[The ARC of this book was provided by the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.]

What I liked:
• This was such a cute (and funny) book!
• This book explains everything from gender identities to grammar and being an ally to trans people, and it’s very easy and fun to read.
• I think “How to They/Them” will be very helpful for cis allies and also trans people who want to start using they/them pronouns.

What I didn’t like:
• “They is a gender identity” – No!!! They is a pronoun, and anyone (no matter which gender) can use it!
• Some of the definitions for gender identities and sexual orientations were… weird. Not completely wrong, but weird.

Thanks for the advanced copy.

Well written, I love the drawings. The layout is excellent, I found myself having to skip back and re read parts so I knew the abbreviations.
This is an important subject matter and the layout makes it user friendly.

Very well thought out educational background of the they/them pronouns and non-binary people. I was happy to learn that the author is from the same state as me and I was able to see small glimpses of people I know in the stories they shared. Highly recommend to all, ALL that are looking for more info about the NB world

Goodreads Rating: 4 stars.

This was a great guide that is perfect for allys wanting to be more inclusive in their language as well as nonbinary+ people who want a guide that they can give to friends and family to help explain their pronouns and identity. It’s a quick read, but packs a lot of blunt info into it through faq’s, vignettes, and visuals (mainly of the doodled type).

Getty focuses mainly on genders and the breaking of the binary system, how nonbinary folks come in literally all presentations, pronouns, and identities, and touches on how biological characteristics and sexual attraction are their own things not necessarily related to gender identity.

Nonbinary had always confused me as an identity before because it has always seemed so broad but indecisive, but the way it was presented here made it a lot clearer to me. It’s not indecisive, it’s choosing not to adhere to the either/or of the gender binary which is a decision itself!

While pronouns are just one part of an identity, it’s a vitally important part, as it’s almost like a second name for a person. When in doubt, ask politely, don’t assume, and make an effort. Grammar and language is always evolving, and this small evolution–a new definition of the words they & them–is something that can help a huge group of people feel seen and understood.

Well, this book is so important. It's very necessary talking about this in an acessible way, the book's language matching with the design and drawing make a perfect message. But I need to addimit that the abreviations make the reading a little bit confuse and maybe it's important to review that.

This was very informative and a great way to educate ourselves on how to respect and support trans people. Definitely a must-read, I really hope this becomes a best-seller cause there's so much to learn still. Some parts were a bit confusing, but I blame the fact that I read an uncorrected proof copy and sometimes the letters were a bit all over the place.

The main reason this is 4 stars and not 5 is cause I expected a bit more depth on certain parts that remained a bit too superficial, but overall I think this is a great book and I'm so glad I read it.

This humorous yet piercing piece is determined to make some real change and bring awareness to this deaf world. This was a two hour well spent.

I became a part of this community three years ago but still, there are a lot of things for me to learn and this book is just perfect for that. It's really educational with child-like illustrations to induce some laughter and giggles, just like when I learned my A, B, C, D's as a child. This is a smart move since we're all still a child when it comes to pronouns. Learning and understanding it would change that. And that is the purpose of this book.

Open your eyes guys and gurls there are THEY, and THEY want respect for their pronouns. Instead of being ignorant and stupid educate your fucking selves, THEY are valid, THEY are humans with feelings and THEY are just asking for you to R-E-S-P-E-C-T THEM and use the right pronouns. It's not hard to replace he & she with THEY, you're just choosing to be a shitty person.

I am very satisfied with this one, I really hope the world would finally change someday and we all would get the freedom to express ourselves, our gender and sexuality without being bullied, shamed and degraded for it. This fight is not just for us but it's for our child, great-grandchild, and their future. We're off to a great start.

*I wanna thank the publisher for providing me with an ARC copy of this book via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review

How to They/Them: A Visual Guide to Nonbinary Pronouns and the World of Gender Fluidity is a gem of a book that is engaging and entertaining as it is important and insightful.

I enjoyed the historical facts and personal anecdotes the author used throughout the book, as well as the line drawings to convey the such an important message in a lighthearted and accessible way, without being condescending or cutesy.

I read this graphic novel / visual guide on my kindle, but I will definitely be buying it in paper copy, because I think that format will do the illustrations justice and keep continuity of flow.

This book / guide should be read by anyone who wants to learn to be a little more inclusive and supportive and to learn the differences between gender identity, gender expression, sex, and sexuality (among other topics).

Thank you to NetGalley and Sasquatch Books for a copy of this book. The thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.

