Six Goodbyes We Never Said

Pub Date:   |   Archive Date: 08 Oct 2019

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Not a fan of the sarcastic tone. Found the main character unrelatable. Did not finish, only got about half way.
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"The only thing consistent is change. We have to accept it or become our own enemies."

Namia's father didn't come back from his latest tour, and she's having trouble coping with the fact she will never see him again. Because she suffers from OCD, GAD, and PTSD it's making things harder to deal. She's so used to pushing everyone away, that when someone good comes along, she doesn't know how to deal. 

Enter Dew. He's living with foster parents because he lost both of his parents in a car accident. That loss has manifested in avoidance and anxiety. His foster sister throws a lot of fits, so she can be hard to deal with, but you wouldn't know it from the way Dew smoothly handles her. His foster parents are good people and they want the best for him. He wants to befriend Namia, but she isn't making it easy. She thinks he's weird and she wants him to stay out of her business. 

I really liked Violet, she's a great addition to the book and the author could even give her a book that I would most definitely read. When I read e-books, I highlight things that stick out or things that resonate with me, and there was a lot of highlighting done in this book. The book is beautifully written and it touches on so many real-life issues that people are struggling with (which I greatly appreciate). 

Sometimes Dew seemed a little too "on", a little too "perfect", especially in the way he looked at his foster sister Faith. But the way he watched his family form was touching, I loved his positive view of the world and his acceptance to see what was under the surface. 

I know this book wasn't for everyone, it does get a bit tedious at times with some repetition. Once Naima gave Dew a chance, the book picked up and I would have liked for them to meet sooner. Despite those small issues, I loved this book. It was witty and poignant, and very thoughtful. Naima's way of playing "Would You Rather" to stay connected to her father was amusing. She's so much stronger than she realizes and I love how assertive she is. She's actually really funny when you get past the tough exterior. I'm not sure where her PTSD comes from as it would be too soon to diagnose after the loss of her father, but as a sufferer, I can relate to her struggles. Very nicely done.
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I am really enjoying the stories that are being told in contemporary young adult literature, and this novel is no different. The two main characters, Naima and Dew, have both suffered the horrible and tragic loss of a parent, and unfortunately, neither is coping with the loss well. Naima is … prickly and angry, and Dew is nervous and anxious. Dew is determined to cheer up Naima and become friends with her, and Naima is determined to be angry. 

There is a lot going on in this short novel, but I love it, because it can relate to so many teenagers: the loss of a parent, dealing with foster care, dealing with a sibling in pain, growing up, dealing with a stepparent, mental illness. I flew threw this novel, and felt the characters were realistic and charming, even when they weren't. It is a sad story, but a positive ending, and in addition to being an enjoyable read, I also think it is an important read. I look forward to having it in my classroom library.
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I was drawn to this book by the cover and title and received an ARC from Netgalley. The writing style was all over the place and hard to follow. I liked that the book talked about OCD and anxiety but just didn't feel any connection with the characters.
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trigger warning: discussion of suicidal thoughts and panic attacks

Personally,  I don't think this book was for me. It was a sort of coming of age novel that was just, lacking. Contrary to that though I think that if someone read this book at the right time in their life right when they needed it, I think it could be great. But, to me I was forcing myself to keep going and going and I found myself reading but not retaining. On the plus side though its an own voices portrayal of OCD which I have never read before! As I said before I think this could be a great book or a terrible book all depending on the reader.

I don't think I would recommend this book, but I don't think I would tell someone not to waste their time with it either. Therefore I'm giving it a three stars.
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This was fine. It didn’t blow my mind, and I never really could get into it, but I never really considered DNFing. The writing is adequate, and occasionally poignant, but it never really elicited the targeted emotions from me. Probably one I’ll forget, but not necessarily something I regret reading.

