Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot

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Mo Isom is a Christian speaker and writer who charges full-steam ahead at a topic too many in the church, and Christian culture, shy away from. Her writing is bold and challenges the status quo -- the age-old evangelical tropes about purity -- and casts a new vision for how conversations regarding sex, intimacy, marriage, and purity should be in a generation with instant access to a myriad of unhealthy views on all of them. I appreciated Mo's accountability for herself, and I believe she is a trusted voice for many who are confused about how to approach this issue in their lives. I don't agree with every point she makes, but I see why Mo makes them and I wish more people in the church would be as bold about their questions as she is.
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Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot is a must read for young women and married women alike. It addresses sexual issues young women struggle with and the sexual struggles that follow you into marriage.

When I was a young woman, the pressure from the church was about virginity only. Sex was bad and self-control was demanded to stay a virgin until you were married. I was never told about why God wanted purity in my life.

Mo Isom dives into the whys of this important topic. Why God loves you and why you deserve to be worth more than the culture says. If the title of this book sparks your interest, but you almost feel ashamed of buying it, THIS BOOK IS FOR YOU.
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I read this book as a single, late twenty-something. Now, at 30, and still single, I still believe what I said then, "I honestly think this was one of the most important books I could have read this year."
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Mo Isom goes first in sharing her story of redemption. She answers the hard questions and is willing to speak up about a subject in the church that is always coupled with shame. This book is for anyone who believes in Jesus and wants to understand the WHY behind living a life that is pure.
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I def reviewed this book before but it seems to have been deleted. 

This book is def one to read, as a single person I was intrigued and felt I could learn for ’others’ but it also challenged me in many ways/ I will write more or blog soon. This book helps us go back to basics and recognise who we are and what Jesus Christ truly thinks of us. It is written in a lovely chatty language as if Mo is just having a conversation with you. Thanks - I would def recommend or pass on
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In our Fifty-Shades-of-Orange-is-the-New-Kardashian world, Mo Isom (New York Times bestselling author) writes with clarity, conviction, and brutal honesty about her struggles with a distorted picture of sex, and the damage it wrought on her body, mind, and soul. But sex is God's idea; and through powerful testimony of her encounter with an even more powerful truth in the person of Jesus Christ the Redeemer, Mo calls on the church to not simply declare the "do not's" of sex but to articulate a full, beautiful picture of the intimate and Christ-exalting image that sex is.
It's time to invite Jesus back into the bedroom.
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I appreciated the honesty with which Mo Isom shares pieces of her story. However, the stars below this review ask if I would recommend the book and I'm not sure who I would give it to. It's a good thing to read, but not really something I'd ever pass along.
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You have to appreciate and be thankful for people like Mo Isom who bares her soul and worst secrets in Sex, Jesus and the Conversation the Church Forgot. She clearly has a compassion for young people and a concern for Christians who have jumped on board the secular idea that sex before marriage is okay. It isn't, and Isom gets to the heart of the matter by bravely sharing her own sexual testimony and pointing out why.

The secular refrain that "It's our body, our life, and our choices" is, as Isom points out, what everyone, especially Christian young people, have been conditioned to believe and therefore it has affected their behaviour and beliefs in regards to sex. As Isom says, "We compartmentalize our faith from our actions to serve our own desires. We often disregard the rule list and act according to impulse." And this is one of the main problems with sexuality promiscuity in the church today. The church says to its young people, "Just be good. Don't have sex until you are married." But they do not emphasize the reason why! It isn't about keeping yourself pure for "the one" it is so much more than that and until our young people (and older unmarried Christians as well) realize that, they will continue to fall into sin.
Sex is God's invention. It's comprised of physical, mental, emotional, and above all spiritual acts of connection designed by the Creator for the unity, pleasure, and reproduction of the very lives He created. Sex is a holy gift purely designed by a God who delights in lavishing His creations with every good and perfect blessing. It is a pure act given to us as a gift to enjoy and delight in under the divine guidance of the appropriate context, circumstances, and boundaries.
The author says, "When we exalt virginity as the goal and disassociate how purity plays any role, it's way too easy to lose ourselves in that gray area in between. I had missed the three most beautiful layers of purity. I had missed (1) the purity in God's design and design of me, (2) the purity in His redemption of me through Jesus, and (3) the true purpose of His call to purity in my conduct as a vessel He desired to use. . . Because of God's perfect and unobstructed purity, impurity and immorality simply can't exist in His presence. He is too holy. Too faultless. Too righteous to coexist with darkness. So impurity in our lives separates us from a perfectly pure God."

The church needs to stop emphasizing that sex is wrong and instead emphasize the purity of God and that as Christians we are now part of that purity, "called to be the very vessels responsible for reflecting God's truth, His love, and His instruction and design to the world." 

I believe this is an important book for Christian parents to read with their teenagers and for Youth Leaders to use as a discussion guide on sexual morality and purity. I gave it four stars because the author tended to repeat herself and her point was made early on so that it seemed like the rest of the book was just filler. But I still believe in its message and that it should be a book in every Christian home.

Book provided courtesy of Baker Publishing and Graf-Martin Communications, Inc.
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WOW. I really appreciated the amount of truth in this book, mo’s blatant honesty on tricky topics, and the discussion of celebrating sex in marriage.  The theology behind purity is severely lacking in much of Christian culture and I really appreciated Mo’s explanation of why the Lord calls us to purity.  This was a great critique of the way the church handles conversations about sex, and one I think that many Christians need to hear. I received a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review from Net Galley.
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I love the rawness of Mo's writing and her second book, "Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot" is definitely no exception. As the mother of a teenage boy, I found this book really important for discussions with him and Biblical recounting for those discussions.
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This wasn’t a book that claimed to be Christian with a few passages placed throughout each chapter.  This was a book that delivered you faith-based principles that drove home the message of sexual purity intertwined among the authors personal encounters, struggles and ultimate victory with sexual purity. A must read for young adults or a mom and her child as they read and discuss not just why sex outside of marriage is wrong but the God-honoring concept of purity and how to stay pure. A resource I will most definitely be returning to in the future.
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Sex. (There. Got your attention, didn’t I?) Society is obsessed with it, and the church doesn’t talk about it, apart from an unequivocal “Don’t do it!” Christians don’t talk about it, but we should—because there are far too many people wandering lost in a world that glorifies sex, promiscuity, and sex-pectations.