This is a wonderful book for anyone who wants to educate themselves on the concepts of gender fluidity. As a cis-man who uses he/his pronouns, and as someone whose first language attributes gender to nouns, adjectives et cetera, I find it interesting how English is majorly a neutral language, and I love how broad the idea of “they” can be because of it. The author tells us their own personal story with becoming they and walks us through different situations in which we can be more inclusive and, basically, not act like a jerk. I got a copy through NetGalley on Non-Binary Pride Day and it really warmed my heart – I picked it up right away. I was really grateful for the opportunity to read more about an ENBY experience ad educate myself. Also, the illustrations were amazing!

I know that linguistic structures are hard for us to deconstruct the older we get, but after all, as my favorite quote from the book says: Language is constantly evolving. Are you?

How to They/ Them: A visual Guide to Non Binary Pronouns and the World of Gender Fluidity by
Rating: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐/5

Thanks to NetGalley, I got an ARC for Stuart Getty's upcoming book (out on September 29). And let me tell you something. This is one of the books that everyone should read. The title alone is pretty self explanatory but to make it clearer: this is a book (or like an introduction since this subject cannot be narrowed only in one book) to the use of they/them pronouns by people outside of the gender binary.

I’m really happy that I got this ARC on a time when I am myself questioning my gender identity. Reading this book helped me clear out some terms that otherwise made me confused. Being in a country where gender neutral pronouns do not even exist, this book also helped me realise that I’m not crazy, there are people who feel the same way I do out there and I just happened to find myself confined by a gender restricted language.

The book does not only teach you how and why you should not assume people’s gender and include they/them in every day life in a didactic way, it does so in an entertaining way and provides examples and historical context. There really isn’t a better place to start learning more about this subject than this book.

It’s also very inclusive and does not only address people who use/ think about using those pronouns but basically everyone: teachers, parents, business owners and basically all decent human beings who are willing to learn and make this world a safe place for everyone.

I'm so excited to add this book to my Library reference collection! This book is a perfect primer for anyone who wants to correctly understand or use they/them pronouns. Bonus: it includes a bit of pronoun history and somehow manages to be funny as heck. I didn't expect to giggle so much reading this!

4.5/5
It’s important that we know how to be inclusive not only by our actions, but with the way we communicate with other people. This graphic novel explains in charming way how we can use they/them pronouns for non-binary folks and other people who might not found he/she accurate as their identity.

I happen to share the same vision as the writer: we should try our hardest to make this world a better, safer place for younger generations that don’t fit into the mold. We should constantly educate ourselves because language, gender identity, gender fluidity and life in itself are always evolving. What worked 50 years ago might be the opposite of what we need right now. So we have to stay with our eyes and hearts open.

That being said, to me the art style + the prose work perfectly because it feels like you’re just talking to a friend, and at the same time, it’s being informative. It explains a lot of terms that we often see in LGBTQ+ books and the way it addresses them is absolutely respectful.

I’m really happy to see that more queer authors are getting the attention they need and I’m glad I got the chance to read this book right now! I would totally recommend you to pick this up it you’re an ally but also, if you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community.

This is an graphic novel illustrating the use of they/them pronouns, when to use them, and other topics on the subject.

While it is a good introduction to the subject, I found it a little dry. The illustrations were cool and it is a book that does a great job at covering the topic, it didn’t capture my interest most of the time. However, it is short so you can read it in one sitting.

Fun and fresh visual guide to they/them, a brief history lesson, and ways to navigate the world and cope with difficulties for nonbinary or gender nonconforming people. I was distracted by the puns and jokes at times, but looking back it made this nonfiction resource more memorable if it had been dry and traditional. Highly recommend for anyone who uses they/them, are thinking about using they/them and who don’t use they/them...everyone should read this book. Thank you NetGalley and the publisher for the eARC in exchange for an honest review.

I read this book as an e-ARC via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. Thank you so much to NetGalley and Sasquatch Books for the opportunity to read and review this story.

I’ll preface this review by saying that I am cisgendered and I use she/her pronouns. I am one of the highly privileged individuals who’s gender identity and expression (and sexual orientation) has never caused me discomfort for danger. My reading of this book is coming from the perspective of someone who is cis, privileged, and seeking to support and uplift GNC folks.

This book is wonderful. Truly, deeply, powerfully, wonderful.

Concise, witty, and the perfect blend of humor and data this is a great book to serve as an intro to gender identity. I was already aware of many of the topics discussed here, but I also learned some new things — did you know they has been used as a single person pronoun since 1375?!

Even though this work is short, there’s a lot of ground covered and it feels like everything has time and space for exploration.

Again, as a cis person reading this I really loved getting some examples of ways I can support the GNC folks in my life. I cannot wait to purchase a copy of this and share it with EVERYONE I know.

This book was incredible. Not only because it's informative, kind, funny and it's got a great rythm, but also because its author wrote this book for cis people both ignorant on the matter and people part of the LGBTQIA+ community that (always) need to learn more and better.

