The Four Keys to Everlasting Love

How Your Catholic Marriage Can Bring You Joy for a Lifetime

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Pub Date Apr 08 2016 | Archive Date May 09 2017

Description

No marriage—even a sacramental one—is free from conflicts about sex, money, child-rearing, in-laws, and work/life balance. Marriage columnist Karee Santos and her husband, Manuel, a psychiatrist who has been counseling couples for more than fifteen years, explore how applying the wisdom of the Catholic faith to marriage can free us to experience deep, lasting, and soul-satisfying love.

We live in a culture that doesn’t cherish the permanence of marriage, according to Karee and Manuel Santos. Even Catholics aren’t immune from the epidemic of divorce. But St. John Paul II, in his Theology of the Body, calls engaged, newlyweds, and long-married couples alike to be “forever,” “faithful,” “fruitful,” and “free.”

How can you maintain a healthy Catholic marriage when society is pushing against it?

In The Four Keys to Everlasting Love, the Santoses draw on real-life stories, scriptural principles, and the timeless wisdom of St. John Paul II to help you celebrate the sacrament of Marriage without downplaying the difficulties of married life. In doing so, they will inspire you to stay in love with each other, Christ, and the wisdom of the Church.

The Santoses tell their own story as well: how they learned not to cling to personality, culture, or religious differences; how they learned to put family first; how they overcame health crises that exacted a physical, emotional, and spiritual toll; and how they navigated stressful holiday get-togethers with extended family. They let God transform them and make their marriage stronger.

Each chapter provides discussion questions, action prompts, quotes from the Catechism of the Catholic Church and various popes, and additional online and print resources to stimulate the couple’s conversation, mutual understanding, and positive change. Free worksheets and other supplemental resources are available on the authors’ website, canwecana.blogspot.com.

Features & Benefits

Divorce rates have tripled among Catholic couples since the 1970s. This resource for engaged and married couples offers faith-based advice on making their marriage last.

The authors call upon the writings of St. John Paul II and his Theology of the Body.

The book is accessible enough to use individually or in small-groups.

No marriage—even a sacramental one—is free from conflicts about sex, money, child-rearing, in-laws, and work/life balance. Marriage columnist Karee Santos and her husband, Manuel, a psychiatrist who...


A Note From the Publisher

Karee Santos is a Catholic blogger and speaker and a writer for the Catholic Match Institute. She has written numerous articles on marriage and family for the National Catholic Register, Catholic Digest, Faith & Family magazine, CatholicLane.com, AmazingCatechists.com, and Aleteia.org. She blogs at Can We Cana?

Manuel Santos, M.D., is a psychiatrist at Mercy Hospital, Rockville Centre, New York. He also reviews annulment cases for the Marriage Tribunal of the Archdiocese of New York. Dr. Santos is a member of the Sexual Abuse Review Board for the Prelature of the Holy Cross and Opus Dei and also is a member of the Catholic Medical Association, CatholicTherapists.com, and the Society of Catholic Social Scientists.

The Santos’s designed and taught a pre-Cana marriage preparation course, and they write a monthly marriage advice column on CatholicMom.com called “Marriage Rx.” They contribute to FAITH magazine's “Marriage Matters” advice column. The couple lives in Garden City, New York, with their six children.

Karee Santos is a Catholic blogger and speaker and a writer for the Catholic Match Institute. She has written numerous articles on marriage and family for the National Catholic Register, Catholic...


Advance Praise

Practical yet spiritually rich.”
From the foreword by Christopher West
Author ofGood News about Sex and Marriage

“This book truly is an invitation to heroic virtue, fully alive in pursuit of God’s glory, with your spouse by your side.”

Stephanie Calis
Catholic blogger and author of Invited: The Ultimate Catholic Wedding Planner

“Fearlessly sharing their own marital and family struggles, Karee and Manny Santos show how every family can reach the alluring ideal to which God calls them, drawing others to heaven in the process. Their many easy and practical suggestions are spot on!”
Rev. John R. Waiss
Pastor and author of Couples in Love

“Whether engaged or long-married, Catholic couples will fall in love again as they implement these simple but powerful strategies for creating a lifetime of mutual joy. The Four Keys to Everlasting Love unpacks the secrets of genuine togetherness through personal witness, case studies, the writings of the Church, and superb practical recommendations. Not to be missed!”

Lisa Mladinich

Author of the Be An Amazing Catechistseries

“What Dr. Manny and Karee Santos have done with Four Keys to Everlasting Love is to create a resource that we all need. Yes, all of us. Whether you’re single and contemplating marriage, newlywed or an old hand at vows, priest or catechist, this book has something for you. What you’re holding in your hands is a book that’s going to become an instant, classic, go-to resource for parishes, spiritual leaders, and anyone who cares about the future of Catholic marriage.”
Sarah Reinhard
Catholic author, speaker, and blogger

Practical yet spiritually rich.”
From the foreword by Christopher West
Author ofGood News about Sex and Marriage

“This book truly is an invitation to heroic virtue, fully alive in pursuit of God’s...


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It is a great book! It refers to some of the most important marital issues, such as sex, parenting, unity, prayer, extended family, money, faith, service. All topics provides a real life example, so it´s very easy to understand the Authors message and point of view. Very well grounded in the Church´s teachings and the reflections questions help us to realize where we are in the subject discussed. Every family willing to improve the quality of their life should try this book!

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This book doesn't tell you, it teaches you and I love it

It is a great guidebook for a loving and successful marriage. It encourages and inspires in-depth and honest conversations between spouses and touches on many important issues like finances, work, family of origin.

The four keys are
-Be Faithful and Forgiving
-Be Free
-Be Fruitful
-Love Totally and Forever

Each key is broken down into about 3 sub-categories.

I loved the case study's, reflection questions and Manny's Diagnosis. I believe they allowed for allowed for extensive thought and consideration without telling me what they think is the right answer but rather leads me to decide what is the best answer for me and my situation. They are amenable to any situation not just the one presented and they teach me to systematically evaluate and decide any situation that could ever come up in the future.
The bonus materials of Conversation Starters, Action Plans and Catechism Corner are true treasures.

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The Four Keys to Everlasting Love is in many ways the best marriage advice book I’ve read this year. It breaks down the four requirements of a Catholic marriage (free, faithful, fruitful, and total) and practically applies them to our real lives.

The book seems to be predominately written by Karee Santos with valuable input from her husband such as his side of certain stories and a look into some of the situations he has seen as part of his practice as a therapist. This is a good thing. Her story as a successful lawyer who now stays at home with the kids is a story that needs to be heard. Their story as a mixed faith couple, mixed background couple is one that can help many people. There are also many other stories from tons of other couples and individuals, I can guarantee someone’s story will speak to your own.

This book is helpful for anyone: engaged, divorced, married for 20 years…anyone. Each chapter concludes with questions, action steps, and a quote from the Catechism. The entire book concludes with a guide for using this book as part of a group study and a copious amount of resources for further study into the topics the book covers.

I got the opportunity to review this book through my membership in NetGalley. Thank you Ave Maria Press. This book is available now at your favorite bookseller.

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This is a wonderful spiritual book about a Catholic marriage.
While this is not a step-by-step guide to solve your concrete questions as it offers the bigger picture ways - but while you walk the faithful walk, you might get your concrete answers (or the strenghts and the graces you need). But I also would not call this book to be impractical, as it is quite realistic - while I see the aim here in providing the spiritual guidance, the authors also go through the stash of the realities of the married and family questions and issues. I simply gained more spiritually here and I am glad for it.
I also would love to have the inspring family the kind of Santoses here in my city to be able to gain more wisdom in learning from their example.

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