Lucy Carpenter has a fantastic life. She has a job that she loves that she's found a great deal of success with. She found the love of her life, albeit later in life, and has a strong and loving marriage. But as her fortieth birthday is closing in, she can't help but feel like she wants a baby, in order to bring everything together. 

But life is rarely that easy. 

Instead of a successful, happy pregnancy, Lucy instead finds herself grieving after a miscarriage and dealing with her teenaged stepdaughter, work issues, self-doubt, and isolation. Why do other women find it so easy to have a baby while she finds herself disappointed every month? Is there a reason Lucy can't have it all? It is her age, her life choices, or is it something else entirely? Can she ever find the happiness she craves without a baby to round out her life? 

Amanda Prowse's The Idea of You is the story of one woman's fight for a baby. She is fighting against time. She is fighting against her own body. She is fighting against her stepdaughter. And she is fighting against her husband. But what she really needs is the courage to fight for herself. 

This is not an easy book to read. It deals with characters in difficult and painful situations. There is a satisfying resolution in the end, which helped, but this is not a story for the faint of heart. Read with a box of tissues and a cup of tea nearby. 



Galleys for The Idea of You were provided by the publisher through NetGalley.com.

I can see why this book would appeal to many readers and would possibly even be therapeutic. However, I felt that the beginning dragged on with Lucy's constant miscarriages (and don't get me wrong, I am sympathetic to such tragedy but the book felt repetitive). The next section had Lucy as needy, jealous and struggling as a stepmother while also dealing with her desire to be a parent. Again, the portrayal was well written but the level of detail and they characterisation of Lucy made it a difficult read for me in terms of motivation to want to continue. The last section of the book had a few twists and turns but none of them surprised me.
It is a well written book but I just felt it was overly emotional and the latter part was a bit too sickly sweet. Neither the characters nor their actions felt 3 dimensional or realistic. I appreciate what the book achieves but I didn't find it overly engrossing or enjoyable.

This is the first book I have read by this author, Amanda Prowse.  I am looking forward to reading more from this author.

We meet Lucy Carpenter in the beginning of the book as a single lady looking for love.  She meets Jonah and they get married.  Now all Lucy ever wants in her life is one thing....a baby, but life does not always work out the way you think it will.  Jonah has a teenage daughter and she comes to visit them and things for Lucy begins to be a struggle for her. 

The Idea of You touched the life of miscarriages and was written very well.  All this woman wants is the idea of becoming a mom.  Without that child she thinks is can not be a mom.  But, as a stepmom, she is.  Just a little different.  I loved how Lucy became the center for her family.  I loved how Lucy wrote her "idea of you" to her child she lost.  Those letters were so sad.

I could not put this book down and I can not wait to read more.
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I give this book 5 out of 5 stars.
Recommend this book? Yes! Author? Yes!
Read more from this author? Yes!

Happy Reading!
Melissa

I found this a difficult book to read. Being a childless woman of a certain age made this book cutting to the core. On the whole well written and in many ways a comfort to many like myself. The story was honest and you felt for the main character. Glad I read it but was hard to at times.

I didn't want to put this book down! The characters were fully developed and made me feel so deeply with the pain that they were going through.

Very well written and engaging novel of miscarriage, stepfamilies, and ultimately hope. Prowse hit some nerves with this one. Lucy is a terrific and sympathetic character; Jonah is as well. Camille, well she's a teenager. Prowse did a very good job with the tension in the family. More importantly, she did an excellent job with the impact of repeated miscarriage on both the mother and the father. This doesn't end the way you might think it will but that makes it all the more satisfying. Thanks to Netgalley for the ARC. I've read other Prowse novels and think this is one of her more sophisticated and thoughtful offerings. I look forward to more from her.

Fantastic book, I laughed, I groaned and I cried along the way as we followed Lucy from past to present.
I'm glad she got her happily ever after, even if Cams pregnancy was a little predictable.
Would recommend and would happily pick up another title by Amanda Prowse.

