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A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns

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This book is so informative. Such a quick read and it's just so awesome that there's a book this informative and educational and that's so reachable. I can't wait to hopefully be able to acquire it in the future.

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I got an ARC copy of this book.

Gender is my thing. Sexuality is my thing too. They both hold a very dear place in my heart. As soon as I saw the name of this book I pounced. There was no way I was passing up on this book. The cover was cutesy and it was something I might want to take lessons from for the class I teach. 

The book talks about pronouns. There is some technical talk, which one of the characters is really bored through. Then they start to break it down into real people talk. There is discussion on how to use a pronoun, when to use pronouns, and why it matters. This book covers a ton and I learned a lot about language from it. If you already use gender neutral pronouns for someone you love or even yourself, then this book is just reaffirming things you understand. If you don't, it is a great introduction. 

There was purposeful misgendering of Archie to prove a point. That point is how damaging misgendering can be for someone. There is even talk about how it is ok to feel angry, cut people out of your life, and that sometimes people love you but will never get it. It was a wonderful section and that section is so important for queer people to read. Family is not blood for a lot of queer people. Family are the people who love you and the people on your side. This book validates that experience and allows someone to see just how hard pronouns can be on someone when you get them wrong. It was just so well done. 

The book is not just a book for beginners. If you already know your stuff, this book is still interesting. The art is cutesy and I adored it. Then there were some really funny sections like Tristan giving a new meaning to YOLO and his hat that made his life easier because it was a hat of ignorance. LOVELY. I was snorting. This book could have been super dry and dusty, something no one but supreme nerds (like me) would have read. Instead it was really approachable and helpful.

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I have been trying to explore books that talk about gender-neutrality and gender-fluidity in a very elementary, rudimentary manner- so this one comes as a great recommendation for that.
As a cisgender, I have wondered myself how awkward and uncomfortable conversations about one's gender identity could be, and how tricky it is to use words, and to try and use them in the right manner- I have imagined the best of intentions go to waste because of the uncertainty of 'what should I say that it doesn't offend them' or 'how should I say this without sounding mean'. If anything, I have to thank this book to address this issue. Not just by giving healthy ways of going about these apprehensive conversations, but also addressing how these can get awkward- but change is awkward and uncomfortable and if we are to be advocates for inclusion, we have to be companions in this discomfort.

"This book exists to educate and inform people on gender neutral pronouns--specifically they/them*--so that you don’t have to do all the heavy lifting yourself. We want to keep this book short and affordable, so you can give it to friends, family, co-workers, or random people on the street.Also, if education fails and folks are being jerks, you can just throw this book in their face."

I like the fact that even when the book uses humour, it doesn't try to be sarcastic- it is rather the plain, good ol' humour and I believe that is how such issues need to be discussed.

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Gender identity and gender neutral pronouns are becoming increasing important in today's world. (Not that they weren't important before!) Everyone can benefit from reading this very important book. This timely comic guide is beautifully handled with humor and extreme clarity. I especially appreciated the careful handling of the subject and the attention to the fact that 'switching' pronoun use in our vocabulary can be challenging and require a real attempt to put gender neutral pronouns into everyday practice. Why is this so important? All individuals are entitled to feel comfortable with who they are. Confusion and acceptance of gender identity can be eased with many of the suggestions and examples in this guide.

For anyone approaching this with the attitude of 'just another attempt at forcing political correctness' -- consider this: EVERYONE benefits from the use of gender neutral pronouns-- even cisgender individuals. While reading, it brought back memories from my teen years of being misidentified on the phone or from appearance (because I had longer hair) and how bad and embarrassed it made me feel even though it was not intentional

This book needs to be available EVERYWHERE... but especially in schools, libraries and in the workplace. Educators and HR personnel can greatly influence change and acceptance. This book should be an important tool for change.

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This was a good short explanation on the use of gender neutral pronouns which is definitely an important topic that needs more attention and is rarely addressed in literature or in society for that matter. It presents itself as a short and easy guide that works pretty well at educating those unfamiliar with gender neutral pronouns. However, in order to be really effective I do think it needed to be longer as this only scratched the surface. The art worked well for subject matter. There were a few times however that the book felt patronizing given that its target audience seems to be adults.

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This book is useful for anyone who wants to learn more about gender neutral pronouns, and why it's important to respect everyone's pronouns, Cute format and also approachable!

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5/5 Stars
Oh my gosh this book was awesome and so informative!
This book educates its readers on transgender pronouns in a friendly and comedic way, which you don't often see these days.
I personally like to stay informed when it comes to social issues, especially considering I don't have a lot of real life experience with transgender, agender, or genderfluid people at all.
I really liked this because it offers two different perspectives. The perspective of the cis gender man, and the agender person, who prefers they/them pronouns.
I honestly have no critiques! The perfect amount of information, just enough to educate and inform, but not too much as to bore most (which unfortunately happens).

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This book does exactly what it says on the tin. It's short, easy to read and is a good basic guide to they/them pronouns. It's mainly aimed at people new to the concept of they/them pronouns but could also be validating and encouraging for someone who uses they/them pronouns- and useful for them to lend to friends and family! It covers how to use they/them pronouns, how to avoid misgendering people, what to do when you make a mistake and how to change your language to be more inclusive. I felt like it could have been a bit longer, but then it wouldn't be so quick and easy and might put others off.

