Self-Help isn't usually a type of book I enjoy, but Tara Schuster includes just the right amount of sass, snark, and personal history to make this a powerfully inspiring memoir. I'm taking some of her tips to heart, to slow down and enjoy, and create space for me. There's no huge life changes or surprises that she suggests, but focuses more on the simple things. And boy, does she nail it!

Schuster keeps it light, and often foul-mouthed, but in the most endearing of ways. She creates a tone in her book that is vulnerable and empowering. Bravo!

This books is a combination of "self help" and "memoir" and contains lots of good advise and humor.
Just remember:
“Above all else: You are worth the lilies. The small, attainable luxury of lilies is not something to stress about, it is not something to deny yourself, it is something to make plans for and embrace. Small things that make you happy ARE a part of taking care of yourself... Seven-dollar lilies won’t ruin you and they won’t make you poor; they will make you stronger....You can’t control how the outside world treats you, but you can and MUST decide how you treat yourself.”*

Buy Yourself the Fucking Lilies is part self-help, part memoir, with some seriously funny and moving parts sprinkled in. Tara Schuster writes about her own journey from existing as a self-medicating, anxious mess to becoming someone with seriously solid self-care routines. I related to Schuster SO much and I really appreciated the lack of preachiness in this book. For me, self-help can toe the line of eye-rolling, but I love how Schuster presented self-care ideas that I felt I could actually try immediately.
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This is one of those books that will inspire you to take action right away; in fact, I kept a note on my phone of ideas to try as I read through the book! We are all worthy of buying the lilies, an idea that Schuster brought home so well. This was my first five star read of 2020, and I’m so glad I gave it a try! Thank you @thedialpress and @netgalley for my advanced readers copy. Buy Yourself the Fucking Lilies will be released on February 18th!

I imagine there are people out there who will get much more out of this book than I did. From the prologue, I found it a bit hard to relate to the author, and the tips were not anything I hadn't heard before from tons of other self-help books.

I must admit I was somewhat skeptical I would get anything out of this book. While the idea of self care is wonderful, I often see people misappropriating the term as a means of justifying mindlessly selfish or downright reckless behavior. As a result, I started the book with a chip on my shoulder. However, by the book's midpoint I had firmly switched teams. I found myself relating deeply to the author's backstory and the places she found herself as a result. Her advice is far from frivolous - it's thoughtful, accessible, and actionable. It truly feels like it's coming from a kind and genuine friend. I'm a convert. I have a feeling you will be, too.

This won't be a 5-star read for everyone, but I think that's true of any self-help book. Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies is for women (and maybe men) in their 20s and 30s who are messy -- imperfect people trying to sort out their bad habits and bitter resentments. I don't know if this is for every reader, but as a woman in my mid-20s with doubts and fears and anxieties and a complicated family and healthy skepticism of self-help... this is basically my advice bible.

Okay, that's extreme. Tara Schuster is an incredible writer with practical and direct (and yes, explicit) advice based on her own reckonings with emotional baggage over the years. This book is a memoir-slash-guidebook for women (again, men could also like this, but a lot of the advice is female-specific) in that weird post-college age where you're trying to figure everything out and comparing yourself to your way, way more successful peers. What I love about Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies is that is cuts through the kind of mysticism that has put me off "self-care rituals" in the past, and it gives very concrete ways to feel better. Admittedly, a lot (most) of her advice centers around journaling. I did not think I was a journal person before reading this, and I am now exploring it thanks to this book.

Some readers will be put off by the candid, millennial-speak writing that the book favors. Some readers will be put off by the language and Tara's openness about self-love and body empowerment. Many other readers, the true audience for this guide, will be drawn to it for those same reasons.

This book is EVERYTHING I wanted “Girl, Wash Your Face” to be. Tara is the funny, self depreciating, foul mouthed, rude or die friend we all need. She has spent half of her 20s and beyond trying to figure out what functioning enlightened adulthood looks like. This book is for anyone who realized their parents did not prepare us for being an adult and wants a blueprint for how to figure it out. Highly recommended.

