Disciple Her

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Disciple Her: Using the Word, Work, & Wonder of God to Invest in Women by Kandi Gallaty

4 stars

“Discipleship is intentionally equipping believers with Word of God through accountable relationships empowered by the Holy Spirit in order to replicate faithful followers of Christ.”

Disciple Her is a novel different from most Christian disciple books because it specifically looks at how to disciple women. Women and men are very different, which means discipling is different. Some advice and tricks that work for men are not always successful with women and some that work for women don’t always work for men. The Gallaty’s are known for Replicate Ministries and their Disciple program which they call “D-Groups”. Gallaty’s husband has written countless books on discipleship, but Disciple Her is one of the first discipleship novels published specifically for women. Kandi Gallaty is doing something great here with being openly bold about sharing her own discipling techniques with the women in her life and what works and what doesn’t. I love discipling women! I have been blessed with the honor of discipling three women and seeing numerous other women come into a Life Group I co-lead this past year and give their life to Christ and be challenge to expand their view of what they thought their relationship was versus how they could strive to know and walk in deeper relationship with Jesus. I also had the privilege and honor of following Jesus’s final commands to His disciples in Matthew 28:19-20, “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” Discipling is doing this exact command (I also baptized two of the girls I disciple- PRAISE THE LORD) and these experiences changed me completely. My girls that I discipled were all so different from each other in how they saw, spoke to, and understood Jesus and this was the greatest challenge for me. None of my tricks or preparations worked because I had to learn through the guidance of the Spirit how one thing works in prayer for two girls, but not for another (just one example). Because of my own discipleship experience I was open and curious to hearing and seeing what Gallaty had to say.


Gallaty is a relatively strong writer. There are a couple of hiccups and a few questionable passages, but they aren’t consistently prevalent and I, overall, enjoyed the experience of reading this novel. I was challenged in a lot of the areas I failed in my first year of discipleship (which was creating women who were ready and prepared to disciple others- they are ready, but still hesitant of their own knowledge) and this convicting moment while reading was so enlightening and challenged/inspired me to pray specifically for women who will become disciple-makers after our time together, which I had never thought to pray for before. Her discipleship process is very similar to the one that I learned through the college ministry I serve and I saw that she references some books that we read or have been recommended, so it’s cool to see that the discipleship process crosses over in so many different ways outside of a college campus.


Personal qualms: Gallaty is obsessed with memorizing Scripture, which is great but I think the more you memorize Scripture the less it imprints on your soul. What I mean by this is that intake of large quantities of memorizing Scripture becomes more of a game or challenge instead of a meditating experience on what work God or the Holy Spirit is doing in your life or current season. Memorizing is important, but I don’t know if I think it should be done weekly. Personally, I think it has merits, but it also gets lost in the shuffle. I personally care more about the Word being spoken to me in context of someone’s life instead of a verse being recited for the sole purpose of checking a box and patting yourself on the back. She also doesn’t consistently do one-on-ones which I think is important to the discipleship process. Anyone who wants a one-on-one and is consistent in showing up the small group, Life Group, or D-Group should get this opportunity and it shouldn’t be a “only if our schedules sync up or if you are living in sin and we need to discuss it” thing. Combatting living in sin consistently can be done through consistent one-on-ones and being accountable in a personal individual setting. I am also not okay with people being given the ultimatum of confess your sin to the group or be kicked out. Being kicked out of a discipleship group should not be an option. I’m going to use Judas Iscariot as an example. Do you think that Jesus wasn’t aware of Judas stealing money from his ministry and planning to kill him? No, he makes it abundantly clear that he knows as they are breaking bread before his arrest when he says that one who sits and eats alongside him will betray him. JESUS DID NOT KICK JUDAS ISCARIOT OUT DESPITE KNOWING HE WAS A SINNER. He let Judas make the ultimate decision to follow through on this betrayal and sell Jesus out for money and basically leave the disciples by his own choice. Leaving a group has to be by someone else’s choice and not because their sin is weighing down a group and making things complicated. That’s when you need to get with your girl and pray and pray hard for chains to be broken. If after that she chooses to leave, then let her go. Jesus will guide and heal her in His way and not yours.


Besides those few problems, Gallaty’s discipleship method is sound. I received a lot of new ideas and promptings from the Spirit, so I’m excited about a new year of discipling. God is so good and amazing and it’s awesome to see His hand upon a woman’s life whose purpose is to faithfully disciple women. It’s inspiring. I pray that it’s something I can consistently do throughout my life. I recommend this novel to anyone who feels a tugging on their heart about discipleship or who wants to learn more about it.


Whimsical Writing Scale: 4

Plotastic Scale: 4


Cover Thoughts: I love this cover. It’s simple, but the pattern is so pretty.