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This is a wonderfully illustrated and humorous guide to they/them pronouns, covering important topics such as making small adaptations to common phrases to make them more inclusive and appropriately correcting yourself after misgendering someone, as well as giving a general introduction to the pronouns. The illustrations are lovely and both authors communicate everything from tips to personal experience clearly and coherently. The guide gives the topic the due weight and respect while being accessible and entertaining. An excellent, informative resource that has clearly been made with care and the best of intentions.

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This is a great, to-the-point illustration for working with and getting people around you used to alternate pronouns for non-binary humans. I think it would be a valuable piece to have in a YA or Adult Graphic Novel collection.

It is funny and sweet and I really want to buy a bunch of copies to hand out to people who misgender my friends.

The artwork is adorbable and I would buy it as a gift for parents and family members.

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A perfect format for an intro to a topic like this.

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This was a comical and lighthearted look at a serious and current topic. The information is delivered in a relaxed and conversational stye like having a chat with a friend. There is also a good engagement with the topic so there is good exploration of nuances and also crucially showing real life situations so you can see how the pronouns actually work and how to react and act in reality.

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"A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns" is one of those reads that may be complementary for anybody who wants to learn more about how to be a part of today's society. In this book authors try to explain the gender neutral pronouns to the simple-minded folks (like myself) who aim to educate themselves in this field. With very cool illustration and easy to understand language it presents tips and trick for newbies and people who want to improve their knowledge.

The simplicity of the artwork has been very useful and in my opinion correlates with the books overall theme. The pictures have a nice line and they don't mask the message. This was created to inform so any shenanigans in the illustration would ruin this book.

I also really enjoyed the charts provided in the end of the book. This, in my opinion, made it very useful in the work environment were you need to quickly present the information.

This book may as well serve as a handbook that will teach people how to effectively use They/Them pronouns without a judgement and doubt. I very much appreciated that.

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Wonderful and short explanation on how to use pronouns and be respectful. Length is perfect.

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The authors try to educate people not to assume others' gender. But then they go on making assumptions regarding the reader's intelligence by stating over and over again how learning the neutral pronouns is a very difficult task that will take years and years of practice. Now how does that work? I think it's common sense and can be very easily understood intuitively. When people don't use neutral pronouns that is most likely because they don't want to or don't feel like it, not that they don't know how.
Perhaps, in order to convince more people to call them whatever pronouns they like, the authors should consider how other people feel and stop bossing them around because there are people not liking to be told what they should do. (The book is full of 'You should do this or that' even "to be a decent human you should..." and "You might get fired if you don't..." and I really don't think this is the way to go.)
Also, on a side note, you can't teach others what you don't know yourself. Here's an example from the book:
page 12
Ethel went to the store. - no pronouns
She went there. - both Ethel and the store have been replaced with pronouns.
(!! Well that is an error since there is NOT A PRONOUN)

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Brief, concise and relevant. This book is so important, especially for those who are just finding out about gender-neutral pronouns. The authors tried to keep it simple and quick to read, and they succeeded. I loved the dynamics between the two narrators. It is funny and light-hearted but doesn't neglect the weight nor the significance of the topic at any time. Everyone should read this.

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This graphic novel provides and outstandingly clear and effective method of explaining the concept of gender neutrality and really just respecting the diversity of others. It targets an audience that may struggle with accepting gender neutrality without being overly defensive and confrontational. It draws comparisons for readers to help them understand the complexity and wrap their heads around its complications. I would recommend this title to anyone who I find struggling to understand and would hope that sharing it through various avenues of readers advisory that it might help at least a few people in our wonderfully complicated world.

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I have to admit that as much as I support the LGBT+ community, when it comes to questions about gender, I'm poorly educated. Hence why I'm so glad to have come accross this well-named "quick and easy guide".

For starters, you probably guessed: I'm not non binary. I have to rely on guides like this one to understand something I'm not going through and make up for the experience I'll never have. So I'm very grateful this guide is out there. It's not easy to understand what it means to be non binary when you're not and with all the discrimination non binary people face every day, they don't often have the time, the strength or just the will to explain. So thanks for writing and publishing this guide to educate non non binary people and to spare non binary people the need to do it themselves. Of course, this guide is also meant to be read by non binary people, but since I'm not, I won't speak for them.

This guide is crystal clear and I really appreciate it. It covers the pronouns, the basics mostly, what not to say, why you shouldn't say it and how to phrase it better, this kind of stuff. Writing this as a graphic novel makes it easier to read than a non fiction book (at least to me), it makes it more accessible and I think teens will like it more this way. I learnt a lot in these few pages, which I'm very grateful for, since it taught me almost everything I wanted to know but never dared to ask a non binary person, and never would have because most people who face discrimination on a daily basis would rather be left alone than have to explain who they are again and again.

I'd also like to point out that this guide is meant to be sold for cheap, which will make it affordable for teens and accessible to a wider range of people. I hope this book gets bought in every school library too because it's an important subject and sadly, I don't think it's covered in school. Another good thing coming out of this is that it made me Google if there was a gender neutral pronoun in my own language (French) to write my review properly and to my surprise, there is. So I'll make sure to use it from now on.

I just wish there was an explanation about what it means to be non binary. I get that we're not OWED an explanation, I really do. Our job is to accept and respect, period. But this is hard to understand when you're not non binary, so a quick basic explanation would be appreciated. This is a guide, so I wish it went all the way.

I still definitely recommend this book and I hope it's read by the most people possible.

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