Remembering Ethan

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Remembering Ethan is a gentle story about grief told from the perspective of the younger sister. The illustrations are beautiful. I really appreciated that the grief of the parents was discussed. The author also included useful Notes for Reader from a school psychologist. I will use this book in my counseling office. Thanks American Psychological Association and NetGalley for the arc of this title.
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This book was very well done for such a difficult subject. Grief is such a hard thing for all of us to process but for children (especially those with little to no experience in loss), this can be a nice resource.
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Very sad but sparkles with hope. Would recomend for parents, doctors, and counselors for use in child grief.
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There aren’t many books to help children when they are grieving. This book is joyous and heartfelt. Sarah misses her late brother dearly, but she wants to remember him. While it seems to her that her parents shy away from anything having to do with him.
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Thanks to NetGalley for an ARC of this book. I was blown away with how well the author addresses the grief faced by a child due to the loss of her sibling. She wants to talk about him to process the grief, but she finds that the adults are all reluctant to do the same and they would rather keep quiet and live in their own worlds. How a person reacts to the passing away of a loved one can never be predicted, but it is especially tough on little ones. This book may help the family by bringing them together and remembering their precious moments with their loved one.
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This is an excellent resource for any family who has lost a family member or close friend. The book is well-written from the perspective of a child. She thinks that her family has forgotten her brother who died. She doesn't understand that her parents are having trouble processing the situation. Toward the end, they spend time as a family remembering Ethan. The back matter is very helpful for families, friends, and other people in a child's life who has lost a family member to death. Highly recommend.
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This book is a wonderful resource for children who have lost a sibling. It highlights the complexities of how each individual deals with their grief differently, and how those differences can feel isolating. Toward the end of the book, the family is able to talk about Ethan and grieve together. I am planning on buying a copy of this book for work as a therapist with children.

I received a copy of this book from netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
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I like that nowadays many children book talked about dealing with grief, as death always came unexpectedly

This book speaks about grief nicely and also how sometimes we are too busy dealing with our own feeling and forgot that sometimes it could be better when we share with someone that experience the same thing

I love the illustration, I believe it would help the kids to understand the story as well

I expect deeper stories tho, but it's already okay tho
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I loved getting to read this picture book, the illustrations went along perfectly with the story, I also thought it handled the subject very well.
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This is a much-needed book! I loved it and cannot wait to add it to my home and school libraries. This story is told from the perspective of a younger sister of a boy who has recently died. She just wants to talk about him and how much she misses him, but her parents just cannot seem to do it. I have yet to read a book that deals with a sibling death in such a way. It is so necessary.
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Sarah’s big brother Ethan died. She thinks about him and misses him all of the time. Her Mommy and Daddy won’t talk about him, so she thinks they do not miss him. Buttons, her cat, is the only one that seems to understand how sad she is. 

One day she is so lonely and frustrated, she goes into Ethan’s room and sits down at his desk. She writes his name all over a paper and then draws a picture of Ethan giving Buttons and her a double piggy-back ride. But when she puts the picture on the fridge, her mommy and daddy get really upset.

Later, Mommy and Daddy are sitting on the couch and have placed the picture she drew on the wall over the fireplace. Daddy explained that they were very sad, but her picture helps them remember Ethan. Then they looked at pictures of their whole family, especially Ethan and remember how much they love him.

This touching picture book is heartbreakingly beautiful. The feelings that Sarah has as well as her parents are gently there for the reader to think about, especially if they have lost a loved one. Telling the story from Sarah’s point of view gives a voice to the feelings children may have after losing a sibling or other special person. 

After the story is a section for parents or caregivers about dealing with and processing the grief of a child after the loss of a sibling. I sincerely hope you don’t have to deal with this reality in your life, but if you do, this book will help. 

I highly recommend this book for all children and parents. Unfortunately, death touches all people and coping can be especially difficult. Be it the loss of a pet, a grandparent, neighbor or someone else your child is connected to, Remembering Ethan will help you help them and you cope with the loss.

DISCLOSURE OF MATERIAL CONNECTION: I have a material connection because I received a review copy for free from Netgalley in exchange for a fair and honest review. Copyright © 2020 Laura Hartman
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*thank you to Netgalley, Lesléa Newman and American Psychological Association/Magination Press for an ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review*


4 stars.


'Remembering Ethan' is a sweet and sad story about a sister who lost her brother and parents who are too hurt and sad to want to talk about it. Ethan is Sarah's big brother who passed away when he was a teenager. It doesn't tell us how or what happened but instead focus on how Sarah gets shut down each and everytime she mentions the brother she loves. Eventually the parents realise that remembering Ethan is the best thing to do and to always remember the special memories that he left behind. 

