What a perfect guide to pronouns! I'll definitely be recommending this one to everyone, especially those who claim gender neutral pronouns are too difficult to wrap their heads around.

This guide is actually a gift. People who aren't fluent in gender talk, don't know how to address it, or even understand it. Some find the conversation surrounding it patronizing and alienating, some say it's overly complicated. Some really want to understand and educate themselves. but don't know how and where to start.
ENTERS "HOW TO THEY THEM"!

I'm a graphic designer, so let's start with the visual aspect of this book - WOHOOOW. The graphic design is so simple yet so point-on. The punk rock eleganza is everything I needed it to be. It allows complex topics to be explained in a simple and not condescending way. I know some people see gender talk as tedious, so this element of the book is helpful to smooth it out and lure the readers in.

I loved how the author eases you into the nitty-gritty, more complex topics. The humorous tone, which I'm aware might feel a bit much to some, could be helpful when you address people who aren't fluent in gender studies. Though I'm not a nonbinary person, I am married to one, so I kinda wanted to skim through some parts, but eventually, this book is mostly directed to people who need and want to understand gender non-conforming identities, and for that, the small talk jokes could prove to be the difference between an eye roll and a small smile.

This is a great book to pick up if you want to educate yourselves on gender nonconforming identities, and of course, nonbinary people.

Stuart Getty's book "How to They/Them" is an excellent introduction to using they/them pronouns for all types of readers. Their wit shines bright throughout, even in the more serious parts. People who use they/them pronouns, people curious about using them, and people who have never tried to use them will find great tips, practical applications, areas of needed change, resources, and a brief overview of the long and beautiful history of using the singular they/them. This book should be essential reading for everyone. Highly recommended for all varieties of libraries and readers.

In <<How to They/Them>>, Stuart Getty provides a kind and welcoming introductory guide to gender pronouns. With beautiful illustrations, Getty gently challenges the reader to become a more accepting, others-considering person. I'd recommend this book to anyone who may be new or want to learn more about pronouns and gender identity.

This was a great book, and I recommend it for everyone.

And if you were like me, and you know that you DON'T know the ins and outs of pronoun and gender etiquette, but you feel like asking someone would be rude / not welcomed / get you a lecture about how you should ALREADY know this, then this book is ESPECIALLY for you!

For me as a cis person, this book was a great guide to understanding more about gender fluidity and social norms around pronoun use (basically exactly what the title tells you this book talks about). Stuart's narration throughout the book was wise, witty and extremely welcoming. There are lovely illustrations, but this is by no means a "picture book," as the writing was scholarly, clear and well organized. You could still, however, read this to younger audiences with few adjustments and it would be understood.

The best part of this book for me was Stuart's friendliness. That may sound odd when spoken about a written book when you've never met the author, but truly I felt like Stuart was writing as someone who cares about you (yes, you!) and is inviting you to become a more loving and accepting version of yourself. Stuart is speaking from experience, but I never felt spoken down to. I can't really speak more highly of a book than to say that not only did I learn a lot, I felt like a better person after reading it.

*Thanks to NetGalley for providing an ARC in exchange for an honest review

I just read this book & think it will appeal to a variety of people of all ages. Friendly & accessible in tone and fully illustrated, it’s an approachable exploration of gender pronouns. The book would be a great fit for older elementary school kids all the way up to grandparents because of its supportive, explain the basis approach and collaborative tone. Reading it & applying its knowledge would allow us to best interact with each other so that everyone is supported & welcomed.
Thank you to NetGalley for the complimentary copy of the book in exchange for my honest review.

How to They/Them is a great all-encompassing introductory guide to the pronouns they/them and who might use them. It also touches on the history of pronouns, explains different genders, and highlights some famous people today who use they/them pronouns.

I loved this book. I'm non-binary and have recently started using they/them pronouns. This means a lot of the information in the book wasn't new to me, but it's great to have it all in one place as a future reference so I can advocate for myself. And of course, it was nice to hear the author's experience.

I especially appreciated the quote "Weird means growth is happening." Things felt (and still feel) weird as I figure(d) myself out, and it was nice to be reminded that despite how bad weird can feel, it means something good is happening.

This is a vital and very accessible and enjoyable book in many respects. It seems to straightforward to use the singular they in everyday conversation when talking about someone whose gender is not know or whose identity is in or beyond the spectrum of the gender binary. And yet, this is rather difficult for many people....

The book deals with the frequently-asked excuses for not using "they" in everyday conversation as well as questions about gender, various terms and pronouns (they was even used as far back as the 14th century), but in a very accessible way, with the help of fun illustrations.

I would recommend this to everyone from any background. There are sections which are aimed as parents and educators and also a section for ENBY folks on how to have a conversation with someone who has misused their pronouns.

The main takeway for me is to have conversations about pronouns and challenge others' opinions about the gender binary in everyday situations, in a way that is respectful and validating to someone's identity.

