This book looks more at the emotional, psychological side, mental side than I was thinking when I picked this up. I do agree that you have to be mentally healthy to have a healthy relationship with a partner. If you are struggling with that side of your relationship this is a great book for you. The authors cover lots of topics that can get between you and your significant other and how to do the hard work to get to a better place mentally and emotionally.

Thank you NetGalley for the opportunity to read this book for my honest opinion.

I received an ARC from Nelson Books, via NetGalley. This review is my personal opinion.


What a great and necessary book, I must-read for everyone who wants to be healthy and have healthy relationships. This book has three parts well structure and with easy and uncomplicated information to be put into practice.

Part 1 Profound Significance
For me, one of the most important messages was: “Healthy people plant their feet on a deep and confident sense of worth that is built by God’s love”. The importance of learning and identify my inner self-talk and how many toxic situations begin with ourselves.

Part 2 Unswerving Authencity
This was my favorite part of the book, about how important is to be vulnerable, to be authentic, to acknowledge our weakness, to be who we are. To open our eyes to our flaws and let people be healthy and strong relationships.

Part 3 Self-giving love
This part was an answer to several questions I had for several years now, about social interactions. Here I learn about social barometer and how is important to pay close attention to my own physiological experience to improve relational connection, which what I know I am not alone on this we want we others but don’t know how or where should we start. Not like a magical formula, but with easy and practical advice, the importance of being empathic and how that impacts our way to perceive others and on me.

Dr. Les and Leslie Parrot did a wonderful job while balancing a good solid biblical background with interesting information they have gathered in their more than twenty years of experience. This is not a book for reading fast, but one that you need to take time to digest, slow down, examine and take action, and put in practice the advice we find here. In my case, this book has opened my eyes to much powerful truth. My favorite quote and finally the reason that summarize why you should read this book is “ If you try to build intimacy with another before you have gotten whole on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself”.

Truly grateful for the ARC of this book, it was the answer to a prayer.

While I agree with some of the messages in this book, other parts of it felt very preachy and were more about spirituality than relationships.