Burnout

Pub Date:   |   Archive Date: 27 May 2019

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Really interesting and relevant book. I felt very engaged and pretty sure I'm the target audience. I'd recommend this to many of my friends, who feel the similar pressure to do everything at once.
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I've been needing a feminist personal development book in my life and here it is. I'm thankful for the Nagoski sisters for infusing their strong research with their brand of comedy. Though some suggestions may be a bit too simple for self-help lovers, this is a great book to recommend to others craving real-world personal development. I bought 10 copies to give to friends!
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This was one of the best self-help books I've read in a long time. It's really accessible, straight forward, and gives all the necessary science and coping skills to ward off burnout and stress. Too often, self-help books don't adequately address the gendered aspects of stress and how it wears on you. I've already recommended and given this book to multiple women in my life.
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If millennials needed a pep talk, I suppose this would be it. It was sort of cutesy , and while it was important topic the voice doesn't seem to lend the appropriate weight of significance. It was okay, but weeks after reading I couldn't recall a single suggestion.
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All-too relatable book on a topic that needs more discussion.  I know that when you're feeling burned out, reading another book might seem like too much work but this one is well worth the effort! Nagoski handles the thoughts and emotions that come up during burnout with great care.  Her writing is easy to understand and her tips are easy to implement. 

Make time to read this book, no matter how tired you are. This is the gift that will pay off in your emotional wellbeing in spades.
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Excellent explanation of the science behind why we feel burned out, with extremely practical tips for how to cope with it!
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This is a book I didn't know I needed, but I NEEDED! This book is so helpful, especially for someone like myself who works in mental health. This book felt healing, validating, and I felt like the author understood what I experience and was speaking right to me. This was a fantastic book and I recommend it to anyone who feels burnt out in their daily life!
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Burnout gave an insightful look into the reasons why we do things, or rather why we don't do them. It was a pretty standard book.
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This was a much needed and timely book for me.  I've recommended it to other friends who struggle to have it all and do it all.  There is so much more that goes into why we do what we do, and more than that, why we feel the "need" to do what we do.  It was an enlightening read and one I've highly recommended.
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I needed this book so badly. I ended up quitting my job before I started reading this book but it perfectly depicted the many reasons that I ended up making a leap and leaving a bad fit before I had anything else lined up. And this is the life of women - being told that we have to be thin, polished, nurturing humans who make less than men just because we are "other." And we're also told that we're nuts and that that isn't really happening. If I had read this book four months ago, I think it would have opened my eyes that much sooner and I'd have lost out on those months of stress (oh darn...)
This very readable and relatable book looks at the various things in our loves that can and do cause burnout and offers some suggestions on how to close the cycle.
Mu favorite takeaway was: Wellness is not a state of being but a state of action.

Four stars
This book came out March 26
ARC kindly provided by publisher and NetGalley
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I thought this would be the book for me, but most of the information and what not was nothing new. Women are stressed out. Teachers and moms are very stressed out. That's great. It didn't focus on the underlying issues so many women face.
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Unlocking the stress cycle is what every female needs to read and hear right now. Never a time more poignant than now.
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3.5 stars

I thought this sounded like a book that could be useful and relatable, and it was. There are a number of practical tips, and I'm sure I'll look through this book again. Some parts weren't particularly relevant to me, but they may resonant with others. There are a number of useful exercises. Things are written in an easy-to-understand manner.
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It's rare to find a book that offers a unique perspective on the typical self-help topics - why am I so drained, how can I improve my life, why do I feel the way I feel.
It's even more rare when the book is engaging and incredibly well-written. But that's what Burnout is.
I'm a scientist by education, but I hadn't heard of the biological stress cycle or understand its powerful role in our lives. An avid reader of personal development and feminist nonfiction books, I enjoyed the fresh perspective on the Bikini Industrial Complex and Emily and Amelia's sharp insights on...well, everything.
I typically stop reading personal development books halfway, finding them rote and repetitive. I read every word of Burnout, and went back to review my highlighted sections. It's one of the smartest books to be published in this space, and I highly recommend it.
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I tried to get into this book, but I found it a bit too much.  I couldn't find any clear and effective solutions.  Since I have experienced a great deal of burnout in my career as a teacher, I was hoping for some easily accessible help.  This book simply didn't offer what I needed.  I don't think that makes it bad; just not for me.

DNF'd around 20%.
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Burnout by Emily (PhD) & Amelia (DMA) Nagoski is a free NetGalley ebook that I read in late March.