Thank you netgalley for the advanced read.
I'd never read this author before. The stories she writes about are real and I believe people will relate to them.
I'd give the book a 4. I'd recommend it to certain friends. As a mother I nevef had miscarriages. So I can't relate to the pain this character went through. But also as a mother you relate to imaging the loss she must feel. And the longing to have a child.
I would have liked to learn more about Lucy and her mom's relationship.
I like also how Jonah's daughter came into their life.

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Lucy Carpenter is almost 40. She appears to have it all; a fantastic career, gorgeous apartment in the city, a wardrobe full of clothes and shoes to make most women green, exotic holidays, and a full social life. Yet all she wants is a baby.
Then she meets Jonah, her husband to be, and she feels like life is going her way.

However, the dream of becoming parents is not as straightforward as Lucy or Jonah initially believed. Throughout everything Jonah remains Lucy's rock. Yet with the pressure and stress mounting and Lucy's job beginning to feel the strain of the pressure, this understandably begins to show on their marriage.

A thought provoking and emotional book, particularly today with so much expected of women. Can women really have it all; a high flying career and a family? Or is it impossible to juggle, making a choice imperative?

A (large) box of tissues may be needed for some people as the book delves into some touching and moving subjects.

I've never read an Amanda Prowse book before, but I enjoyed her writing style and will need to check out some of her other books.

Thanks to NetGalley and Lake Union Publishing, for the opportunity to read this book in return for an honest and unbiased review.

I love Amanda Prowse's style of writing and I was certainly not disappointed with this book. It is written from the heart and deals with the subject of miscarriage in a tender and emotional way. I have, thankfully, not ever suffered a miscarriage and I feel that reading this has enlightened me greatly of the effects of such sad loss.

I was totally engrossed from start to finish and would highly recommend this book but it may leave you emotionally drained.

This is not the sort of book I would normally read, but since I was auto-approved for it, and the premise sounded interesting, I decided to give it a try. It was a pleasant surprise, to say the least. I could definitely see this as being a true story, which is about as high a compliment as I can give. And in a wildly shocking twist, I actually found myself crying, which just doesn't happen, so kudos to Ms. Prowse for touching me so unexpectedly.

This is an honest review in exchange for an ARC from NetGalley.

I'm actually finding this review difficult to write. The main reason for this, I believe, is because I greatly enjoy Amanda Prowse's other books and waited with bated breath for this one to be available, but being generous, I can only give it 3.5 stars. I so wanted to love this...and I just didn't.

Ms. Prowse is a wonderful author who usually nails character development and storyline, but the characters in this book felt very one-note to me.

Lucy is so desperate for a man, almost any man really and a baby that she came off as pathetic, in my opinion. I think she'd have gone out with almost anyone. I can understand her wish for love, happiness and a family, but she was over the top. Once she got married and Camille came to stay,
my dislike of her character grew. She behaved almost as badly as Camille and was as whiny.

Jonah also bothered me quite a bit, mostly because he was so dismissive of Lucy's concerns about Camille, almost to the point of being patronizing to her. I would not have appreciated someone speaking so condescendingly to me, but she really never raised much of a stink over it.

I felt terrible about the constant disappointments over giving birth, but even the sympathy that generated from me for Lucy, didn't make her any more likable in my opinion. Camille was portrayed as a huge spoiled brat in the beginning, but I soon found myself feeling sorry for her and I was rooting for her by the end of the book.

This is definitely a read for someone that likes family dramas, which typically I do. I just think the characters were not the kind that I could enjoy or even like, which ruined the book for me.

Thank you very much to the author, the publishers and Netgalley for the early reader copy.

This book is for a certain type of reader- and it is not me!

The plot deals with miscarriages, what being a mom means, and relationships in general. I don't have a problem with any of these things, but I found the sheer desperation of the protagonist, Lucy, to get married and have a baby off putting. Why do older women have to be portrayed in such a way? Why are all of their past accomplishments written off if they don't have a ring on their finger and a bun in the oven? And it wasn't just Lucy- her office mates gossiped about her reason for not having any kids like it was A. their business and B. actually important.

I thought the best part (though it was more of a back burner plot line) was the developing relationship between Lucy and her step-daughter. It seemed genuine and was much more compelling to read about than Lucy's inner monologue of desperately wanting to have a baby.

