Cutting. That's the best word I can think of to describe this book. Some family stories are warm and happy, and this is sharp and cutting and messy, and yes, at times, funny. Grinder shows family dysfunction in all its completely ugly reality, and has created characters who are simultaneously hateful and worth investing in. There were parts of this book that were just plain gross (read: the garbage can scenes), but in my opinion, when a book is gross and I keep reading, it's a sign of quality writing and plot. I do wish more of the book had been set actually in England and involving the wedding. The last 20% was my favorite and there were a few laugh-out-loud moments toward the very end. If you have a family that sometimes drives you to tears, and if you understand that life isn't all warm and fuzzy for all of us, this is the summer book for you.

This is - hands down - one of the best novels about family, social class, and thirtysomething malaise I have ever read. This is the novel I was expecting The Nest to be. I feel like I've just been to a family wedding and spent the whole time with the most interesting people there.
Grant Ginder has created a family of charming, funny, intelligent characters who all come to London for a wedding. Shifting back and forth between perspectives, you have time to enjoy seeing what's inside each family member's head. I loved spending time with each of them and their wry observations and biting commentary - I actually giggled reading this on the subway.
This book is smartly written. The language is perfectly chosen, but the writing is unpretentious. Unlike a lot of books about people with money, this one doesn't fall into the trap of trying to prove it "belongs" with too many references to brand names or materialism. It was pitch perfect.
Congratulations to Ginder, who makes it look easy. I enjoyed this so much, I will read anything he writes.

This was a tough read because I didn't particularly like any of the characters. I read through to the end hoping that either they would have consequences for their bad behavior or they would change. While their were consequences, I didn't feel like at the end any of the characters had changed or took responsibility for their mis-deeds. There just seems to be an acceptance that everyone in the family is an awful person in some way, shape or form.

I'm always up for a cutting, humorous dysfunction family tale to lighten my reading and give me an escapist chuckle. Jonathan Tropper and Where'd You Go, Bernadette? are among my favorites. The genius in the best of these is finding the absurd while still keeping the reader invested. This book carried the sharp humor, certainly. But, the characters were vicious right out of the gate, and that kept me from finding a grounding with this one.

I wanted to love this book but I was unable to connect with it. I wanted to give up but I kept pushing through hoping I would have a connecting moment but sadly that didn't happen.

I felt the characters were lifeless and didn't get too much into the book.

I received an ARC of this novel from Netgalley in exchange for my review. At first glance this novel seems to be predictable: a wedding brings out the worst in family members. However, you don't need to get much beyond the first chapter to figure out that this family brings dysfunction to an entirely new level! Alice is in a depression and having and affair with her boss, but actually her full-time job is hating her half-sister Eloise. Paul, their brother has issues of his own. His partner wants to try adding other people to their relationship and doesn't understand why Paul hasn't spoken to his mother in two years and won't go to Eloise's wedding. All of these people come together at Eloise's wedding in a way that will make you laugh and shake your head as you recognize your own family members in some of these hilariously written scenes! A very addicting story!

At the heart of this book is a very dysfunctional family with absolutely selfish and unappealing characters. Not the light and fun read at all that the book's description implies. Paul and Alice fly to London to attend their half sister's wedding. Alice is having an affair with a married man, Paul's partner is getting tired of him, and Eloise has everything going for her. Not recommended.

Sometimes family is not what you expect and this novel looks at the strained relationships of half-siblings. All their life Paul and Alice have resented their older, glamorous half-sister Eloise for her rich father. When Eloise gets married Alice is in the wedding party and Paul is forced to attend. this forces all of them to look at the truth in their lives and reevaluate relationships. A story of family, loyalty, and recognizing the truth and love.

After reading this novel I felt the author had taken many similar stories and squished them all together into this rather dull tale of a family having to deal with the wedding of one of the siblings.

The book is loaded with stereotypical characters, the misunderstood, wealthy half sister, the failure sister who is having an affair with her married boss and the gay brother who is abused by his lover.

Somehow it all comes together with the predicable break-up of two of the siblings and the bride getting cold feet before the wedding. Even thrown into the mix is the cheating, wealthy father of the bride who disappoints again with a local girl.

A very disappointing and unoriginal novel.

I love the title, I love the cover and I think I’m going to love the story too. The People We Hate At the Wedding by Grant Ginder sounds like the kind of book I open and read in one glorious sitting!

Come on, admit it! This looks really good:

Paul and Alice’s half-sister Eloise is getting married! In London! There will be fancy hotels, dinners at “it” restaurants and a reception at a country estate complete with tea lights and embroidered cloth napkins.
They couldn’t hate it more.

The People We Hate at the Wedding is the story of a less than perfect family. Donna, the clan’s mother, is now a widow living in the Chicago suburbs with a penchant for the occasional joint and more than one glass of wine with her best friend while watching House Hunters International. Alice is in her thirties, single, smart, beautiful, stuck in a dead-end job where she is mired in a rather predictable, though enjoyable, affair with her married boss.

Her brother Paul lives in Philadelphia with his older, handsomer, tenured track professor boyfriend who’s recently been saying things like “monogamy is an oppressive heteronormative construct,” while eyeing undergrads. And then there’s Eloise. Perfect, gorgeous, cultured Eloise. The product of Donna’s first marriage to a dashing Frenchman, Eloise has spent her school years at the best private boarding schools, her winter holidays in St. John and a post-college life cushioned by a fat, endless trust fund. To top it off, she’s infuriatingly kind and decent.

I put this down part-way because I thought it was too vulgar.