From page 1, this book is immediately directed toward women, which I initially sorta balked at and felt like I was being given a good-intention, high-volume, New Age talking-to. Written by identical twin sisters (who offer frequent pop culture references, real-talk asides, and emphatically describe things to a reader, as if highlighting concepts with wiggly jazz hands), they define burnout as a mix of prolonged emotional labor, caregiver fatigue, and feeling as though your efforts are not noticed or rewarded. They advise their readers to confront and respond to stressors in a full circle, complete-the-process sorta way, finding what works for you and self-care that works, addressing debilitating self-talk, charting the plus and minuses of a decision that needs to be made, being comfortable with who you are and how you look, shrugging off expectation and nearly unreal societal standards, and seeking & maintaining meaningful connections with others - all with a heavy hand in narrative therapy tactics.
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I want to buy a copy of this book for every single woman in my life. Burnout studies the causes and impacts of the stress cycle on modern women (in a science backed but easy to digest way) and then present REAL and WORKABLE solutions to the everyday stressful situations that women face. I could not recommend this book more!
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"Burnout" got my attention with the title. As a working mom who is always feeling a bit overwhelmed, I knew many other women share the same struggles in taking good care of ourselves and trying not to do too much. Stress becomes an albatross that few can remove from their necks, and I figured reading a book like this might provide some insight on how to better balance this crazy life. 

What I found were two women who have experienced both the negatives and positives of stress. It is not really how much stress we take on, but how we deal with the stressors. I could list many examples of times when I knew I was doing too much, but still kept pushing myself. Often I found I ended up sick or feeling sad. There are many reasons why women can't stop saying "yes" to all those things vying for our attention, and Emily and Amelia take turns addressing why, specifically calling the big issue "Human Giver Syndrome." We give, and we give and we give...but never take anything for ourselves or think of self-care. So we end up facing burnout. 

This is a mainstream publishing book, so be prepared for some coarse language, but honestly, I just kept pressing on through that to get to the good stuff. And believe me when I say there is a LOT of useful, helpful information here. I would recommend this book to any woman who finds herself continually putting herself last, even to her detriment. I learned a lot about the physical and physiological reasons why long term stress can be deadly, and I think this should be read by those who think that you can keep running at this pace with no ill side effects. These authors are new to me, but I believe I will look their other books up. This is one to read through slowly so you can benefit from the information given and put those new skills to work. 

I appreciated the opportunity to review early from #NetGalley and Penguin Random House. All opinions are my own and I was not required to leave a review.
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Thank you to NetGalley, Ballantine Books, and Emily and Amelia Nagoski for an ARC ebook copy to review. As always, an honest review from me.

My rating is 3.5 stars, but since there aren't half stars I always round up when rating. 

Like: 
- Very educational, especially the science behind burnout and stress
- There’s a book talking about burnout - need more of these!!!
- Examples of how family and friends can step up and help reduce the stress on the caregivers - even though I don’t anticipate my family doing those things to help me

Love:
- The explanation about the emotional expectations for caregivers - so spot on !
- Goes into how stress can affect the body physically 

Dislike: — 


Wish that:
- It was more what I was hoping for. I was hoping for more practical applications, not just telling me the science of it. 
- More examples of people dealing with burnout that related to me — didn’t see myself represented much in the book despite myself being a caregiver experiencing stress and burnout


Overall, there’s lots of good, science based information about stress and burnout. However, I wish that I related to the book more as I thought it was really going to help me.
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If you are the type of person who enjoys sitting around with your best friends, having a coffee or cup of tea, and getting into a deep and emotional conversation, this book will be a perfect fit for you.  The further I got into this book, the more it felt like I was right there with the authors and their best friends.  It’s an incredibly accessible look at how women, and men but the book focuses on women, get caught up in a cycle of trying to meet everyone’s needs, be everything to everyone, and then got lost to the burnout that follows.  
Twin sisters Emily and Amelia Nagoski combine real life stories from their own friends and statistics to provide a path to completing the stress cycle that affects so many women.  At the end of each chapter, there is a “tl;dr” list-that wonderful abbreviation for “too long, didn’t read”.  In this section, the authors provide a short list of key facts and questions to help summarize the chapter-as someone who doesn’t read as much nonfiction as she should, I found this very helpful.  
I found this book to be very helpful and insightful.  There are so many layers to our stress-and how we deal with it-that we don’t necessarily think about or know what to do with.  The authors provide practical tips on how to cope with stress, how to set limits for yourself, and how in creating boundaries and limits with others we can improve our relationships with those that stress us out.  As a person who deals with chronic pain, when the authors discuss the connection between chronic illness and chronic stress, it was like, Yes!  You get it! Thank you! 
Guess what else contributes to burnout in women-the patriarchy.  Not surprised?  I wasn’t either.  I found myself nodding along as the authors discussed how the constant stress of worrying about sexual violence, body image, gaslighting and work success is ingrained in women from the day of their birth.  I initially thought that this section was just preaching to the choir-but I do think there are a lot of women out there who may not realize how deeply established these ideas were in their own upbringing and that it is ok to draw boundaries, especially to preserve your own health and happiness.  
Now, this book will not eliminate all the stress in your life.  Life is stressful.  What this book will do is help with completing that stress cycle and to find that balance that we all seem to be seeking.   
Thank you to Netgalley for the opportunity to read and review this book.  All opinions are my own.
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