As a cis she/her lesbian, reading about gender is really important for me. I've read a lot LGBTQIA+ books (fiction, non fiction, illustrated guides like this one, etc) on sexual orientation and whatnot, and gender regarding trans women and men, but not enough on my non binary friends and their struggles, opinions and daily fights. Truth is that even if I didn't read much on the matter (and that's totally my fault for not searching hard enough), I also feel as if the non binary topics are not that present on books no matter the genre (as it might be, for example, on papers), and "How to they/them" came to fill that space (more like one of the spaces! We need more books on non binary topics and folks! They're always welcome!).

Not only I encourage everyone reading this review to read this book, but also double encourage you to do so if you feel like you're really ignorant on non binary folks' issues or have lots of questions. Stuart, the author, has a section on FAQs that were really useful for me-- I for example learnt that the non binary folks fall on the trans spectrum (since we live in a binary-- binaried, kinda? world) from my non binary friend like a couple of weeks ago, and it was a doubt I've had for a long time now. Well, guess what? This book covers it! And many more things! I'm 96% less ignorant on non binary people after reading this book!

(That last part reads as if I'm making fun of it, but I'm serious. There were only a couple of topics I already knew on this book. The amount and first-hand quality of the information is legit)

For real though, it's helpful for cis people and I bet it is for non cis people as well. Stuart invites us all to learn but also accepts us all under their wing and tells us a little about LGBTQIA+ history, a little about their (never ending) journey, a little about everything. We get the chance to be educated while having fun and also shines a light on us all: language is changing, we're changing, society is changing. Hopefully we won't have to wait until ten generations have passed to be a kinder world, but also an empowering, free society in which we'll be able to be authentic, happy and proud without having to explain ourselves.

For any LGBTQIA+ friend reading this: we want you here. You have a family within the LGBTQIA+ community. Our arms are wide open (and we give good hugs!)

What an amazing and educational guide to the pronouns They/Them, non binary, lgbtqiaapq, how to talk to younger ones/family members on pronouns , call in or call out when being misgender, dump gender tropes......

Because we're building a better world for the next generation. Or rather, maybe they're the ones building it?

The author uses they/them and I find it so informative even with the beautiful illustrations to grasp.
By using and acknowledging "they" we help challenge gender norms and learned social behaviors for every one.

Totally recommend this book for EVERYONE and wish it receives a wide audience, but especially in schools.

Special thanks to the publishers via netgalley for the eARC.
Expected publication date September 29 2020

are you ever unsure how to ask for someone's pronouns? do you feel like you don't know how to talk about someone, who uses they/them pronouns? this little guide will help you out!

4/5🌟: first of all, i'm glad that these kind of guides exist. i kinda wish they wouldn't have to, but it still is a great chance for people to educate themselves after all! i want to underline that this book was written by a person, who uses they/them pronouns, any other way would not have been okay! while i think the topic is super important, i didn't enjoy the tone of the book that much. it was too humourous for me. this is a very serious subject, people get disrespected and mistreated for being trans every day and a few funny lines here and there wouldn't have been
a problem, but the tone in general just goes too far for me. the guidelines are very intervowen with the author's personal experience, which i, as a non-binary person, couldn't always relate to. i think it would have been best to rather stick to objective matters. one more thing that bothered me was that the author doesn't explain that not every non-binary person wants to be called the word "enby", i wish they would have included that! nevertheless, this might be a good introduction to some, who have no idea how to handle all things non-binary and pronouns! it is so worth reading, please educate yourself.

thanks to netgalley i received an early digital access copy in exchange for an honest opinion.

This book is a great guide to they/them pronouns and non-binary genders. I love the author's sense of humour and how readable this book is. It would be a great place to start to learn how to support friends or colleagues who use they/them pronouns, or prepare for when you meet someone who uses them. It could also be a useful introduction for someone who is questioning their own gender and/or what pronouns feel right for them.

The author themself uses they/them pronouns, so the book is full of real life stories and examples. I liked the way they included answers to the questions people always ask. There's also a useful section on talking about pronouns and gender with kids, for parents/family/teachers.

I highly recommend this book to anyone considering reading or gifting it.

THIS BOOK WAS AMAZING. SUCH A DELIGHTFUL READ.

I wish this book was being taught at schools. It's enlightening, funny, and above all, significant. This book teaches us many, many things including:
- understanding gender fluidity
- explaining the difference of sex, gender identity, gender expression, sexuality, and more
- understanding how to support non-binary and genderqueer
- gender identity in other cultures and parts of the world
- AND SO MUCH MORE.

Gosh, this book is so precious. Everyone should be reading this, most especially straight and cisgender people.

And of course, kudos to the author and the illustrator! You made this book memorable.