This was good and informative and it read like a professionally written paper which I had thankfully anticipated so I really liked that (if I hadn't anticipated it, though, I might not have liked reading it too much). I was able to prepare myself for how this would be structured so that really helped my reading experience.

Thanks to Jessica Kingsley Publishers and Netgalley for the ARC of this book.

I was drawn to this book because of the relative lack of books about nonbinary identities written by actual nonbinary people. As a cis person, I want to understand more about trans an nonbinary identities, and I personally think that the best way to do this is to read books and narratives by people from those groups. The own voices aspect of this book is what initially drew me to it.

I was impressed with the thoroughness of this book. Right from the beginning, it was apparent that this was going to be a book with a lot of information. The downside to this is that I found it incredibly dense, and even with the glossary at the beginning, I felt that we were somewhat thrown in at the deep end. There were also some points that confused me; the use of they/them/their pronouns, for example, is described as being one of the identifying features of a nonbinary identity, but I have several nonbinary friends who dislike they/them/their and prefer to use she/her or he/his, or a selection of non-standard pronouns (e.g. ey/em/eir). I would have liked a bit more information on pronouns and how an individual might find the best pronouns that fit. I also wondered if the very dense, academic nature of the book might put some people off. I'm a PhD student and so I'm used to wading through very verbose books, but I did wonder if it might be a little inaccessible for the average reader.

That's a relatively minor quibble in a book that I found overall to be very helpful and informative. The discussions about nonbinary v trans and how the two ideas intersect but are not interchangeable was really eye-opening, and I feel like I have a better handle on some of my nonbinary friends' identities now. There was a part of the book that described a nonbinary person being reluctant to go out anywhere that didn't have a unisex toilet, for example, and I'm privileged enough that I've never had to even consider that as a factor in choosing a venue. It's opened my eyes to the things that I take for granted and I hope it will make me a more empathetic person in future. I'm genuinely very glad that this book exists, and I'll be recommending it left, right and centre to anyone who is confused by or just wants to know a bit more about the nonbinary aspect of trans identities.

An absolutely fantastic book about gender and gender identity which also brings up mental health and other topics

I was unable to read it to the end because the app I use crashed and still hasn't worked but you get I'll be buying my own physical copy to read and give to friends!

No matter who you are, as long as you care about people and want to learn more I definitely recommend that you read this book.

Thank you for the opportunity to review They/Them/Their by Eris Young. I am a bit ambivalent about this title, but still recommend it for those interested in the topic(s). More information about gender/gender identity is sorely needed, and Young does address those areas head-on. It's not a "quick easy read" in writing style though, and that might keep more casual readers away. Still, I'll recommend it to others.

If you are an ally, a feminist, or in any way give a damn about people--read this book. It gives an incredible amount of information about what it means to be nonbinary, but also is just so inclusionary. You'll read also about the trans perspective, asexualism, mental illness, and a great many other human experiences while learning about breaking through the barriers of a societal binary gender system.

This book was provided by the publisher through Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. Thank you Jessica Kingsley Publishers and Netgalley!

First, I’d like to talk about the good things of They/Them/Their. I learnt a few things reading this book and some chapters were interesting such as the introduction, because the author wrote a little terminology part, and I liked the chapter about the community.

Now, let’s talk about the negative things. I expected this book to be shorter, because there were so many unnecessary parts or just boring parts. I wanted to learn more about nonbinary and genderqueer identities, but there were so many times that I just wanted to give up and not finish this book.

To be honest, there were many chapters that I read diagonally or chapters were I skipped certain parts because they weren’t interesting at all. It feels more like a published paper than a book that wants to educate people on nonbinary and genderqueer identities.

I’m sorry to say this, but I don’t recommend They/Them/Their at all.

3* This is the first ever Jessica Kingsley book that I've struggled with... Not that it's a bad read, but...

... because it's just a little too personal. And I honestly don't mean that as an insult or to be condescending or disrespectful, but this is a tale that's clearly very personal to the author and it was just a bit too heavy for me.

I don't think this tale added anything unique to what I broadly know of non-binary persons, and perhaps that's because the author was trying their all to inform and educate, but there are several better books by this publisher, who I come to for an education in things LGBTQIA. Here, I found myself reading out of a commitment/obligation because I'd requested the book, and because I've never had anything less than a 4/5* read from the publisher.

I think that if perhaps the author had included case studies and more examples of non-binary persons and their experiences, instead of droning on about the same-ish things in more than one place, instead of coming across like an actual educator, as opposed to someone telling it from the horse's mouth to educate - there is a difference - I'd have connected with this more.

ARC courtesy of Jessica Kingsley Publishers and NetGalley, for my reading pleasure.

The book outlines the need for language that refers to nonbinary and genderqueer individuals. There is a definite need for our culture to understand the concepts addressed here. If the book was divided into sections or chapters, perhaps it would have been easier for me to read. The specialized language the author uses is at a higher level than my ability to understand.

A thoughtful and useful book written for a general audience about gender identity. I was really glad to read this book. I believe myself liberal, but often feel underinformed about gender--or rather, I just don't know how to communicate in ways that are the most inclusive. This book is written clearly and offers great insight without making the reader feel bad. I appreciated Young's honesty but also thoroughness. It would be a great book for high school teachers to help them as the work with students who might be gender non-binary or transitioning.

Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC in exchange for an honest review.