Free ARC from Netgalley; Opinions are mine.

I read this book while on a girl's trip vacation and literally quoted it the entire time. When she says "unpack as soon as you get home" I knew this book is exactly what I needed in my life. I appreciate that she acknowledges her privilege: private school, Ivy League college, successful career in entertainment, but that doesn't negate her traumatic upbringing. She spent her life in and out of therapy and shares the practical tools that have helped her. Written for a younger audience, and uses a lot of profanity (obviously), but I highly recommend it.

Thank you to NetGalley for providing an advanced copy of this book.

Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies is written by Tara Schuster, who wakes up after drunkenly dialing her therapist on her 25th birthday and realizes she needs to change her life. Over the course of several years, Schuster develops self-care and healing processes, which she shares with us in this self-help slash memoir filled with glitter, flowers and washi-tape!

I have a love/hate relationship with self-help books. I usually go into them super optimistic, but by the time I hit the 25% mark, I’m over it. None of the books I’ve read have really applied to a lot of my life and they tend to be unrelatable. I might jot down some relevant quotes, but I never really retain much beyond that. So going into BYtFL with no prior knowledge of Tara Schuster, my expectations were set pretty low. But the cover was pretty and the title was right up my alley, so I figured why not?!

That being said, I really liked this book. Schuster was wicked relatable and wrote in a way that reminded me of my own inner dialogue. Obviously, not everything was geared towards me, but way more pertained to my life than in any other self-help books I’ve read recently. There were a lot of really amazing self-care steps and self-discovery exercises that seemed fun and easy to complete. I can definitely see myself using several of the practices that Schuster has laid out. In fact, I’ve actually already started mapping out and working on a few of them! So if you’d like to be one of my Road Warriors, I’m accepting applications at this time!!

The only negative I had was that the last 25% of the book dragged. It might have been because it was focusing on Tara’s relationship issues with family and with love, and I’ve been wicked fortunate in both of these areas. Which is absolutely not something to blame on the book. Just because the advice and circumstances weren’t relevant to me, does not for one second mean that they wouldn’t be relevant to other people, but it made the last quarter of the read seem way less interesting and meaningful for me.

Self-help books aren’t for everyone. And Schuster’s experiences won’t be relatable to everyone. But if you enjoy reading memoirs and self-help practices, I’d definitely recommend this one! Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m gonna go buy myself some freaking lilies!

As a memoir, I think I would have better enjoyed this one. But as a pseudo self-help-type book, it really missed the mark.

Growing up in a rocky household with parents who later divorced, becoming a self-proclaimed "party girl," and then working through her issues and later landing a pretty high up job with Comedy Central is the gist of the author's life. Her self-help tips aren't anything new or revolutionary, and a lot of her experiences (especially interactions with friends that led to her "growth") come off as weirdly dramatized for the sake of making a point.

She also makes self care seem a bit too simple. "I'm sad so I called a friend who lives in Tokyo who told me to come visit her and so I did and wow seeing the world really changed my life and I think you should do the same" or "One day I felt bad about myself and then the next day I bought an unlimited pass to a meditation studio and now my life is changed" (I'm definitely paraphrasing here).

A lot of the book comes off a bit elitist, to be honest. And the language she implores, like the overuse of the word "fuck" (which I realize is so ~*trendy*~ in self-help books now), and "supz" instead of super, "v" for very, was just a bit much for me. It stopped being cute about halfway in and started feeling like a desperate way to appear hip and cool and connect to the younger generation. Same goes for how often she felt the need to mention she used to do coke and smoke weed. Like, maybe she mentioned it so often as a contrast to how much "better" she is now, but it started to feel more like she wanted to prove how cool she was? I don't know. I really wanted to like this one, but the more I read it, the more frustrated I found myself getting with it. I'm sure Tara is a cool person with great things to say - I just wish she hadn't presented it to everyone as self care.

