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A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns

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Excellent introduction to they/them pronouns, not just for allies but for those who are learning how to apply them to themselves.

I wish I'd had this book 30 years ago.

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This is a wonderful book - One I'd like to hand out to school administrative staff and other parents and strangers on the street in my town! As a parent of a gender neutral oldest child, it was easy to switch pronouns once I knew that was how they were most comfortable.

It's easy to change, once you know, and this guide is a wonderful tool to remind everyone that changing how we speak to each other in general just makes spaces more comfortable for everyone - more inclusive and welcoming. It's easier to make these small changes, especially if it means NOT adding another brick to someone's already burdened and heavy backpack (You know we all carry burdns, let's just be good people to each other!)

I definitely look forward to ordering a few copies of this!

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A fun, easy introduction to they/them pronouns with some pretty awesome graphics to boot.

I'm no novice when it comes to trans issues, but I'll admit that I know much less about people who identify as genderqueer.

I knew a person who identified as genderqueer when I was in college, but has since adapted she/her pronouns, so my first-hand knowledge of someone who is genderfluid or genderqueer is extremely limited. However, I'm always up to learn and grow as a person in this crazy world we live in, and understanding different people and different perspectives in a big part of that journey.

My favorite part of this little book was the really skilled artistry of the comics. They were fun with informative with witty dialogue, and it easily kept me reading and engaged. I learned a number of things as well, and any take-away from a book like this one is meaningful.

I like that this book furthers the dialogue between cis people and their trans/genderqueer acquaintances and friends, and I think it would be a good starter book for someone who wants to learn the basics of gender-neutral pronouns.

*Copy provided in exchange for an honest review*

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Thank you NetGalley & Oni Press for the early release copy.
This was a short, informative and easy read.
I wasn't familiar with Ze and Hir prior to this and it's always exciting to learn new EVERYTHING!!!!

From the description I envisioned a graphic novel with a storyline that introduces and educates through the characters experiences.
This book kinda does that though the delivery is a bit more dry than I expected.
Archie & Tristan do break down the pronouns and how to start inserting them into everyday life, I was just hoping for something a bit more fun to give to the tiny humans in my life.
I'm always on the lookout for fun and educational books to give them.
All the tiny humans in my life are currently under the age of five, so they need more excitement and colour in the books I read/give them.
If i'm being honest so do I...who doesn't love an eye catching colour palette bouncing along the pages with you?

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*I received an ARC in exchange for my honest opinion*

5 Stars. This was a great comic about explaining gender neutral pronouns to people who do not understand how they work. I am not gender neutral, but I still found it an interesting read, as I know people who are. It did a great job explaining about how a non-binary person feels and how you should act around them. It would be a great read for someone who doesn't understand. I would recommend this.

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I wasn't able to read this title due to it being only available on PDF, but I am so excited to pick it up at the store when it comes out!

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A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns is exactly what it says: an introduction to general-neutral pronouns in comic form. It’s immediately approachable, with the two authors talking the reader through this introduction to what may be a new way to use language for some readers. The non-binary Archie uses they/them pronouns, while the cis Tristan uses he/him. They purposefully designed a guide that could be shared or given away, and their two different perspectives combine to cover a greater gamut of audience. Tristan, in particular, as Archie’s friend, has experience learning and explaining the concepts to other people, including in the workplace.

The art is minimal, mostly head or medium shots of the two authors talking, which is suitable for the intended audiences, who are going to concentrate mostly on what they say. The comic format makes it more friendly, with two people sharing their backgrounds and feelings, instead of dry text (which can feel more like a lecture). Plus, jokes as the long-time pals tease each other.

Archie explains how they feel when they are misgendered and why it matters. Tristan plays sidekick, asking questions that allow Archie to elaborate. They also cover how to ask about someone’s pronouns, what to do when the wrong ones are used (depending on situation and context), and (what I found most helpful) substitutes to use for traditional gendered language. There’s also a substantial section on the difficulties of coming out to people for those identifying with alternative pronouns, how those new to the concept may need time and patience, and the need for everyone to meet in the middle while paying attention to advocacy and self-care.

I fear that this won’t be compelling to those who need the most help in learning how to operate in a more complex world than that in which they were raised, but to anyone curious or well-intentioned but unexposed, this is a useful summary. The matter-of-fact approach to talking about “how” instead of “why” or “whether we should” demonstrates their philosophy that this is necessary and will eventually become standard. Charts at the back sum up much of the information for quick reference.

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An important graphic novel about gender neutral pronouns and why they are important.

“Pronouns are great if you don't know something or are lazy.”
However, they are increasingly problematic in a gender fluid world. Using humor, this guide gives all the tenses for common pronouns like he, she, they and ze while gently coaxing readers to use each person's requested pronoun. The book explains that the question "what pronoun do you use?" is better than "which pronoun do you prefer?". The second implies that gender is a choice.

The Quick and Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns Vol 1 is a useful reference for the non-binary population and their friends, family and co-workers. 4 stars!