5/10 would recommend
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I was really excited about this one at first, but then the reviews and ratings started to drop....I am not willing to devote time to this book after seeing reviews.
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This novel was a truly wonderful read. The characters of Dew and Naima felt so real and relatable. This is a story of grief, and pushing through and realizing that the people around us play such an important role in our mourning process. It is about helping people going the something traumatic, even if you are experiencing the same thing, and finding healing in that.
Also, the themes of love, family, and friendship helping us through the most difficult points in our lives stand out.
I also appreciated how the author handled the issue of mental health in teenagers, and the way their families supported them.
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I wanted so bad to like this book! I think it has so much potential, but I just found it to be too confusing. I often couldn't tell when the point of view was shifting so I got very confused about the lives of the different characters and often mixed them up.
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I received an advanced digital copy of this book from the author, St. Martin's Press and Netgalley.com. Thanks to all for the opportunity to read and review. The opinions expressed in this review are my own.

Ms. Ganger's novel is a difficult read. It deals with loss and grief paired with other mental illness. Unlike other YA "let's talk about mental health" books, this is written based off the author's experience. The writing is messy, the language strong. Characters are hard to get to know and find likeable. It feels very real in its interactions.

Overall, it is a heartbreaking story, possibly triggering. Parental guidance suggested in regards to language.

4 out of 5 stars. Recommended reading.
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Six Goodbyes We Never Said follows Naima as she grieves her father and Dew, the sweet next door neighbor, as he grieves the sudden lose of his parents. they both struggle with their problems of their own. 

this book covered mental illnesses, such as OCD and anxiety. the beginning started off  a bit rocky but eventually i was finally able to follow along and enjoy the story. 

my heart truly hurt for both naima and dew, but especially sweet, kind dew. dew has my whole heart, he deserves the world and more. i really related to their constant thoughts about not being enough and their constant blaming themselves for things beyond their control. i truly admired how brave they ended up becoming once they sought comfort in each other. 

i couldn't get through this book without crying. i had to keep pausing because i just couldn't see through my tears. you know a book is good when it pulls at your heartstrings.  this book was so beautiful and raw and so well written, i couldn't put it down. 

10/10 definitely recommend it especially if you're looking for a good cry.
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Thank you to NetGalley for this advanced readers copy of Six Goodbyes We Never Said in exchange for an honest review.

Six Goodbyes We Never said is a young adult contemporary novel. It follows the stories of two characters, Naima and Dew, who have both experienced a loss in their life.  This is a unique story and I can say that is really unlike anything I have read before.
 It follows Naima and Dew's journey as they as they grieve their losses and navigate life with mental illness. This book gives you an insight and perspective to the mental illness the characters are experiencing in the novel which I think many readers will feel a deep connection to.  One of my favorite things about this book was the voice - you really felt like you were experiencing the world through the eyes of these two characters and their personalities shined through. The description of the characters was really well done as well as the point of view and characterizations. I enjoyed the differences and dynamics between the two characters.
Both characters have such different experiences and have dealt with grief in different ways, but their stories feel connected.
While I did enjoy reading the characters and the dialogue, I personally found at times it was hard for me get through this book. But this was just how I felt, I am sure many others will feel much differently! It might just not have been the right book/genre for me personally.
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I don’t want to say I hated this but I really didn’t like it at all. The writing was really terrible and the perspective of the two characters was so vastly different it was difficult to keep them continuously developing.

Dew and Naima are both individually coping with the death of their parent(s) and their various forms of mental illness. I like the mental illness rep but it was done in a way where I felt that it was almost toooo much. I know the author pulls from her own experiences but it was so over the top that I couldn’t really relate. 

I really liked the idea of the story and had the writing been more developed (it felt very juvenile) I think I would have liked this more. 

E-arc provided by Net Galley!
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I liked the idea of the book the synopsis of it sounds amazing, something was just lacking for me. I'm not sure what it was but it felt like something was missing.
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Six Goodbyes We Never Said was a book that immediately drew my attention on Netgalley as I do like YA books that deal with mental health problems, but deal with them in the correct way. And although this book approached the subject matters really well, the character development and the likability of the characters really let me down. Immediately as the book started, I didn't like Naima. I found her attitude towards other people COMPLETELY standoffish, we weren't given any reasons for her treatment of other people. The way she spoke to Nell specifically put a bad taste in my mouth when Nell was far from the wicked stepmother trope. When she first met characters, for example Stella, she also came across as a bit of a bitch. And I understand she was having a really hard time and was dealing with a lot of grief, but there was no reason for her to treat Stella the way she did. I can guarantee that Stella wouldn't have liked her very much after that because who would. 