Lucy Carpenter almost has it all successful career loving husband all they need to make everything perfect is a baby. Almost 40 Lucy learns of the struggles to have a baby.
Not the sort of book I'd normally read but I thoroughly enjoyed it I felt at times it got deep as if maybe person may have been writing by from experience definitely recommend it.

An excellent read, this should come with a warning that you need the tissues at the ready. I really empathised with both Lucy and Jonah in their battle to become parents.

This book started out as a very slow read & a bit depressing. Once Camille finally moved in with the family, it got much better & I enjoyed reading how the relationship evolved between her & her step-mom.

I have a fair few books by Amanda Prowse on my Kindle and I'm not sure I've even read any yet. All that will change now I've read The Idea of You. I devoured this book in two short sittings and sat back at the end of it, in need of some quiet contemplation and not racing off to read another book in my queue as usual.
The theme of this book is miscarriage and while you know that, some of this review may constitute a spoiler so read with caution if that is likely to bother you.
This book centres around Lucy, opening when she is beginning to despair of finding Mr Right and follow her friends, and sisters into marriage and motherhood. At a christening of her employees baby she meets Jonah and all that changes. The book very quickly jumps forward to happy domesticity for Lucy and Jonah and wonderfully, a pregnancy. At this point I have to mention that while I conceived and carried my three eldest children with ease, I then suffered recurrent miscarriages and secondary infertility while trying for baby number four so I could completely relate to Lucy. If the author hasn't experienced miscarriage herself I will be very surprised and blown away by both her imagination and her empathy. Thank you Amanda for shining a light on what is so seldom discussed and seems to be so taboo still. The scene where it is Jonah who discovers their first miscarriage is haunting.
Throughout the book, interspersed with the plot are pages of a letter or diary, of Lucy writing to her lost babies, or her future baby? We aren't quite sure. I liked to think that the certainty with which she wrote meant that Lucy did one day have a child, the girl she feels that is out there waiting for her.
Admission number two from me... I am also a knitter and the cover of this book grabbed me immediately because of that! Lucy also knits, finding it soothing and relaxing as she copes with the excitement of a new pregnancy, the fear of losing it and then the grief when it ends. She knits garments for the baby she longs for and stores them in a wicker basket which is put up, out of the way in her bedroom.
As if recurrent miscarriage wasn't enough for Lucy to cope with, Jonah has a daughter, Camille who he has only seen sporadically since her birth as she lives in France with her mother and stepfather. During the happier moments of her pregnancy, Lucy encourages Jonah to invite Camille to stay for the summer in London. Lucy bravely decides to continue with this plan despite miscarrying.
Camille is as you would imagine, a spiky teenage girl who keeps her new stepmother firmly at arms length despite Lucy's many moves to befriend her. In the end this pushes Lucy to a point of seeing the girl as an opponent and her relationship with Jonah suffers as a result.
Other characters and side plots include Lucy's mother and sister who she doesn't seem totally connected to, despite them presenting as a close family, Lucy's employee and friend Tansy who she fails to open up to and Camille's boyfriend Dex.
I won't spoil the next section of the book but it involves honesty. Camille being honest with Lucy, Lucy being honest with Tansy, her mother, Jonah and Camille and eventually all characters moving on and creating happiness with the family they have been given rather than one they may have chosen.
I found Prowse's writing so true, and so emotive that I sobbed my way through the last few chapters. Lucy may have started the book closed off and unlikable to some but assumes a new confidence and a new identity by the end of the book and I left the last page liking them all very much indeed and wondering what the future held for them all.

Wow Amanda Prowse does it again, she writes with so much feeling and the characters are so developed that you feel you actually know them.
Lucy and Jonah are trying to complete their lives with a baby but it is not always as simple as wanting and it seems she cannot carry her pregnancies to full term. Jonah has a teenage daughter with his ex wife and Camilla is going to be staying with them throughout the summer so Lucy throws herself into getting her room ready and hopes to make her feel welcome.The trials and turbulance of having a teenager in the house was so true to life and I couldn't put this book down. I am so glad I was reading in my own home as I found tears rolling down my face on several occasions.
Amanda writes with such empathy and it flows so easily that I read the book in two sittings.
I would like to say thank you for the copy of the bookfrom NetGalle