Mo Isom talks about it as she tells her story of a life lived according to expectations, a life scarred by pornography, misunderstandings, and the silence of the church on a topic that permeates our culture. She takes something the world is obsessed with, removes the bondage associated with it, and turns it into something that glorifies God. 

I don’t generally review non-fiction books, especially the Christian books I read. (They’re on my Goodreads and my Books Read posts, though.) However, this book is one that needs to be talked about. I grew up in church—Southern Baptist—and my church never talked about sex. (My current church—non-denominational—does talk about it, some.) None of the churches my friends grew up in talked about sex. But our culture is obsessed with it. So, why is the church not talking about it? Why does the church let the world be the only source of information related to a topic that saturates our culture? And why are we surprised when Christians have a worldly view of sex, and not a Godly view?

I loved Mo Isom’s voice in this. (So much so that I’m now reading her first book.) She does talk about sex: her exposure to it growing up, the silence on it she experienced in the church, and her struggles to give it its rightly place—not a worldly one. Her voice is like a comfortable chat with a friend and makes this a must-read book.

(Galley provided by Baker Books in exchange for an honest review.)

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How do you begin a book review about a book on sex? I'm not really sure other than to dive right in. Which is exactly what Mo Isom does in her new book, Sex, Jesus and the Conversation the Church Forgot. 

Isom shares her story with sex in a vulnerable way. She shares the heartache. The questions and conversations that weren't answered or had. And the pain of expectations and addictions gone wrong. 

But Isom doesn't share these things just to share them. Isom shares her story so that she can point us back to the importance of bringing God back into the bedroom. Back into the story of sex. And the need to speak openly about the issues surrounding sex in our churches.

Growing up, sex was definitely not something spoken about in my church. And I grew up in the True Love Waits era. Complete with the rings and the message to stay pure. Despite this, sex was always hush-hush and we were always told to wait until marriage. Because of this, I could definitely relate to many of the things that Isom spoke about in Sex, Jesus and the Conversation the Church Forgot. 

I truly appreciated the way that Isom approached this topic. Her vulnerability allowed for the reader to feel like we understood each other. There was no condemnation or share in this story. Rather it was a story that pointed straight back to Jesus and how we need to involve him in all aspects of our lives - including and maybe most importantly - sex. 

Isom writes a message to bring freedom to those in bondage to sexual sin. To further the conversation in our homes and churches. And she wants to bring Jesus back into the bedroom.


I received a copy of this book from NetGalley and Baker Books. This review is my own, honest opinion.
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Mo Isom is one of the best and most honest authors I’ve ever read. She brags in her weaknesses to show Christ’s strength, and I am so thankful that she wrote this book! For every Pastor, Church Leader, Youth Volunteer, or Parent (and honestly every person because we all need to hear this)- do yourself a favor and get this book! I can not complement this book and Mo Isom enough. Bravo for an excellent book, an excellent topic, and for continuing to point others to Jesus!
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Holy moly. Wow. I teared up when reading this book. This book explains so much to me and it meant a lot. I feel like this book needs to be talked about more within the Christian community because it really hits some points on the nail. Honestly, if I was given this as a book or saw it in a store, I don’t think I would have read it because I’m very picky with my Christian books that I read but I’m glad I found this on netgalley because it really intrigued me. It had me highlighting every page because it was amazing. My favourite quote that I highlighted was ‘we all have a story. We all have testimonies. Even the most seasoned believers are still weathering life’s storms.’ And this quote is so true. Everybody goes through something in his or her life, it’s just not known to the outside world. 

4 out of 5 stars
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FORGOTTEN CONVERSATIONS!!

Finally someone has been obedient and bold enough to step forward and write a book on the conversations churches have long neglected to have with young people. Unfortunately, it seems so have most of their parents. The conversations are about SEX. Just saying the word out loud will raise the eyebrows of everyone around you! As the church we’ve forgotten to talk about the whys. Mo Aiken tackles this task in a soul bearing book that proves she’s paid her dues in the area of dealing with sexual temptations and pornography. More importantly she knows there’s a way out of the bondage that comes from being a slave to that temptation. She writes that we should strive for purity above all because it is a condition of the heart. Nothing is sugarcoated in this book! The good news is that she reveals the answer to your soul’s deepest longings, desires and needs. It’s not an easy path but it’s the only path to true freedom and redemption.

We’ve forgotten to start from the beginning and share why and what should frame and guide our sexual understanding. She writes, “We need to hear more than ‘do this, don’t do that.’ We need to know why it matters to listen and obey in the first place. Because most of our sexual sin struggles grow out of our lack of a deep-rooted understanding of what sex is, how God sees us, why God calls us to what He does, and why obedience to that calling is worth the sacrifice.”

Aiken points out that most people see the holy and hope-filled Word of God as a rule book rather than a love letter written to our hearts. As you peruse this book, Aiken will leave you with no doubt that the Bible is a layered and wisdom-soaked love letter gently explaining the deep-rooted whys that compel us to live differently from the start.

I was provided an ARC of this book by the Publisher and NetGalley. The opinions expressed here are entirely my own and without influence.
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