A good book for parents to teach how to handle the their child’s tantrum and a good book for children to learn what triggers are and what to do when they are angry.

read to my daughter but she did not like it much. To be fair, she's picky. I didn't think it was bad, I just may have overestimated how much she would enjoy it.

This is a great book to help parents understand the smart love approach. It deals with helping children understand their emotions when they are overwhelmed or upset. I would recommend it for home reading.

Jilly is a happy kangaroo until frustrated or unable to get what she wants. At that time, she has a terrible temper tantrum, screaming and stomping her feet. Throughout it all, her parents provide love and support.

This is a children's book aimed at the preschool to about kindergarten age. The pictures are colorful and easy for children of that age to follow, and it's easy for them to relate to the frustrations that Jilly goes through. It might be a good way to talk about the reasons why kids have tantrums and start to teach them how to calm down. Martha Heineman Pieper is a psychotherapist, and developed the Smart Love principles; it's outlined at the end of the book for adults to read and learn more about. Rather than punish the kids that have tantrums, in this model parents will lovingly understand the child and help them through it without making them feel badly about their own emotions. Toddlers and very young kids don't know how to handle emotions, after all, and adults have to teach them how. This book may help frustrated parents and kids understand how to move past tantrums and get on with the fun parts of family life.

Good illustrations. It has many instances where Jilly, the kangaroo throws temper tantrums and what her parents do

Dealing with disobedience and tantrums in young children can be very frustrating for parents. Having a plan to help children understand limits, expectations, and appropriate responses is crucial to maintain a good parent/child relationship. Jilly's parents teach her these values in this cute children's book. Although I may not agree with all the aspects of this parenting style, I think this is a fun and adorable way to teach parents and kids the author's philosophy.

Book was fantastic. My daughter was throwing tantrums and you could see the little light bulb go off in her head as we read it. Now when she starts to act bad I remind her of the book and it helps give her an idea about how to act.

This was an enjoyable book to read with my children. The reading flowed well and allowed for easy dramatic changes in voice and tone. I think the lesson was clear. As a parent I found myself thinking that I am never as calm as the parents in the story. Made me think a little.

Love reading this to my granddaughter! She enjoys taunting Jilly about getting i trouble.

So I saw the title of this book and thought you know what I want to give it a try. My four year old likes to throw tantrums every now and then, just maybe when she saw how someone else acted and how they outgrew them she will as well.
First my daughter did not enjoy the book, I tried to engage her with questions asking if she thought the way Jilly acted was correct but she just kept saying this book is boring.
Second I felt as though the message this book came across with is when your child acts up you can still give them what they want as long as you tell them you love them, and ask for cuddles and hugs. This didn't sit well with me though I am sure other parents do the smart love and do not scold their child and that is fine with me to each their own.
Third the way Jilly spoke about her friend because she didn't want to play the same game was a big no-no in my book. Even A knew that was not nice to say and looked at me with big eyes and mentioned it.
I did like the idea of how Jilly towards the end knew that instead of acting out she asked for her parents and they came to help her. The illustrations were very good and did portray the story in the way it was going.

A darling book that helps young children make a connection to tantrums. These are tough points in young kids lives and this book made valid fun points for these readers.

The illustrations in this book were cute, but the story was not great. I just don't feel like it's relatable to children.

Sorry, not a fan. The stories are short & quick & too easily solved. Plus, giving in to the bratty child at every turn is NOT teaching them that "they are loved & not to act up", you are feeding into it. My opinion, I'm sure others will feel differently.

A sweet and beautifully illustrated book about a young kangaroo learning to deal with big emotions.

Jilly's Terrible Temper Tantrums​ and How She Outgrew Them​
by Martha Heineman Pieper, Ph.D.​
Smart Love Press, LLC​
May 2017

The message of Dr. Pieper's recent release is clear:  Parents dealing with tantrums should help children understand that seeking help and a hug is far superior to the misery of a temper tantrum.

What is different about this book 
The didactic picture book may be an effective way to help parents, and to help children, understand an alternative way to deal with emotional outbursts.

The calm and gentle support that Jilly's parents provide in this story is surely a good thing.  I wonder, however, at what point we begin to teach children that being happy is not always the highest goal.

What I'll do now that I've read this book 
The illustrations by Gershman support the tale and somewhat extend the story.  But overall this picture book lacks the magic that great literature provides.

This title will serve as a tool for parents, one I'll keep in my toolkit for recommending read-alouds that support and inform parenting skills. 

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Jolly has temper tantrums and learns to ask for help instead. This book is a very cute way to get the point across to young children.

This is a decent story but the delivery was something I struggled with. It seems like a self-help book for parents but is also aimed at children who are actively struggling with temperament issues. I'm glad that Jilly's parents were non-reactive and continued to provide her a safe space for her emotions to be shared. I appreciate the way they tried to help her work through them and support her emotionally so she would know that they were always waiting to offer her comfort. That said, I'm just not sure that it's something I would read to my child as is. In my opinion it doesn't adequately explain that the behavior is not acceptable before transitioning into the Loving Regulation strategy. If a parent is comfortable having this modeled through the story, this would be a good book to add to your collection. On another note, the illustrations are positively adorable.

Very cute book perfect for the age group of children first learning the right behavior and for the children trying to correct a behavior. I found that the book related early well with a younger childs point of view and experiences. Playing games and remembering that you have to take turns can be a difficult task for many age groups.

I was mixed on this book. I was excited to read the book, given that Jilly is awfully similar to one of my own dear ones. :) I thought the drawings were lovely, as were Jilly's parents. I didn't care for the moralizing tone of the end of the book, though, and it left me confused as to who the target audience is. Parents seeking help with their strong-willed kids? It didn't really feel like a children's book to me, but the blurb doesn't make it sound like a psychology/parent-targeted book. Overall, I liked some aspects but this one was a little so-so for me.

I found this to be a delightful story with lovely illustrations, using kangaroos as the main characters, which I really liked - a great way to teach children some new animals! The story was all about Jilly and her tantrums, and how her parents resolve them, based on the 'Loving Regulation' approach to children's behaviour. I have mixed feelings about how this is portrayed in the book, as it half gives the message that Jilly can get away with anything; however, it's great to see her tantrums responded to with love and affection, resulting in Jilly asking in the end for affection and realising there is a way OTHER than tantrums. This might be a useful book for children where tantrums are a problem!