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to drink coffee with a ghost

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I  received a free digital copy of this book from Netgalley for an honest review.

This is my fourth book from this author and I enjoyed it. The poems definitely hits as deep as her other collections. She split her emotions wide open and slapped them onto the page.

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to drink coffee with a ghost is a heavier take on grief. I'd recommend not picking this up if you're looking for something to uplift your spirits. It has well-developed themes and ideas within its verses, but it focuses on the darkest parts of grief and abuse while still not fully cannonballing into the deep end. As someone who has lost a parent, it did get hard to read at times. Don't read it all in one go. Take your time with it. But, if you're not fully healed with your grief--not that there's an expiration date to it--don't pick this up. Save yourself the sorrow.

2.5 review. my copy was provided by NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

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I have loved all of Amanda Lovelace's books, and To Drink Coffee with a Ghost is no different. She writes beautifully and so emotionally that I cannot help but feel the emotions along side her. I cannot wait to read more from her!

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"they proved
to me
that sometimes -
just sometimes -
people do not
leave
- my reliable forever.
🍁🍁🍁
This collection is about the author's love-hate relationship with her mother who died of cancer. I appreciate the trigger warning page.

This poetry collection is divided into three parts. Part 1 is "ghost mother", which talks about toxic mother-daughter relationship. Part 2 is
"ghost daughter", which talks about being your own person. And Part 3 is "sun showers", which talks about letting go and being free.

This one feels too personal for me, I can relate on almost everything. It talks about the child who has gone through not being accepted and the emotions that go along with it.

In the end, this book also gives hope for the future.

It was a beautiful collection. The illustrations were also gorgeous.

The ARC of this book was provided by the publisher via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.

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This one is definitely one of my most favorite poem collections Amanda Lovelace has written (along with The Witch Doesn't Burn in this one). Eventhough I try to read as many new poem authors as I can, Lovelace has always been my favorite one. Not only her poems are very personal and emotional heavy, they also speak to me. I can't relate to author in a sense of losing my own mum, but I have very close relationship with her and I can imagine such a pain in losing her. Some of the poems made me tear up which doesn't happen very often. Very well written, I can't wait to read much from Amanda.

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I received an ebook copy of this poetry book via net-galley in exchange for an honest review. Once again Lovelace manages to hit you in the feels, it follows the complications of losing someone who has hurt you, who hasn't redeemed their selves in your eyes. Lovelace is a master at pulling at ones emotions, at encouraging self reflection and journaling.

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Poetry is always a difficult read. However, I enjoyed these poems a lot.
I would like to thank the publisher and netgalley for giving me a chance to read this book in exchange for an honest review.

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Thanks to Netgalley for the ARC of this book. This was a very sad, hard to read book of poetry. It hits you deep in your gut, however it was wonderful. I felt the pain and bad memories, as if my own. Anyone who's been through traumatic events of abuse can relate to these words. There is a trigger warning at the beginning. I hope to read more by this wonderful poet .

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TW: child abuse, eating disorders, sexual assault, self-harm, violence, cheating, death, gore, blood, trauma, grief

This was absolutely beautiful and I loved it so much. I usually have a hard time understand all the feelings behind poetry but this one hit me spot on. I'm so happy I read this and I can't wait to read more!

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I recieved an ARC of this book from the publisher via Netgally in exchange for an honest review.

I've read every collection of poetry that Amanda Lovelace has released and have always loved them and the same goes for this one. This is the second collection in the "things that h(a)unt me" series. I love how she always includes a trigger warning page before she gets started in on the poems. It also has some gorgeous illustrations through out the book. I love when poetry books have little illustrations in them.

In this collection of poetry she talks about grief, toxic relationships, escapism, and the impact of words. You can tell how much emotion was behind these words in this collection. As she talks about the mother daughter bond and how she just wanted accepted and dealing with the grief of losing her mother. Which gives you a perspective on the loss of a parent. How she goes about coping with the loss by using her love books and tarot cards. I liked that she had her family to rely on when she needed it the most. The ending felt a bit short. I feel like it didnt have the closure the rest had.

Here are some of my favorite poems in the collection:

The
Ways
In which
They
Suffer
Themselves
Is not
An excuse
To
Make you
Suffer
In return.
-let me get "controversial" for a moment II

You are not
A disappointment
You are not
The culmination
Of what people
expect of you.
-life is not a pass or fail

You may
Be
A product
If whoever
Raised you.
-you choose

But you
belong
to nobody
Except
Yourself.
-your own future

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This is another amazing collection of Amanda Lovelace and a great finale to the Duology of Things That Haunt. Loved this one just as much as Amanda's other work.

