"Forgiveness can be granted freely, but trust must be earned. We need to be smarter moving forward. We need to establish proper boundaries. "

This was an amazing read and probably my favorite nonfiction read so far this year. I loved it and recommend it!

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Betrayal, we all have experienced it. From chapter one Pastor Phil Waldrep is honest about how he is talking from his own experience and how God and with the help of others he was able to move on beyond. All do they are different forms of betrayal, it gives use us a guideline on how we can forgive and be healed. Pastor Phil mention in this book, how important is to say the name of each emotion, to be really honest; first with God and then with ourselves. I like what he mentions about forgiveness “ Forgiving is not forgetting. Is releasing your right to get revenge”.

This book also makes me realize that is important to address with the help of God the root of our pain from the past to let go and be healed. As he mentions, is a journey and so we need to be patient, take day by day and trust God at all time Step by step we go to through emotion we experience, how to handle it, recommendations like a small assignment to work in the journey of healing.

I recommend this book because all do know none wants to be betrayal, the question is how do we deal with all the shock and pain. I believe Pastor Phil Waldrep has good and biblical advice on how to navigate these unknown waters and keep living a full life after the hurt and sorrow.

This book is one that almost anyone will be drawn to and will find helpful. We all face hurt and betrayal and need to move past it. This book gives Phil space to share his story and to use that for good.
His story his helpful and his trips are practical. This is a good tool for anyone working on their own story.

The publisher add this book available through NetGalley. This review is my honest opinion.

Have you been betrayed?

Almost everyone, at some point or another, has experienced some form of betrayal. Maybe it was something as simple as being lied to or as complicated as being cheated on or defrauded.

When we are betrayed, the human tendency is to brush it off and pretend we're okay. But if not dealt with, those lingering feelings of betrayal can taint every relationship from that moment on.

Phil Waldrep takes you through nine steps from betrayal to healing. He employs biblical principles to help you to appreciate that there is life after betrayal--and it can be a good one.

Know God--having a firm foundation in God's Word helps you to lean on Him when you are betrayed. People may prove themselves untrustworthy, but God remains faithful.

Know yourself--as you process your betrayal, a knowledge of self is important as it will allow you to identify areas where you're lying to yourself. Knowing your personality traits helps you to address concerns that will prevent you from getting beyond your betrayal.

Run your race--everyone's betrayal is different and so will their journey to healing. Allow yourself--and others--to walk through the steps they need to so they can find healing at the end of the journey.

Beyond Betrayal offers a pathway for anyone who has suffered from the pain of betrayal. I received a complimentary copy courtesy of the publishers and NetGalley; a positive review was not required.

This book challenged me to move past the stuck feelings of betrayal towards healing and growth. Sometimes life hurts. Sometimes people do things that hurt us. Sometimes it seems like they don't care. Each chapter of this book challenges the reader to step out of the dark, empty, pit of betrayal towards the hope for wholeness again.

Several times while reading Beyond Betrayal, I found myself nodding my head and thinking "Yes, that's it exactly." If you've experienced a betrayal in the context of a close relationship, you'll likely resonate with much of what Phil Waldrep says in this title. While his personal story is mostly confined to one chapter, Waldrep shares several stories of others throughout the book. This helped to pain a wider, more diverse and colorful picture of the many shades of betrayal. I can see this being a title that those who have recently experienced a betrayal work through very slowly, while also serving as a good refresher and "check" for those already on the path toward healing.

A very interesting book; the author has written the book in a different way. For me the book is similar to a biography and a self help book to how a minister can help his congregation in dealing with betrayal and broken trust. By having an understanding of what different forms of betrayal can be shown to a person.. the book demonstrates that betrayal can be treated and goes through steps and demonstrations and scenarios that actual people have gone through and how they got over being betrayed. Definitely a book to keep on the bookshelf to keep on hand to help yourself or to pass to others.

Beyond Betrayal

Overcome Past Hurts and Begin to Trust Again

by Phil Waldrep

Harvest House Publishers

Christian , Religion & Spirituality

Pub Date 11 Feb 2020


I am reviewing a copy of Beyond Betrayal through Harvest House Publishers and Netgalley:


Have you ever been betrayed by someone you love, someone you trusted? Like most of us, I am sure you have, and it changes things between you and the person who betrayed you doesn’t it? It truly hurts.


There are other very painful events in life, but Betrayal is unique in the effect it has on us!


In Beyond Betrayal Phil Waldrep reminds us, his readers that “When you give someone your love and trust, you also give them the ability to wound and hurt you like no one else can.”