Thanks to Limerence (Oni) Press and NetGalley for an advanced copy.

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I LOVE THE ACCESSIBILITY OF THIS BOOK! Gender neutrality is the future, and we all need to get onboard--this book is a great first step in the right direction. The authors work together to explain They/Them pronouns in a way that is so easy to understand, and with some perfectly timed comedic relief. They also acknowledge that this is a not a simple change, it will take time, but it is so very important to the people that are being misgendered.

I really appreciated that they thought of possible scenarios that may happen, and gave examples of possible responses. Overall, I think they really accomplished the goal they were shooting for when creating this book. I can't wait to buy it and share it!

As a School Counselor, I sincerely appreciate the simplistic and accessible format of this book. I will be able to share it with students and co-workers alike.

Thank you to NetGalley, Limerence Press, & Oni Press, Inc. for the ARC to review!

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This is a super quick, approachable comic that not only breaks down why we should use and be comfortable with gender-neutral language, but also provides charts and examples to make changing our language usage easier. I think this is a super useful tool and I love the art style and flow!

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This comic explains the basic use of gender neutral pronouns they/them, ze/hir . Its really useful if you meet people that use this pronouns and why they use it. I think it all boils down to respecting a people, i like how it explains that sometimes you will mess up when trying to use the pronouns but thats okay. The book also gives an insight on how non-binary people feel when you misgender them.
The art is perfect for this sort of explanatory-type comic focuses more on the message that's being passed. It covers the basics you need to know and if you are interested in knowing more you can always google. I think its essential to have this books at work and school so that people know how to start using third person pronouns and get comfortable with it.

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Relevant, helpful, important and funny, this is exactly what it says on the tin: a quick and easy guide to pronouns. It covers everything from how to find out what pronouns to use when you meet new people (hint: ask) and how to correct yourself if you accidentally misgender someone and everything in between with a sprinkle of sass and sarcasm, and it's just delightful to see how a subject that is this serious can be handled with humour without making fun of it.

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Bongiovanni & Jimerson’s A Quick and Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns is just that. It is a guide to help people understand how to use gender neutral pronouns when referring to non-binary oriented people. Told through comics style panels, the pair focus on they/them, but make a note that there are many sets of gender neutral pronouns.

I felt the material in this pamphlet style guide was imminently useful. This is important as both culture and language grow and change. Peoples’ preferences and identity choices should be respected. It's not that these concepts are far-fetched. Indeed, plenty of cultures through time, and across the world, have had concepts of all manner of gender orientation, which where part and parcel of what that culture was. The pendulum is merely swinging back.

So, why a three-star rating? Several parts felt extremely judgemental to me. If you are trying to educate recalcitrant people, implying they are jerks for not wanting to learn, or not understanding why they should learn, is detrimental to the intended goal. As an open-minded person who will happily use whatever you want me to call you, I was offended. People who are close-minded are going to be moreso, and it will close them down even more, making them less receptive to the message. I get the frustration. I know what it's like to be 'different’ and to feel you have to justify yourself, but being insulting isn't going to make people listen more. With a few tweaks, this would be an excellent quick teaching tool.

***Many thanks to Netgalley and Oni Press for providing an egalley in exchange for a fair and honest review.

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The art is super adorable and the writing is simple, funny and super easy to follow! I was already familiar with gender neutral pronouns before going in and found this guide to be perfect for people who want a foundation to build their understanding of non-binary people and their experiences!

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A wonderful and important book about using gender-neutral pronouns. The characters are likeable and explain things in an easily-digestible way.

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Quick, cute, funny, and heart-felt, totally would recommend! I breezed right through it and though nothing is new to me, I still felt like reading it was time well soent.

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Several of my students use they/them pronouns, so when I saw this book come out, I wanted to see if a) there was anything I needed to know that I didn't and b) if there's any way to easily explain this concept to my other students if they ask. The answer to both things was yes! It is really disrespectful to misgender a person intentionally, but this book will also help you learn ways to avoid doing it unintentionally as well. The easy comic format makes it a quick read and it should definitely start some conversations. Civility is so easy and is such a simple way to make the LGBTQIAP community feel more accepted in our society.

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Upfront and honest about its subject matter, funny and charming from start to finish, clear as crystal with its guidance, and above all, enormously helpful. This is a fantastic resource that I want in my library as soon as possible.

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Well that was enlightening - I never knew what any of the words meant - I had seen a video online where individuals label people as what they think they are - and I had no idea what anything meant, this was quite informative - though they now need a book about ALL individuals, because there were some words used in that video I still have no idea what they mean - a guide like this for all genders would be superb. The graphics were cute and the "voices" in it were also well done and thought out. A great GN for those wanting to learn a bit about gender neutrality!

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From the full article "A Quick and Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns is exactly what it says on the cover, helping to raise awareness and increase understanding. A good buy for anyone wanting to be more inclusive of non-binary identifying people."

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