I think the layout of this book would've been better and easier to read in physical format compared to ebook, as it was a little hard to read on my Kindle iPhone app. 

It wasn't a bad read, but overall, could've been better.
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I received a copy of SIX GOODBYES WE NEVER SAID on NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. Thank you to the publisher and author.

FOUR stars and here’s why:

The book is a #ownvoices for the author writes from wading in the trenches of living with mental health issues. I found the book beautifully written and hard to put down. Each person experiences life in their own unique way. The author portrayed two emotionally raw characters who are dealing with death and anxiety in different ways. I found it to be a real page-turner, but I work with teens, so I found that Ms. Ganger really captured the essence of what it’s like to lose someone near and dear to one’s heart; particularly at that age when everything is so vibrant and fresh and emotional. I fell in love with the story and rooted for the characters. I realize it’s one of these stories that does not necessarily have to have a happily ever after tied up in a big red bow, and I really wanted one which is why I gave it four instead of five stars. Having said that, however, it’s one of these stories that will stay with you long after you finish reading it. Highly recommend.
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Interesting idea and beautiful cover, BUT I expected so much more from this.
What unlikeable characters.
Not my jam. This simply wouldn't stand out in the flood of own voices YA novels that have better rep for mental health issues.
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I seem to have read an inordinate number of “it’s not you it’s me” books recently, because this is another one of those. I don’t know what it was about this book (most likely I was just in the wrong mood to be reading it), but I just didn’t click with it. So, instead of trying to work out why, I’m going to just give you four reasons you should read this book (okay, so maybe six would have been more apt, but I was struggling).

Six Goodbyes We Never Said is a dual-POV story between Naima and Dew, two teenagers grieving the loss of their parent(s). Naima moves to live with her grandparents, who are Dew and his adoptive family’s neighbours, and meets Dew (who, it has to be said, is a little stalkerish). Ultimately, not much happens in the book – it’s like a coming of age story, but without the coming of age bit (Charlotte, this makes no sense, you say. Well, read it to find out).

Like I said, I wasn't the biggest fan of this one. But that was just me, so here's four reasons you should read this book.

1. The writing style is unique and the voices of Naima and Dew are so distinct. I don’t think I’ve read a style that sounds so realistic and I definitely haven’t read one that’s so successfully managed to differentiate between two characters.

2. It’s an ownvoices portrayal of OCD, anxiety and depression, which I haven’t read a whole amount of (particularly OCD – I can think of two other books with that). And we all know the value of ownvoices stories.

3. There’s no romance, if that’s not your thing. It’s Naima and Dew becoming friends. A boy and a girl just being friends (even though Dew does start off thinking Naima is his soulmate). Honestly that’s one thing that YA lit needs a whole lot more of.

4. Naima is bi or pan. There’s no label used which did bug me a little, but getting to see a bi character just exist in a story without being either a stereotyped side character or part of a romance? That’s something I do need to see every once in a while (as much as I do love romances).

So, in the end, even though this book wasn’t for me, it’s still a good book, and for the right person could be great.
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I requested this because it sounded exactly like the kind of book I would like. It deals with anxiety and OCD and losing a loved one who was in the military.
Unfortunately, I was appalled by the amount of language in this book. I ended up not finishing the book because of the language and because I did not connect with the main character, Naima. Thank you St. Martin's Press for allowing me to read this novel.
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I received this as an ARC from Netgalley. I was excited to read this title, as the cover was appealing and the story line intrigued me. I was disappointed to say the least. I wanted to root for the main character Naima, being a mother and someone who has dealt with mental illness in the family. I found her lack of empathy towards others and rudeness to be a huge turnoff, it made it hard to be on her side, even though she has dealt with so much heartache and loss. 
I found the chapters to be confusing at times and hard to follow. I often found myself going back to reread pages...which is a big turn off for me. 
I am not sure I would recommend this book to someone who is/has struggled with anxiety/depression/PTSD. It is a heavy book that carries these topics throughout, yes they are important topics to discuss and be open about, but if you struggle this book may be a trigger.
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