, am I showing that person that they are safe and loved and can be free of shame around me? These are all so important to acknowledge and work to recognize or change, especially if we truly believe that all souls are worthy.

This author did such a fabulous job in reminding me of the importance of words and actions, thought and deed, that I would thank him personally if ever given the chance. Because some of the people he mentions in this book are people I’ve known. Not these specific people, but friends or family or acquaintances with their exact story or worries or fears. And to put all of these fears out there for the world to share in shows a bravery and authenticity that so many people, young and old alike, need in the world and in their lives. And people need to examine themselves. Not all change is easy, but many times it is necessary. And this book can help guide you in your journey to be truly accepting and loving and worthy of the stories and trust of those around you.

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