Thank you, B & H Books, for providing me with a physical copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
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People talk a lot about discipleship, but more often than not, that's all they're doing. They talk about it, but don't really tell you how to do it. That's why I love Kandi Gallaty's new book Disciple Her. It is a practical manual for discipleship.

Geared toward women, all the principles can be applied just the same to men. Kandi's husband, Robby Gallaty, has probably written that book, but I haven't read it and this was my first introduction to the discipleship concepts that both Kandi and Robby advocate. Because it’s geared toward women, all of the examples used come from Kandi’s personal time in discipleship groups and so the examples all involve ladies. This is not a bad thing, but worth pointing out if you’re a man reading this review.

This book truly goes into the details of discipleship and starting a group of your own. It’s extremely practical. Kandi gives examples of hard situations from her groups, she gives you the meat of how to start a group, and she gives you sample schedules, covenants, etc. for structuring your group. This book should give you the confidence to be ready to start a group of your own. Kandi leaves no stone unturned.

After reading this book, I walked away excited about discipleship and ready to dive in myself. Kandi truly wrote in a way where I felt like this was very doable and exciting. I passed this book along to my wife to encourage her to start a group as well.

If you’ve heard the discipleship buzz word, but were never sure what it looks like in real life then this book is for you. Kandi and Robby have come up with an easy, reproducible model that will help you follow Jesus’s command to make disciples and equip others to go and do likewise.
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Disciple Her: Using the Word, Work, & Wonder of God to Invest in Women by Kandi Gallaty was a great read. I love her points about the word being our foundation in these discipleship groups. Kandi gave so many helpful tips and advice on how to run a d group or be a part of one. I felt like I was talking to a friend over coffee learning about her life and her convictions on truth. As you get deeper into the book you may find you want to be a part of/ or start a group yourself as the community talked about is something you may have been longing for but have not been able to put to words. Thank you Kandi for you devotion to empower women in there relationships with God and with each other. 
 I received a complimentary copy of this book through NetGalley. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own.
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Disciple Her is a guide to discipleship. It's very in-depth and besides just telling you how to disciple it gives you background on what discipleship is and should be. It's split into two parts.

I usually tackle books on a daily basis. However, I really suggest taking your time with this one. It is a lot of information so it can be hard to read. It's good information though, so it's worth the read. My suggestions is to take on one chapter a day. It's frequent enough to retain the information and far enough as to not overwhelm yourself. I also suggest the use of a highlighter and possibly a notebook. This is learning material and should be treated as such.

I know my last paragraph may make this sound like a difficult read, but it really isn't. The information is very easy to understand, there's just a lot of it. I can't stress enough that it is good information. I have a notebook of important points to prove it.

Read this book! But don't overwhelm yourself with it. Take your time and enjoy the learning.
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Kandi Gallaty's book, Disciple Her, offers women a practical but simple process for making disicples who make disciples.  Loaded with biblical truth and sprinkled with transparency and personal examples, Kandi walks women through a process of discipleship.  She helps women discover that discipleship is a lifestyle that requires intentionality and accountability.  Kandi has practiced the very process she teaches, so it's tried and true--and it's do-able.  She shows women how to equip other women to replicate the process.

If you've wanted to be involved in discipling women but you were afraid or you just weren't sure where to start, this simple, practical, and encouraging book will get you off to a great start and keep you going as you make disciples who make disciples.  Kandi offers a step-by-step, tried and true, biblical process for making disciples and replcating the process.  I wish I'd had this book a long time ago, but I am glad I have it now!

Note:  I received a copy of this book from the publisher on NetGalley in exchange for this honest review.  The opinons expressed are my own.
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It's always wonderful to see highly practical, theologically sound books written by women, and Kandi Gallaty has produced just such a resource. Heavy with story and experience, this guide on how to better equip believers to simultaneously be disciples and make disciples is rooted in fostering a passion and love for the Word of God, and emphasizes the beauty of growing in community. Perhaps the strongest feature of Gallaty's work is the level of detail she offers for those who are keen to pick up this process; with examples of structure, formats, goals, and more. 'Disciple Her' contains the tools needed to encourage our women to deeply study the Bible and grow into spiritually mature, theologically equipped disciples.
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I received this book as an ARC from B&H Books in exchange for an honest review. Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own.

When I first read Disciple her I was actually a little afraid of the message it was trying to send. Religion in most eyes is a very sensitive subject and the word Disciple powerfully reflects the Christian faith.  However, I was very surprised at the approach Kandi Gallaty took in describing the word disciple and how we express and execute that word in our everyday life without knowing it. The layout is very appealing to readers with the gorgeous font and the breakdown of chapters throughout the book. I think this book will be the book that surprises readers in the best way possible.

We will consider adding this book to our Christian Non-Fiction collection at our library. That is why we give this book 4 stars.
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