I really enjoyed this book. I thought it was informative, fun, and a great way to explain to someone about they/them pronouns. However, there were a couple misses for me. For one, I wasn't sure who this was targeted at - young teens or adults. And another issue I had was that they didn't really explain that some nonbinary/trans people can ALSO use she/her and he/him pronouns until like mid-way through. I think it's an important distinction to make - that there are nonbinary/trans people comfortable with binary pronouns.

But over all, this book was a great resource and something I wish I could keep in my pocket to hand to people as a 101.

I received this as an ARC in exchange for an honest review.

I loved the illustrations and layout of this. This is a great primer. With books like these I often find they are too short, but this was the perfect balance of information presented in an accessible and digestible way that I think is great for those looking for something to give to people who are new to this subject.

A wonderful guide to the uses of they/them pronouns. The guide was very informative and presents the information in a clear manner. It was a quick read but definitely one that you can refer back to. I also appreciated how the author gives advice on common mistakes and what to do when you make them. I'm really glad that there are books out there like this that can help allies as well as anyone who is questioning their identity. It's a great guide to understand how pronouns can shape the way we interact with and understand each other.

I love how informative, educational, and eye-opening this book is. The author's words are crisp and to the point while also being witty in places. They talk about a lot of important details related to non-binary pronouns, including descriptions of genders, identities, and non-conformation to both. It's an important book that I hope more people will read, especially if they're intent on learning.

P.S. The formatting on this e-ARC was all over the place. Would be something to look into. :)

How to They/Them by Stuart Getty is another book I got to read before its release thanks to NetGalley! It’s a nonfiction, easy to read book about nonbinary, genderqueer and GNC identities, and mostly about they/them pronouns. Once this comes out, I’m referring everyone I know (and come out as genderqueer/n-b/Not A Girl to) to it because it’s such a fantastic resource. It’s a great introduction to they/them pronouns and nonbinary identities for beginners. Also, it has pictures and is very lighthearted which made it so fun to get through!

Sometimes I felt as though it was oversimplifying some concepts, or presenting things in a very palatable way to cis people (often equating “they” with being nonbinary). I think this is because 1) it’s a book about they/them pronouns, and 2) its target audience is people new to the subject. I would’ve liked just a bit more elaboration, but it’s a good place to start. I also didn’t like how sexuality was explained/defined ie. pansexual was defined as gender blind, which is a bit ableist; sexuality was defined in terms of the sex(es) one is attracted to rather than the gender(s). I also felt weird about the author describing themselves as multiple slurs. Slurs and who can reclaim them is definitely a topic of contention in the LGBTQ+ community (and not a topic of discourse I want to bring up right now so I’ll keep it general), and I just feel like it wasn’t a necessary addition to the book.

However, I really loved how there was a section addressing how to talk to children about pronouns: how to explain they/them pronouns to kids, to your own children, and how to approach pronouns as a teacher with young students (hint: don’t put kids on the spot). I think even giving this book to older kids/teens would be really helpful. Also, apparently there have been gender-neutral pronouns in English beyond “they” since the 1700s when an economist proposed the use of “ou”, and in the 1800s someone proposed “thon”— how cool is that?

I wish I had this kind of book when I was growing up. As someone who uses both they/them pronouns along with she/her (and wishes people use they/them more for me, please!), reading this book and the way Getty describes their feelings made me feel so seen. Getty is a genderqueer sapphic, too, which just made me feel extra soft and fuzzy inside, like a warm hug. It makes me feel safe to know that even if other people (aka cis people) don’t understand me or my identity, that my experience is still very much real and that there are people out there who do understand. Seeing some of your most complicated feelings being put into words by someone else— someone who doesn’t even know me— makes me feel real and whole.

CW: transphobia, cisheteronormativity, nudity, homophobic/lesbophobic/transphobic slurs

I love guides like this one. It can be hard for non-binary people and trans people to explain to someone what it means to be non cisgender. Guides like this help relieve some of the burden that often lands on trans or non-binary people to teach others. It also makes it incredibly easy for cis people to learn something new.

This guide had the perfect amount of humor sprinkled into the knowledge it was trying to teach. I loved that Stuart Getty started off with a personal experience because that makes it a little more captivating when you know there is someone real behind the story. I would definitely use this guide to help family and friends who want to learn or struggle with pronouns and other aspects of gender knowledge.

I want to thank Netgalley andStuart Getty for granted my wish of this book!

I LOVE that educational graphic novels like this are becoming more and more popular! This book is all about people who use they/them pronouns. Stuart starts with their own personal story. It's a great way to introduce the subject matter.

The art is simple and matches the material well. There's a great mix of definitions, context, and conversation. There's humor along with the frustrations of living in a society that needs more empathy.

Some famous people who use they/them pronouns are featured. There's a guide on how to be a good ally as well as a guide for people who use they/them pronouns on how best to deal with certain situations. The book ends with a list of resources, both call lines and websites.

I absolutely love this book. You should buy this book and share it with all of your friends, family, and colleagues! I give this book a 5/5.

This is the perfect book to read or to give if you are curious about how to they/them but are afraid of reading a grammar book. Getty uses plenty of illustrations and text that sounds like you are listening to a friend.
This is a very non-intimidating book where Getty talks about their life and highlights the lives of many who prefer to use non-gendered pronouns.
What I really liked was how they handled the questions I wondered but didn't quite know how to ask: how do you know if someone prefers they/them pronouns, how do you handle this question among a group of strangers, what happens if I slip up?
I truly appreciate their time and attention in writing this book. It really has made me feel more comfortable writing without worrying about "doing it wrong".
This is a great book to hand out to help ease tensions and increase awareness of using they/them.