The author reminds us that anger is a normal human emotion, and that is in fact okay to get angry, anger in itself isn’t bad he reminds us. He goes on to tell us that Anger is a normal human reaction but allowing that anger to control you is not!


Author Philip Waldrep reminds us “We are called to forgive, but only God can forgive and forget. Too many people try to be super‑Christian and convince them‑ selves they can forgive and forget what happened.”. We can forgive, through God, but it is only God who can wipe the slate clean, the memory of the pain the betrayer caused you! He goes on to remind us that forgiving is not forgetting , but it is letting go of your right to pay your betrayer back for the pain they caused!


It is crucial for our healing that we allow the Lord to heal our hurt and heartbreak, so that he can turn our pain into something good. Journaling can help too.


Waldrep reminds us too that Betrayal is an act of selfishness.


When we are fresh from Betrayal it is hard to even think about forgiveness our pain is so fresh and new, but if we give it to God he will help us through that difficult time, and give us the strength we need to forgive!


One quotation from Beyond Betrayal sums it up well: “Being betrayed hurts. And just because a BandAid is good to stop the bleeding, that doesn’t mean the pain will go away when you put it on. Healing will take some time.”



We are reminded too, something that at times seems obvious which Is that Pain Changes People, but at times I think we tend to overlook that fact, and see the change in that person!


If you are dealing with Betrayal, and want to know helpful ways to work through it, ways based on Biblical Principles, then I would highly recommend Phillip Waldrep’s Beyond Betrayal.


I give this book five out of five stars!


Happy Reading!

This author is very aware of what betrayal does to people, no matter the situation. I appreciate the tips provided in the book to heal from betrayal.

I was hoping this book would delve a little deeper into how to heal from betrayal. I found it very basic and much information I already knew. It was also somewhat repetitive at points. This book does provide solid godly counsel and advice, I just wished it would have gone deeper and challenged me to grow more. I appreciated how the author used biblical examples of betrayal to help guide the reader in their responses to betrayal. It was also helpful to read about his own personal experience with betrayal as well as many other people's experiences he shared about in the book. I did come away with some helpful gleanings from the book to guide me in my own experience with betrayal, I was just hoping for more from this book.

In Beyond Betrayal, Phil Waldrep openly and honestly shares his own experience of betrayal, sharing both the mistakes and the things he has done well in the healing process. His goal in writing is to help readers find a more healthy path through the pain of betrayal and to prevent them from getting stuck.

I appreciated the fact that Waldrep doens't offer empty platitudes or quick fixes. At the same time, he does help readers see that there is hope for getting through the pain of betrayal to the other side. He assures readers that while life will look different after betrayal, it is possible to move forward. I also appreciated Waldrep's transparency and willingness to share out of his own experiences. His honesty and his commitment to biblical truth help readers chart a path "beyond betrayal."

If you've been betrayed, you'll find helpful steps for moving forward in Waldrep's book, Beyond Betrayal. Or, if you're walking with someone else who has experienced betrayal, Waldrep's candid manner will help you better understand their journey and how you can be there for your friend or family member along the way.

Note: I received a copy of the book from the publisher in exchange for this honest review. The opinions expressed are my own.

This is a core statement of this book, one that everyone can empathize with -
“When you give someone your love and trust, you also give them the ability to wound and hurt you like no one else can.”
The author was betrayed by a close associate in a Christian organization, he tried to help that person to get counseling and he even tried to help him recover, he knows what it is like to be betrayed.
The first thing that will help a person in dealing with betrayal is to keep a journal to try to deal with your own feelings so they do not control you.
Write about your story, what happened, how you are feeling and talk with a pastor or counselor.
The different types of betrayal are discussed : betrayal by a spouse, an employer, one on one betrayals, being betrayed by a leader, and a betrayal that is not discovered for years after the betrayal occurred.
You are given permission to be hurt, angry and upset. It will take time to get over being betrayed, you may feel as if you are having PTSD symptoms, you can forgive but not forget, you are human.
Remember that you are a worthy person, the betrayer was wrong. Take time out to do things you enjoy, think about who you can still trust and rely on.
You may feel comfort by reading the book of Psalms and writing your own psalm.
You are allowed to feel hurt, get angry and feel depressed, this is normal behavior.
You need to develop new routines, find a healthy church, exercise, or learn a new skill, your life is not over!
You need to grieve over your loss of a relationship and to grieve the loss of trust.
You will need to read this book for yourself so that you can heal.