My Lover, the Rabbi
A Novel
by Wayne Koestenbaum
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Pub Date Mar 17 2026 | Archive Date Apr 17 2026
Farrar, Straus and Giroux | FSG Originals
Description
A psychosexual relationship between a rabbi and the man devoted to him goes off the rails in this explosive novel.
The rabbi is, to the untrained eye, far from desirable. Lofty and disorderly, aging and constantly losing members of his flock, he is nonetheless the singular object of obsession for the self-abjecting narrator of My Lover, the Rabbi. From the start of their psychosexual affair, the two men torment, pleasure, and manipulate each other with ardor. When they’re apart, the narrator manically contemplates every element of the rabbi’s being: his alluring adopted son, his false erudition, his patrilineage, his broken-down Pontiac, his out-of-state husband (who the narrator has also slept with), and, maybe most of all, the universe between the rabbi’s legs. Spending time together in the narrator's bed, in a tiny town near Hoboken, New Jersey, that our narrator is “devastated to admit is my personal address,” a tender, volatile intimacy brews and curdles. To sustain it, the narrator continues on an unrelenting, increasingly urgent quest to understand the mercurial, ardent rabbi's mysterious past—that is, until he begins to question reality itself. In the process, conflicting truths about the rabbi emerge, with drastic consequences for both men and those around them.
The first novel in nearly twenty years from one of our most acclaimed stylists, Wayne Koestenbaum’s My Lover, the Rabbi is a sui generis spiral of lascivious thrills and uncanny hilarity, exposing in delirious detail the dangers—and spoils—of true love.
A Note From the Publisher
Advance Praise
"Like Ingeborg Bachman’s Malina, My Lover, the Rabbi circles and penetrates the outer edges of perception and experience. It’s a brilliant book, written with manic zeal and cool strategy." —Chris Kraus, author of The Four Spent the Day Together, I Love Dick, and Summer of Hate
Available Editions
| EDITION | Other Format |
| ISBN | 9780374620189 |
| PRICE | $19.00 (USD) |
| PAGES | 464 |
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Featured Reviews
I was so surprised by this book on various fronts: the writing and the plot above all. The narrator was madly compelling and the whole book was such a rush of adrenaline.
Hannah K, Reviewer
Hell of a ride of a novel. We get the story of a young gay man who falls into a situationship with a messy as hell rabbi and the cult he may or may not be leading, and the other men in his life. The rabbi becomes a point of obsession for our main character, and the viscerality that gets described in this novel is unhinged, in the best kind of way. Definitely pick it up when it comes out this spring.
This was not what I expected! “Shock” factor from chapter one and I was hooked immediately. The formatting made this quick and easy to read with short chapters. I kept flipping the pages wanting to see what comes next. The story flowed well.
This was controversial, exciting, unique and interesting. I definitely recommend. I think the cover is beautiful too.
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