(advance copy provided by NetGalley)

How to They/Them: A Visual Guide to Nonbinary Pronouns and the World of Gender Fluidity by Stuart Gett was a great read, and a humorous one at that. Getty has written what amounts to a primer on gender, sexuality, and gender identity and expression and the many non-binary combinations thereof.

Anyone who is puzzled by- or has questions about - these terms and who uses which would be wise to start reading here. The explanations are simple and clear, and the illustrations are great. Definitely an eye-opening read.

A simple, straightforward reading full of good ideas and facts to keep in mind. The singular They was something I didn't quite understand, although he I did my best to take it into account. This book clarified several doubts for me, showing me that it's actually something very simple that doesn't require much mental effort, just a little acceptance and open-mindedness.

Thanks to NetGalley, for providing early access to this book, in exchange of a (kinda late) review.
The gender spectre is a big one. Even if society keeps trying to force upon us the fact that people can just be either male or female, people is simply not that simple. You can be gender discomforming. You can be trans. You can be non-binary. You can be agender, genderfluid, and more. Basically, “he” and “she” are simply not good enough to describe all the possibilities of gender.
And thus, they.
Stuart Getty is non-binary, and they decided to write a book that can be described as a “visual guide nonbinary pronouns and the world of Gender Fluidity” (I mean, it is the subtitle of the book). Through drawings and diagrams, Stuart tells us not only their story, but also the story of “they” as a singular pronoun (fun fact: is not as new as you might think), the basics of sexual orientation and gender identity, and gives us a few tips on do’s and don’ts of using They.
This book was a very quick read and it did a great job explaining lots of the concepts the LGBTIQA+ community has been trying to explained for all of the existence of humanity. If you’re interested in learning about this subject and/or you’re scared to mess up with pronouns or other concepts, I definitely recommend this read. Or if you’re trying to help someone understand a thing or two, this book could be a great gift. My only negative comment is that I first read it on my kindle, and it was very messy. On my computer it reads greatly, and I’m sure a physical copy would work amazingly.
“How to they/them (A Visual Guide to Nonbinary Pronouns and the World of Gender Fluidity)” came out a couple of days ago, on September 29th, and is available on wherever you get your books. Go grab your copy!

I thought this visual guide to pronouns was helpful and accessible for understanding gender identities. It was incredibly useful and would serve as an excellent primer for people that want to better understand gender identities.

Thank you for accepting me on this! From the time I applied to acceptance one of my friends came out as non-binary so this book fell into my lap at the right time. The thing I loved about this book was learning about non-binary people from a genderqueer person themselves! It answered a lot of questions that I didn't want to pester my friend about, such as the origin of a lot of the words such as transsexual, they, ze etc. It cracked me up a few times, especially with the 'please stop asking about their junk' genuinely can't believe people ask those things.

This novel is a perfect introduction to transgender, non-binary, genderqueer, genderfluid humans without being overloaded with information. Stuart Getty breaks down essential information and most of the time will make you giggle reading it.

Thank you for writing this book, I feel so much more educated and comfortable and feel like I could even educate others from what I learnt!

Oh wow.

This book is an UTTER DELIGHT!

I make a note of trying to read the latest books on gender/sexuality that I come across so that I can do my best to create inclusive environments around me. And, admittedly, I was one of those people who initially were like "okay having your own pronouns is fine but why 'they' -- can't you just have a different one?" While it's been a couple years since this thought process, I wanted to learn more about singular they and the issues that surround pronouns.

"How to They/Them" is equal parts comedy and really valuable information! Stuart Getty is an amazing writer and I hope they (yes, Stuart uses they) write more like this! The illustrations done by Brooke Thyng mimic the text's meld of humour and important information.

I was particularly taken by the TSA discussion-- many of the things Stuart had talked about I was fairly familiar with, but that the gender binary is actually part of the machines used in airports was something I was completely unaware of. Not surprised, but certainly unaware.

I really appreciated the discussion of how gender is frequently a social construct and different cultures discuss gender differently and have different genders and sexualities. Stuart dedicates a couple pages explaining identities like Two-Spirited, and I really appreciate this.

A wonderful book and a must-read for anyone who is queer or just trying to be less unintentionally oppressive!

"I hope we all dream to find our own realities. Even if those realities don't even exist yet. Especially if they don't."

I think this book is a really good primer for cis folks wanting to educate themselves on becoming an ally to nonbinary folk, as well as a useful and necessary beginner's guide for trans and/or nonbinary folk who are just starting to come into themselves and want to read a quick, informative (often witty) guide written by someone who understands what they are feeling.

I really enjoyed the range of topics covered within this book, many of which I wasn't expecting to be covered. There was some factual evidence presented regarding biology and sex assigned at birth, along with showing how the usage of a singular 'they' is not something that has only come about in recent years, but can be traced back as early as 1375 in English writing. There were more engaging, visual guides explaining how you can navigate conversations regarding pronoun usage and correcting someone misusing someone's pronouns (both accidentally and intentionally). I was pleasantly surprised to see a guide explaining various gender neutral and 'third gender' identities outside of Western culture, as with other guides I've seen these tend to be overlooked due to the text focusing on a Western lens, so this inclusion, consequently showing gender neutral identities across the globe, was something I really appreciated being acknowledged.

