Flash Count Diary

Pub Date:   |   Archive Date: 18 Jun 2019

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This is one of the few books out there that discusses menopause honestly and openly.  It has long been treated as a problem that should be ignored, so it is nice to have a book with honest information.
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Flash Count Diary is an essential book on how the menopause is seen through the prism of patriarchy.  The author reinvents the menopause as being a new and vital stage of life. Five stars.
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I've found it difficult to find books or online articles about menopause that aren't heavily weighted for either favour or disdain of hormone replacement. I have my personal tendency about how I would prefer to travel this path, but I've been wanting to read personal experiences about menopause, not enter into the heavily preached (on both sides) fray. 

When Farrar, Straus, and Giroux offered the ARC for review, I was impressed by the synopsis because it seemed to be very much what I've been looking for. And on the whole, it is. The caveat here is that because it truly is nearly impossible to discuss this event in women's lives without including some of what is the most currently discussed medical practices surrounding it, Steinke doesn't fail to include her opinion. Not that she shouldn't have; not that I expected her not to do this. Just a heads up to other women who may be looking for the same sort of reading I have been seeking. She includes the fascinating history of how hormone replacement became a standard practice in the United States and statistics/studies of associated risks. 

However, this isn't solely about all of that. Instead, this memoir is a wildly hybrid accounting of history, science, spirituality, nature, medicine, folklore, advertising, and, above all, deeply personal memoir. 

There's a lot of conflict here; an example is that Steinke relates how her  own sexual drive and that of her friends and other women, changed while going through menopause and how the greater (male dominated) society wants them to remain willing and pliable and sexual when they have physical and physiological changes that may make them reluctant. Then she turns around and explains how orcas, the only known mammal on earth that also goes through menopause, remain sexually adventurous within their pods and that "in their culture.... they don't have that human taboo: don't sleep with old women." This feels like a contradictory lament. That's just brilliant to me as a reader, though - if you know someone going through menopause, or have gone through or are going through it yourself, you know damn well that almost everything about the process can be a contradiction - sex drive, physical changes, emotional changes, life circumstances, social interactions, and psychological interactions - moments of simultaneous despair and joy. 

There is a general bent here towards the nature/natural/spiritual nature side of this process and you'll definitely feel akin to her experience if you're already geared that way. You don't need to be, though, as it's quite relatable (with some amazing writing) regardless. The only generally targeted audience I wouldn't recommend it to would be those absolutely, 100% committed to hormone replacement and won't brook an argument otherwise. 

Thanks to Netgalley and the publisher making this one available for me to review. It comes out in the States on June 18th. I just sped through it, horrified and enlightened, fascinated and heartened. It's a fantastic and honest memoir in a category sorely lacking.
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Some interesting information on menopause both scientifically and historically. But, mostly a personal rumination where the author uses writing to work out her own experience.
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Honest open raw real look at the shocking to every females psyche menopause.Hot flashes swimming in sweat any time anywhere moods changing in a second identity questions,This book is a must read an intimate from the midst of the transition this is a must read book a book that will be passed from woman to woman.Bravo Darcy Steinke .#netgalley#sarahchricton#fs&g
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