I found this book to be very informative. I did know a little about the topic but it still had stuff to teach me and i really enjoyed it. Since i recently met a group of people who use they to define themselves now i feel like i can talk to many of them more freely and comfortably.
I will be publishing a review for the book when it is releasing.

This was a great little guide to using they/they pronouns. After reading a fictional book where one of the characters used they/they I felt super confused and thought 'How to They/Them' would be perfect for me - and I was right!
I really enjoyed the humour, quirky illustrations and how the author shared their own story. I would definitely recommend this book to all and would be useful to most people I think!

3.75/5 Stars

This has an incredible amount of useful information as a primer for folks who are not familiar with nonbinary people and they/them pronoun usage. I definitely do not want to disregard the fact that this information is important and well-articulated. They go into so much history, but not in a way that takes too long or goes into some less relevant areas (I know it can be hard to cut out things that feel important even though they're tangential!). I also think that the way they use their own experience works really well for the writing style that they have. It also makes the topic seem a lot less heavy, which can be really important for an intro book like this.

However, I did have a couple of issues with the text. The main one was audience. The book is very informal and full of jokes and humor. I would assume that this would be more middle grade or on the younger side of YA. But, there is some information that seems geared towards adults (such as how to talk to kids about they/them pronouns and how to use gender neutral language in the workplace), as well as some sexual jokes that are toeing the line of inappropriate for the younger group that I assumed the book was for. I think that the humor would make it harder for adults to take seriously, which is a shame because the information is so important.

A couple of smaller points: there are also a few times where they used "they" as a placeholder for "nonbinary" or "people who use they" which might be confusing for some people, and I would have liked to see some acknowledgement that some nonbinary people use "she" or "he" a bit earlier on (it is mentioned but only once and a decent way through the book).

All of that being said, I still think this book is a great resource. I would recommend it, probably for teens and parents. I know I critiqued the fact that I was unclear about the audience, but the way that it ended up being written lends itself well to a parent/child buddy read, which is really great.

I was given an ARC from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.

I found this to be an excellent and important guide for anyone who wants to learn more about pronouns and gender identity. It’s really accessible in how straightforward it is, tackles it all with humor and how visual it is. I think it also works as a good reference book to just have on hand. It’s also a very quick read. I can’t recommend it enough.

The eARC had some formatting issues that had jumbled up some of the text, but I got the idea of what the author had intended with the illustrations and visual aspect of it. And I think it will work really well in the final copy. I fully intend on buying myself a copy when it’s out!

As an educator who would like to be more inclusive of my non-binary students, this was a rewarding read. I would strongly encourage this to other educations who aim to be more inclusive both within and outside the classroom. A straightforward and simple read, with good takeaways!

I requested this book primarily because I'm looking for accessible information for my mother, as I recently came out to her as nonbinary and asked her to use they/them (which is proving... difficult). I'm not 100% sure this will work for that, but it is a fabulous humorous resource for younger folks - it seemed aimed at a millennial / gen z audience.

The arc had some major formatting issues on my kindle which rendered parts of the text unreadable -- hopefully, they will get cleared up before publication. Once I accessed it on the netgalley shelf app, I did like the way the text is interspersed with illustrations. It makes it feel more accessible.

I didn't encounter much that I didn't already know from my own research, but there were a few new tidbits. For someone just being introduced to the concept of nonbinary people and they/them pronouns, I think it's a fabulous guide. I also really enjoyed the humor - but then, I'm a millennial. I'm not sure it would jive with an older audience. I do really appreciate that it definitely doesn't give off a scholarly vibe because that can scare people new to the topic away.

How to they/them was a really well thought out book! I really enjoyed the content and found it educational and diverse in content. I think it was written in a way that was extremely thoughtful and yet simple enough to be accessible to a wide range of individuals, which I think is an incredibly important aspect of this book. The only draw back I found was that due to the ebook format, some of the graphics and content didn’t seem to match up as they should, however this shouldn’t be a problem for physical copies.

#NormalizePronouns
This is something that I have actively been trying to do over the past year, including trying to change the habits of friends, family members, and new people that I meet. This is such a lovely, fun, and funny resource that I will be able to direct them toward.

How to They/Them is a great book to help explain and to educate gender fluidity - I might even call it "Gender Fluidity for Dummies (like me!)". I learned a lot about the do's and don'ts of using they/them and the history of gender neutral pronouns in the English language. How to They/Them also provides advice for people who may not be familiar or comfortable with the usage of those pronouns. The succinct concepts are accessible, easy to understand, the graphic presentation is effective, and I am more enriched because of it!

Thank you to the publisher for an advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review

SUCH an important guide for everyone to read. Comprehensive and explanatory, this book can change a lot of minds and hearts.

I learned a lot from this comprehensive primer on gender fluidity and the correct use of pronouns. I would have liked the illuminating sections on the history of this topic presented first up, rather than later in the book - however that's more personal preference than criticism. The tips on how to address others in a respectful way were well-explained and easy to digest and I would recommend "How to They/Them" to anyone struggling with this topic.

I thought I had posted this already? I guess not- I really enjoyed this book, Stuart does an excellent job of explaining they/them and the drawings that go with the story are fun too. I'd recommend this for everyone to read to get a better understanding/introduction into pronouns. It's easily read and digestible, and may be a good conversation starter to bring up w/ others in your life.