The combination of the visual guides and tone of the prose worked really well to be informative whilst welcoming, often feeling like you were talking to a friend and they were explaining some core information regarding nonbinary folk. Additionally, as a nonbinary person myself, reading this I found some lovely quotes which I could really relate to, which shows that this book is necessary as not only a beginner's guide to cis folks wishing to learn, but also nonbinary people looking for more books which understand them.

However, I did find a few minor points I would personally critique with the book. For one, 'they' is often used as placeholder for 'nonbinary', which may be confusing to some folk who are only just beginning to understand gender identities outside of the binary, as they may think that all non binary folk use they/them pronouns. I do acknowledge (and appreciate) the inclusion of the neo-pronoun guide partway through the book, showing that some non binary folk may not use they/them pronouns and instead use other pronouns such as ze/zir, for example, Despite that, I found that the use of 'they' as a placeholder could confuse folks starting to educate themselves as it can be interpreted that 'they' is interchangeable with 'nonbinary', despite some nonbinary folk not using they/them pronouns.

In addition to this, there is a section of the book where some terms are being explained in a glossary format, where the term 'enby' is described as meaning nonbinary. I loved the fact that there was an explanation regarding why the term 'enby' is used instead of NB (meaning non-Black in some circles) however I would have appreciated if a sentence or two was included explaining that whilst many nonbinary folk do use enby as a shortened term for nonbinary, not all feel comfortable doing so. A similar feeling came up later in the text when transgender was being described as an umbrella term encompassing all forms of gender nonconformity. I feel that it would be good to mention that, again, whilst some nonbinary folk (such as myself) use the term transgender to identify, some don't feel like it fits them and prefer to only use nonbinary to identify with. These are all minor critiques and definitely didn't impact upon my enjoyment of the book, however I feel that adding one of two extra sentences to show the nuance of nonbinary folk could help cis folk looking to educate themselves upon the matter avoid making generalisations or simplifications about nonbinary people.

Regardless of that, I overall really enjoyed the book and would recommend to anyone looking to start educating themselves on nonbinary folk and they/them pronoun usage. The guide is really easy and quick to read, not too dense for a beginner's audience which will help people trying to learn be less intimidated by the subject matter, and the illustrations throughout the book add a funny and witty lens upon the content, so as not to make it feel too serious and like you can't enjoy yourself whilst reading.

This book would be MUCH better read in a physical form!

𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙄 𝙇𝙞𝙠𝙚𝙙:
💜 GREAT explanation of how to use they/them pronouns.
💜 Answered SO many common questions about non-binary people and their pronouns.
💜 Gave personal anecdotes that made it relatable and fun to read.
💜 SO important right now!!

𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙄 𝘿𝙞𝙙𝙣'𝙩 𝙇𝙞𝙠𝙚:
💜 This book wasn't optimized for digital reading which made it tough to read.

Yay ! I love this little book ! It has the right tone, not condescending at all. It explains everything there is to know about gender identity in extreme details so it's all VERY clear. It's one of these books that are just filled with love. It's also funny and agreable to read !

This books is not really for you who already knows all about they's of course, but some parts adress how to be an ally too. You'll just have to skip some pages that you may already know about.

This visual guide is a quick, informative read. Much of the book is in a Q&A format, so I think it would be especially helpful for folks who are not very familiar with the trans community, but would like to know more. This format also provides a welcoming, accessible way for folks to educate themselves.

This! Was! So! Good! As a cis woman, I sometimes have a few gender-related questions, often regarding pronouns. And I'm quite certain this book answered all of them? It was very powerful and informative and so simple!

The author clearly knows their stuff and/or did solid research and there weren't many negatives to me. Here's the two main things that bothered me: 1) the pronoun "fae" was included but when I looked this up for further research, it says this can be seen as cultural appropriation, which I didn't see mentioned in the book. And 2) has nothing to do with the book but the images weren't very compatible yet with my ereader (all the more reason to buy the physical copy when it comes out!)

Recommend this to everyone! Very glad I got to read this.

How To They/Them is a short work that answers top questions about how to use the singular they. It's part fuzzy stories, part disgruntled complaints about inequality, part educational enthusiasm and all confirmation that They/Them is a valid pronoun and it's not going away. This book was obviously written by a They.
It's worth noting that parts of this book are 100% written to trans, questioning or non-binary folks (or others, as gender identity is sometimes hard to pin down), while other sections seem to be directed at cis-gendered people. There's a slight conflict as pains are not taken to keep cis-folks from being offended, but then again, if you're the sort of person who is offended by this book, you might want to reconsider whether or not you're a decent person. If I'm being honest, I didn't love it; not quite my cup of tea. However, I know some folks who would be encouraged and feel loved by this book, and I'd be happy to help get it into their hands.
There are a few features in this book that make me hesitate to offer it to my underage students (notably some phallic drawings), but it still stands as a fun and quirky resource that offers acceptance and thoughtful reflection on what gender even means in the first place.
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