NetGalley provided me with an ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review.

This was an engaging read that covered a multitude of topics that essentially all relate to "living your best life'. I enjoyed Schuster's narrative voice - millenials everywhere will identify with many of her struggles and victories, and surely take away a least a handful of practical ways to improve their day-to-day lives.

I was not aware and still am not at all sure what the authors' credentials are, comedian, author or executive? I found it difficult to follow, as it seems to be somewhat autobiographical and self help and comedy central all in one. Too much flight of ideas to my taste so I really couldn't get into the book. The title implies just a fun book, but it is overkill. I think one might enjoy it more as an audio book, as it reads like one liners from a comedian. Not my cup of tea, sorry to say.
I received this book as a complimentary copy for an unbiased review.The opinions expressed are my own.

I want to thank Random House Publishing and Netgalley for an advanced copy in an exchange for my honest review.
Tara wrote a very honest and self disclosing book about her own struggles and her personal growth that she shares in her book for others. She has concrete tools such as keeping a gratitude diary, self care suggestions, and relationship advice.
A very fun and positive read.

When this book is released, I am immediately going out to buy six or seven copies for friends who need, and will LOVE this book. For those of us whose upbringing did not include the "fun" in dysfunctional, Schuster but went on to become overachieving messes anyway, this book is a great road map of how to start the process of being as successful internally ans we appear to be externally. Plus, it is a really fun read!

I could not get in to this book. Seemed a little self absorbed. I did not know who the author was when I began the book and I am not sure I know who she is now.

There's a lot of good advice in here, most of it nothing new, but it's a good reminder, but there was also a lot of memoir that I just couldn't connect with at all.

I requested this book solely for the title and pretty flowers (also it may have been suggested to me in a Netgalley email but who knows at this point). This book is soooo good. It would be an excellent "my friend is getting a master's degree!" "My friend is transitioning careers!" "My friend is dating a series of losers and OMG PLEASE STOP AND READ THIS BOOK!" Basically, a good adult, life change book. She writes the way I speak to myself, and feels like you are reading your best friends journal, which, in my head now, she is now my best friend. Not close to our mothers because they are psycho? CHECK. Daddy's girl in a weird way? ALSO CHECK. I really did enjoy this book and may have stayed up far too late reading it last night but I don't care. It popped up during a time I'm going through my own weird transitions and is well written with realistic advice which she says will not fit everyone so tweak to fit your lifestyle, interests, budget.

This is a beautiful, raw story that shares the details of the author's growth journey as a young adult excelling in her career while balancing personal growth. The rituals and practices shared by the author are very helpful for anyone looking to level up their routine and get ready to show up as the best version of themselves (which we cannot do until we've dealt with unsettled emotions).

I’m Buying the Fucking Book
I’m buying my loser sister who never takes advice from anyone this amazingly gentle but direct self-help guide because I think she might just get something helpful out of it (the section on the importance of, steps on how, and pure inspiration regarding Thank You notes is worth the price of admission alone). And it’s funny. I can’t think of a more ringing endorsement.

Wendy Ward
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This was an interesting read with useful tips for pulling yourself out of a fog of procrastination, depression, and general self-destructive behaviour. I enjoy memoirs and I can relate to Tara Schuster's confused transition into adulthood after growing up in a dysfunctional family. Me too! I'm older than Tara, but I appreciate her advice and her having shared with the reader where her journey of self-discovery and self-parenting has led her.

I think everyone could use a friend to remind us things like - not everything is your fault! And, if you constantly put crappy food into your body, you're probably going to feel like crap all the time. Makes sense.

Do I think there's any earth-shattering advice in here that will blow people's minds? Not particularly. It's all pretty practical advice and it helps that she combines it with her own experiences. Did I need to start my year by being reminded off all the things I should be doing for myself instead of staying in the same rut I've been in the last few years? Yes, I absolutely did. Thank you T$.