For the most part I enjoyed this (well as much as one can when death is the topic in a little children's picture book.) But the part where Sarah's parents suddenly go from refusing to talk about him to suddenly flipping and being completely open about talking about him, just didn't sit right with me. I think there needs to be just a tiny bit added in the middle as to why the parents suddenly had a chance of heart. As adults we can already guess it. That the parents had decided that the best thing for them and little Sarah was to speak of him. But as a little kid, I'm guessing they either won't realise this piece is missing or they will also wonder. 

Otherwise this is a great book and I can see it being a comfort to those who have lost a sibling or someone important to them but it's also a good one for bring up the topic of death. This book does that gently and is one I would recommend. Plus the illustrations are just simply stunning.
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This book is a beautiful, heartbreaking approach to death that I think will spark many important conversations within families and classrooms.
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Remembering Ethan by Leslea Newman and illustrated by Tracy Nishimura Bishop is a beautiful but heartbreaking picture book about losing a sibling. Sarah has lost her big brother Ethan and wants to remember him talking about him. But her parents struggle and have a hard time talking about him. Sarah feels as if she (and Button the cat) are the only ones missing Ethan. This makes her very sad. But Sarah rallies her parents to keep remembering Ethan.
I really loved this book even if it is heartbreaking. The used language is easy to grasp and the breathtaking pictures made with pencil and watercolour, really enhance the story.
A book that would be ideal to use with children going through periods of grief and loss. It will show them that the feelings they're going through are perfectly normal and might help them through this difficult time.
At the end of the book tips are added for parents and carers to cope with the emotions of children going through periods of grief.
A book to read to children from age 5. To be published April 7th.
Thank you to the American Psychological Association and NetGalley for giving me access to the e-ARC of this book.
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This is a very heartfelt story of a little girl who just wants to remember her brother who has passed on. It is told from Sarah's perspective, from Sarah's point of view she seems to be the only one who wants to remember her older brother. 

On the other end you have two grieving parents who are just trying to cope with the loss of their son.  The author included some important information at the back of the book as well. Different contacts and suggestions for talking to children about loss. 

I definitely recommend this book  5*****
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*received from netgalley for free for honest review* This book addresses a very important thing about life, death, and importantly for children grief and how to deal with it (and how not to). This book is told from the childs point of view so small children can easily understand the language used. The parent info at the end is also amazing and very insightful.
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While the self-help, factual information at the back of this book is to help children grieve their siblings and other family members, the actual focus of the story here is the fact that our heroine just cannot see what her parents are doing.  They're shutting themselves away, clamming up, refusing to acknowledge the family jokes and events and habits together, meaning Ethan's sister thinks she's the only one carrying Ethan's memory as it should be.  Well, her and the cat anyway.  So while the story, wonderfully illustrated and very well fashioned all told seems to show the parents at fault, there's a bit of a jarring sensation as you read the closing two pages, full of advice on helping children through the mourning process.  I guess that does go to show it remains and must remain a whole-family thing.  Whichever half of this book you find most useful I am damned sure it will certainly be that – useful.
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Death is hard on the living.  

This excellent little picture book shows how a sibling wants to mourn her lost brother, but her parents are too heart broken to even say his name.

Grieving is hard, and this book is written to show the wrong way to do it, by shutting down, and the right way to do it, by sharing memories.



Lovely story, and will be a help to the children left behind when siblings die.

Thanks to Netgalley for making this book available for an honest review.
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A book about loss and remembering loved ones that have passed, "Remembering Ethan" would be a great book to read-aloud after a child loses a family member. Sarah misses her brother, Ethan, very much after he passes away. She cannot understand why her parents are too sad to talk about him, though, and her emotions are so much different than theirs. Buttons, her cat, however, seems to miss Ethan too, and the two of them spend a lot of time in Ethan's bedroom. Sarah draws a picture of Ethan giving her a piggyback ride, and her parents are still too sad to even talk about Ethan. But Sarah wants her family to remember Ethan, not just be sad that he is gone. Sarah gets upset that no one wants to talk about memories that they have with Ethan, but her parents have a surprise for her when she comes downstairs after crying in Ethan's room. 
The book includes a page that talks about how to have a conversation with your child after the loss of a loved one. As it can be especially hard on children to lose a sibling, this specific loss is addressed both in the book and in the "post-read" note offering ways to help children cope. 
There aren't many children's picture books that deal with the death of a sibling or other family member and the grief that may come along with the loss. This book has adequate illustrations to express the emotions that Sarah is feeling over the course of the book, as well as illustrated memories that Sarah describes to remember Ethan. Overall, this might be very appropriate to read after a child loses a family member or attends a funeral.
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If families talking about their deceased children, it's done it's job. Too often a child dies and the families just shut down. I've always felt so badly for siblings left behind to deal with their parents grief. Young Sarah, in the case of this story, gets her parents talking after she thinks they are angry with her. Her anger finally gets them talking about her deceased brother, as they should have been all along.  Good story for grieving families.
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