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This wasn't far one of the very few Poetry books that I actually liked. This book actually hit too close too home. It was so so relatable. At times I laughed a little, others I cried and some I was so angry. The writting flow of this book is outstanding. I've never read anything from Amanda Lovelace but believe me, she has a new admire. Thank you for such an amazing piece of literature.

Rating 4.5

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This was so powerful. I’m still not a huge poetry fan, but Lovelace is an auto-read author for me at this point. This one hit me harder than the others, so far, maybe because of my upbringing and complicated familial relationships (though not the same complications) I also loved the illustrations included, I thought the art style just worked so well with the font and style of the poetry.

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I think this is now my favorite collection from Amanda Lovelace. Like so many of the "Instagram poets" or "Tumblr poets" (or whatever label you give to new poetry), Lovelace's style is simplistic but there is so much feeling and familiarity in the words. Anyone who has lived through a loss can relate to many of the pieces and anyone who has had a complicated relationship with their mother will be touched by Lovelace's words. Sometimes the best thing poetry can give us is the reminder that we are not alone in our experiences.

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This was the best Amanda work so far. I am really enjoying this new series way more than her Women Are Some Kind of Magic one. This really touched my heart and had me tears multiple times.

trigger warning: child abuse, eating disorders, sexual assault, self-harm, violence, cheating, deah, gore, blood, trauma, grief.
*they're all included in the book don't worry. i wish more authors could follow her example and make it simply the normality.

These are some of my favorite poems:

"the little girl was so desperate to feel loved, to feel like she existed at all, that she took anything she could get, even if it was nothing but a bunch of make-believe.

- don't accept scraps."

"you gave my pain a name & it sounded like rebellion, not depression. no one ever bothered to tell you about the sad type of daughter & you did everything possibole not to see her.

- blindfold."

"most of the time, the person who hurts you is the person who makes your face light up more than the moon at full brightness. they can even be the person who takes you out for your favorite dessert after you've had an awful day. or the person who teaches you the names of crystals, or the person who shows you which offerings to make faeries to get them on your side.

- it's not your fault that you trusted them."


"you showed me that blood is no competition for the bodies of water between us.

- long-distance friendships."


"you may be a product of whoever raised you.

- you choose.

but you belong to nobody except yourself.

- your own future. (less)

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I enjoyed Amanda's early works a lot but i felt like " To Drink Coffe with a Ghost" was a little bit rushed. However, the author writes about topics that i have never read in poetry and even expresses really polemic ideas which i loved.

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Once again Amanda knocked it out of the park. Her work sinks into you and grip you so you feel every single word. I can always count on her to take me on a journey and to make me feel things that i wouldn't usually. She's my favorite poet and an automatic read/buy for me.

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How can you not love Amanda’s words? I fall in love with this writer more and more each time they release a book. I love the way she puts so many emotions into her words even in small samples and they just hit me so hard. I do truly love the fact that she added a trigger warnings page right at the very beginning so you are WARNED.


Chasing Emily may be my favorite piece in this book because I did immediately think of an exact conversation with my own mother.

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This is my first Amanda Lovelace book, and I enjoyed it - or about 1/4 of it, which for a poetry collection isn’t bad.

I know ‘Instagram poets’ get a lot of shit, and I get it, and I get why, so I didn’t quite know what to expect from this. I found some of the poems simplistic to the point of childishness, but then I’m 35 and grumpy so not really the target market. The poems that hit, though - they were great. Like ‘envious and wish I’d written them’ great. Not much to say about this one. It went really well with a strong coffee on a lazy Sunday.

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This book is one of my most anticipated releases of 2019 and I was so happy I got the opportunity to read an ARC thanks to Netgalley.

Amanda Lovelance has quickly become one of my favorite poetry authors. I have a hard time understanding complex poetry mainly because I am terrible at analyzing it but with Lovelance´s poetry I don’t have to think about it too much because the poetry speaks for itself and although it deals with difficult topics she does this greatly. Her writing is so unique and it is personal, you get an insight in the authors life and even though I can´t relate to everything she has been through I can understand her better and appreciate how she overcame all this things.

This poetry collection is raw and honest and like I said even though I do not relate to what she went through I can admire her for growing through it. Moreover, this book includes images related to the overall topic which I though was a very nice touch.

My only critique for this book is that I would have loved to see a little more cohesion in the order of the poetry collection because this one felt a little all over the place for me. Moreover, the ending felt a bit abrupt and it didn’t have a proper “closure” felling I need from books. Finally, I feel I have read similar poems on other books of hers.

Overall, it was a solid 4 star poetry collection and I cannot wait to get it physically once it is released.

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